blindesided Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 So I have been dating this guy for about a month now & it is the most confusing situation I have ever experieced. I am hoping fellos LS'ers can help shed some light for me. Met this guy - I did the intial persuing to an extent. We went out a few times & get along great and have great chemistry. He lost his job about 3 weeks after we started dating so I know that is a major stress on him & I try to give him his space. Problem is - he seems very passive in the pursuing of me. Which contradicts what he says. Every time we are together - he says I am the best thing that has happened to him - he is so lucky to have me in his life - he is falling for me - he cant stop thinking about me......on and on. Sometimes it feels like "smooth talking" and other times it feels genuine. The problem I have is that the communication when we arent together seems lacking - I feel that I intiate most of the plans. I dont have a big problem with that since my schedule is super busy & I am a single mom so he doesnt always know when I have my son. But sometimes it would be nice to have him actually pursue me for a change A few times we have had plans to get together & he has cancelled (always seemingly a legitimate excuse) I just hate the not knowing feeling of where I stand with this guy I have other guys pursuing me but I would never say the things that his guy says to me if I wasnt interested. So what should I do? Should I be the one to lay it on the line and tell him I dont feel this situation is working for me and break up with him? Or just let it play out and start dating others and treat him like the occasional booty call?
MsDeb Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 (edited) It wasn't until the last sentence of this post that I figured out what's going on..."treat him like the occasional booty call" Of course he's going to tell you all that stuff if you're giving it up! It's time to move on. Edited July 14, 2012 by MsDeb spelling error
daphne Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 So what should I do? Should I be the one to lay it on the line and tell him I dont feel this situation is working for me and break up with him? Or just let it play out and start dating others and treat him like the occasional booty call? Why give him exactly what he's looking for? I would move on and let him know that you two are looking for different things. When a guy is interested in something more serious, he doesn't blow hot and cold. At least never in my experience.
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