alexa137 Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 ok been dating this guy for almost a month, and i am trying to wait the 90 day thing to wait to have sex-anyways, he invited me to Las vegas in Sept. we meet june 22nd, the trip is sept 7-9. ok so my question is should i have sex before the trip or during the trip? i mean because we will be in the same room, and possibly the same bed! we have had our 1st "makeout" session of dry humping last night! lol! funny b/c i am 41 he is 39! but what if theres no spark, compatibility or just not to my liking? you know what i mean? i cant decide! ive never been invited on a mini vacation or anything like this before with a guy! help!
thatone Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 why are you assuming it will be bad before anything bad has happened?
Author alexa137 Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 that wasnt the question! he is willing towait, maybe hes not like mostmen who are dogs????!! like you possibly, maybe you are younger???! SMDH!
oaks Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 i am trying to wait the 90 day thing to wait to have sex Why? What purpose does this serve?
Author alexa137 Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 alot! my mission is to find a man that wants to do everything but sex and respect me and want to be with me for me , b/c i am fun etc.... not gonna make this a long story 1
oaks Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 alot! my mission is to find a man that wants to do everything but sex and respect me and want to be with me for me , b/c i am fun etc.... not gonna make this a long story Since it sounds like there will be sex eventually, what's wrong with wanting someone who wants the whole you, rather than the you without the sex? (I'm not criticising... I just don't get it.)
oaks Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 but what if theres no spark, compatibility or just not to my liking? you know what i mean? That's the risk you take by investing all that time and not checking out something that might not work right for you.
oaks Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 the sex will happen, its just not important to me anymore, Ahh. It didn't come across that way in your first post. I thought you were concerned that you might find out that the sex wasn't good. Fair enough, if you're not bothered about it. too old too crazy! Hehe!
William Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 Congratulations. This the first thread where I used the 'select all' button in order to more quickly delete off topic and inflammatory posts. The good news is no one got permanently suspended. Good mood Saturday.
FitChick Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Tell him you want your first time to be special and that you want to wait till you are in Vegas and then go wild, maybe never even leave your room. Start talking about the things you will do to each other then to give him something to look forward to. 1
ja123 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 You're a grown woman. He's a grown man. Neither of you are virgins. He clearly likes you a whole lot, or he wouldn't have invited you to Vegas. You've been dating for month: assumption seeing and talking to each other regularly. My response? Forget the "rules". Enjoy yourself. Do it before!
Author alexa137 Posted July 19, 2012 Author Posted July 19, 2012 well gave in with all the making out etc,, yesterday and no bueno! now i feel strange around him! i asked if he wanted to and he said no to wait, but we all know thats not true! lol i think we both was more curious, i guess its just weird for me ,since with all the other guys i wasnt in a relationship with them before i had sex and we established one before! wow! but it was my first time with a heavier man(i prefer slim and tall) hes kinda short and fat! , i know it really shouldnt matter because he soo sweet to me! does anything and buys anything( that gets a little but annoying also though) i feel bad, i mean dont get me wrong its nice since i dont work but i have never had to rely on a man or anyone to help me out in my financial struggles the past 3 years! so it was a weird feeling, kinda of felt like making out with a blob! lol i also had 3 glasses of wine haha honestly to me sex is not important i mean hell im almost 42 and things will start looking ugly and sagging soon! but i know it is for men, but he wasnt disappointed!
newmoon Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 imo wait for the trip and do it then, or not. whatever you have decided make it clear to him before you go to vegas. it's unfair to go on the trip if he is expecting sex and you;re not going to indulge that. be fair and let him know you're either up for it or not during that time. he sounds like he waited because he likes you and going away together will help test more than just sexual compatibility, so have a good time!
KungFuJoe Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 yes AND YES You wanted to have sex with and are emotionally attached to a blob? Have you always liked fat, slimy, inanimate objects, or is this something new? 1
ScienceGal Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 (edited) Is this the guy from your other thread where you talked about him smelling like onions and making you not want to give oral sex? Edited July 24, 2012 by ScienceGal
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