warrenorabbits Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I'll be brief as I can. I met her on OKCupid and things started out promising. We chatted for a while (big mistake, no need to lecture) and then set up a tentative date. That didn't work out, then I had my wisdom teeth removed. Up until that point, everything was okay. Then she started avoiding me and acting strangely. I confronted her, she played the fool, then we set up a date, she behaved strangely during, said to call her back, and there was no reply. Ever. Being a man of dignity I should have said "good riddance" and moved on. But not me! I'm still thinking about her a year later. I even sent an ill-advised, ill-worded "hey, wanted to see how you were doing" message that of course got ignored. I think if I had some closure about it I could just close this door. It's the fact that she showed such an interest in me that got me all wound up -- I know that other girls would find the same qualities, but I don't tend to date very often so it absolutely brightens my world when I find a girl that does. And then there was the sudden unexplained flakiness. Now I'm in town for a month and a half before I go to Japan for at least a year, and since I won't find anyone serious here, I've been moody about her. I just wish that the door could be opened or shut, and not remain half of each. ... sigh. What think ye?
Ami1uwant Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I have a feeling you told her that you are going to Japan for at least a year.....when she heard that she pulled back. If she didnt know....that happens....you have to put it behind you...there could be tons of reasons and they have nothing to do with her. She could have found another guy she liked more, she could have just gotten out of a serious relationship and you were the first one---then she got nervous with dating again, PMS maybe....who know. You arent gong to get an explanation with this.
Author warrenorabbits Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 No, I never told her. This was about a year ago. However, she did know that I was going to university 200 mi (300 km) away. In fact, she said something to the effect of "I know you're going to find some hot girl over in school and forget all about me." But she was so wildly inconsistent the rest of the time that I really don't know. And I don't think it was another guy because ... I Facebook snooped for a few weeks after and she wasn't in a relationship. Oh ... and she also said, when I confronted her, "I liked you, but you remind me of a guy I used to date that broke my heart and that really scares me." I've heard that one from several girls. Is it a classic "I changed my mind" synonym that I'm out of the loop on? If so ... why was she so interested at firUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH.
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