warrenorabbits Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 My approach seems to not be working. Cute picture, check. Good grammar/spelling, check. Shirtless photos, not check. Ask a leading question, check. And with that ... 20% response rate at best. I'm not getting discouraged because I've heard about the deluge of mail that women get, but I'd like to improve my aim a bit. Any advice on how to write an initial message?
Enema Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 20% response rate is pretty good for online dating. General tips for photos: - No photos of cars, booze, fishing - Photos should be smiling - Ensure you have photos other people have taken of you - They need to be current General tips for opening messages: - Keep it short - Make it personal, say something about their profile - Tease them, or say something funny - Instead of asking question, guess something. ie. instead of "What do you do for a job?" you say, "Let me guess... you look like, a teacher!"
CarrieT Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 20% response rate is pretty good for online dating. ^^^ THIS ^^^ Seriously - even we women who are "easy" don't have anything close to 50% success rate. I think you are doing fine and it IS a numbers game, after all.
oaks Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 And with that ... 20% response rate at best. That's a great response rate! Even if you're good looking etc you're not going to be to everyone's taste, plus some of those other profiles are women who are already seeing someone or fake profiles (from the sad guys who want to prove something about how many messages girls get or whatever... if you read here long enough you'll know what I mean). I have a theory that it doesn't really matter what you write so long as you get over the "no txt speak, no offer of sex, more than just telling her she's cute because she already knows she is" hurdle that gets you an instant delete with many women. Anything beyond that and, if she's actually available and looking for a date, she'll look at your profile... and if she likes your profile it doesn't matter what you wrote - she'll be in touch. So, biggest thing you can do to improve: better photos. Well lit, in focus, taken outside etc. Next best thing: have some interesting interests.
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