miss_jaclynrae Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I'm 5'10 so I've never had issues with height I just find it a little silly...and feel bad for manlets Why? I have dated shorter men than myself, I actually am currently dating someone shorter. Granted, I am 5'10 so that might not mean much
Author O'farrell Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Why? I have dated shorter men than myself, I actually am currently dating someone shorter. Granted, I am 5'10 so that might not mean much How tall is he?
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 How tall is he? 5'8 And let me add: I rock the heels frequently.
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I honestly find it hard to tell confidence without an interaction. Otherwise yes, that would definitely be the first thing. Ask a man the same thing about a woman and it will more than likely result in something physical as well. Of course it has to be physical without an interaction, which I assume is the intent of this thread. If you ask a woman what she thinks "confidence" means, she'll more likely than not spout off a list of physical characteristics and behaviors.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Of course it has to be physical without an interaction, which I assume is the intent of this thread. If you ask a woman what she thinks "confidence" means, she'll more likely than not spout off a list of physical characteristics and behaviors. Well that is ridiculous. Confidence has nothing to do with physical characteristics. C'mon now, give us a bit more credit than THAT to know what confidence is.
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Well that is ridiculous. Confidence has nothing to do with physical characteristics. C'mon now, give us a bit more credit than THAT to know what confidence is. And behaviors...the only thing you can draw about someone's confidence without interaction is through his external behaviors...his facial expressions and demeanor, how he stands and walks, how he interacts with others... These are all physical observations...that's what I meant...
Snowman219 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Why? I have dated shorter men than myself, I actually am currently dating someone shorter. Granted, I am 5'10 so that might not mean much <-----6' 1" QFT stubs ROFLMAOBBQ Get a real man!
iris219 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 The first things that any human notices about any other human is their height, weight, ethnicity and age. What matters most is how much importance the observer puts into those primary characteristics. I'm not really sure how much importance women put into the weight category. Meaning, is an obese man less attractive then a normal weight guy? What is known is how important height is and how women have equated height with safety, because you know, humans are killed by tigers everyday. Which does make me wonder, if a 6'0, 300 pound fat guy (no muscle) would be more attractive then a 5'7 guy who obviously works out with very easily defined muscles. This is true. I’ll scan a room for guys who are tall, thin, white, and over 30—every time. If he has these four things, there’s a very high chance I’ll be attracted to the guy. I'd date a guy who didn't have these aspects, but I wouldn't notice him in a crowd. I basically look for the male version of myself. As for your example, I’d probably notice the 300 lb guy because he’s big and hard to miss, but I wouldn’t want to date him. I wouldn’t notice the 5’7” guy at all. My mind blocks out short guys, probably the way yours does overweight women. (Before I get attacked, I’m tall (5’9”) and have had bad experiences dating shorter guys.) And behaviors...the only thing you can draw about someone's confidence without interaction is through his external behaviors...his facial expressions and demeanor, how he stands and walks, how he interacts with others... These are all physical observations...that's what I meant... I notice demeanor immediately. I'm attracted to men with long, thing fingers, who use their hands expressively. I notice things like tone of voice, facial expressions, and how he carries himself. Being drawn to these aspects is more important to me than finding the guy physically attractive. 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Holy chicken nugget, I said the wrong thing. I meant FOREARMS!! Biceps and those Hulk Hogan physique do nothing for me. I have a thing for forearms... the length between the hand and the elbow. Hope that clarifies! That's funny - so do I and I always thought it was probably quirky of me. It's not the first thing I notice or anything but I LOVE nice forearms. I don't care one bit about "gym body" and never have, though I certainly can admire a well developed physique it doesn't "move" me. Car? Who cares? 2
Brit Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 *****Smile, and importantly if the Smile matches the reaction of the iris and pupils. Down to earth and easy going, confident, but not boisterous. After that is determined, easy on the eyes would be the bonus point that may result in a possible interest. 1
Radu Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Well that is ridiculous. Confidence has nothing to do with physical characteristics. C'mon now, give us a bit more credit than THAT to know what confidence is. You seriously believe that ? How old are you ? Maybe you've never seen how a pro-athlete carries himself in public.
mesmerized Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Height and muscles both...if both are there I'm smitten. Height without muscles doesn't excite me as much as muscles without a good height. So I guess muscles are more important! I want my men manly looking. 1
TooHonest123 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I think overall style... Hair, clothes.. And then body structure, swag( how he carries himself) can look average but if he walks into the room like a boss, that usually catches my attention. ****Takes notes.....definetly walking into everyroom like a boss from now on...i hope i dont get fired ...jk hahaha
Els Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 First thing I 'notice' is probably the overall physique (inclusive of height, weight, and muscles), and then the face, if I'm close enough to see it. I don't think I've ever been attracted to a man at first glance, though, so what I 'notice' first is pretty much moot. As for your example, I’d probably notice the 300 lb guy because he’s big and hard to miss, but I wouldn’t want to date him. I wouldn’t notice the 5’7” guy at all. My mind blocks out short guys, probably the way yours does overweight women. (Before I get attacked, I’m tall (5’9”) and have had bad experiences dating shorter guys.) Just putting it out there - I'm not attacking you, and I think we should all want what we want, but this pretty much explains to me why you claimed that there are 'absolutely no single men, at all' around your location. I was still racking my mind wondering how there could be a place with absolutely no men walking around without a woman on their arm or a ring on their finger... but if you don't notice the men below 5'9" or below 30 at all, that might make sense. 1
PAWPAW Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 What makes a man attractive? Eyes (the window to the soul) and his personality make up the rest. 1
amaysngrace Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 His face his body his pants his left ring finger 1
somedude81 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 This is true. I’ll scan a room for guys who are tall, thin, white, and over 30—every time. If he has these four things, there’s a very high chance I’ll be attracted to the guy. I'd date a guy who didn't have these aspects, but I wouldn't notice him in a crowd. I basically look for the male version of myself. I do the same exact thing. Though I don't care about ethnicity as much as the others. Or I have several ethnicities that are preapproved and as long as the girl is one of those, she's fine. Though my preference is white. As for your example, I’d probably notice the 300 lb guy because he’s big and hard to miss, but I wouldn’t want to date him. I wouldn’t notice the 5’7” guy at all. My mind blocks out short guys, probably the way yours does overweight women. No, I don't block out overweight women. I don't want to date them, but I don't pretend that they don't exist. I seriously hope other women don't do this. But it would explain things in my life if they did. (Before I get attacked, I’m tall (5’9”) and have had bad experiences dating shorter guys.)You've been attacked by tigers and the short guy couldn't defend you? What experiences have you had, that can be connected to the guys height? 1
amaysngrace Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I'm surprised nobody said "package" Um...I did 1
FitChick Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 If someone is halfway down the block walking toward me, I notice height and weight and movement. As he gets closer, I notice his clothes, then hair and face.
Leopard Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 First thing I notice is how he is dressed. Then his face (I like dark rugged and chizzled men, so I would notice those first). Then height. 1
iris219 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Just putting it out there - I'm not attacking you, and I think we should all want what we want, but this pretty much explains to me why you claimed that there are 'absolutely no single men, at all' around your location. I was still racking my mind wondering how there could be a place with absolutely no men walking around without a woman on their arm or a ring on their finger... but if you don't notice the men below 5'9" or below 30 at all, that might make sense. There are very few single men over 30 in my area. There's no doubt about that. Under 30 is out of my age range, so, no I'm not scoping them out, though I might go as young as 29. It wouldn't do me any good to notice short men because they generally aren't interested in me. You've been attacked by tigers and the short guy couldn't defend you? What experiences have you had, that can be connected to the guys height? I've dated shorter men in the past and they have expressed dissatisfaction with my height. They made it clear that they would prefer that I was shorter. Taller men don't just grudgingly accept my height; they actually like it. 1
wheream_i Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I've dated shorter men in the past and they have expressed dissatisfaction with my height. They made it clear that they would prefer that I was shorter. Taller men don't just grudgingly accept my height; they actually like it. That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Not on your part but on theirs. I'm a shorter guy and I love tall women! Who would choose to date somebody and then complain about something they can't control? 1
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I've dated shorter men in the past and they have expressed dissatisfaction with my height. They made it clear that they would prefer that I was shorter. That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Not on your part but on theirs. I'm a shorter guy and I love tall women! Who would choose to date somebody and then complain about something they can't control? This is just projection from shorter men...they assume that you are going to dismiss them for their height, so they preemptively dismiss the taller woman for being "too tall" so that they can be the ones to reject and not be rejected. It's an ego thing. For others, it's just a safe assumption to effectively narrow down the dating pool. I personally don't consider dating anyone significantly taller than me for that reason.
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