darkmoon Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I look at it slightly differently. Why is it so important that she thinks that she has to control me? The initial phone call happened while we were in the same office and she overheard my end of it. I told her the full story as soon as we hung up. J was in the office several times while I was doing her mortgage and W was in the same room every time (we had a big office that we shared). I made sure when I set up an appointment for J to come in that W was going to be there. There was nothing going on between J and myself. Why can't W understand this and accept it? As far as I am concerned she was the one being completely unreasonable. I have never tried to control her and tell her who she can and cannot see so why should she be able to control me? The way I see it the only thing I did wrong was not tell W that I was communicating with J after the mortgage was complete. . wow! J was already winning - look at the marital discord you've had sorry I think J ought to just go, from your life and mind - she's trouble
nofool4u Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 You can stand your ground and hold onto the friendship. Your wife will have to understand. His wife doesn't have to understand d!ck. His wife need not put up with her H seeing another woman behind her back, especially a woman he has been intimate with. Besides, this was a woman that called her husband claiming she was going through her black book and calling people from it. Bulls***. That was an excuse to contact someone she had been with. He is married now. There is no friendship here. What they had went beyond friends. 2
nofool4u Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I didn't lie. I just didn't tell W about it. I have business lunches all the time that I don't tell W about. Big difference, you haven't slept with all your "business" lunches, have you?
nofool4u Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Because I consider her a friend. I never had a romantic relationship with her, and would never consider it. Is there anything wrong with a guy having a female friend? Wrong I had dated J casually You did have a romantic relationship with her. You "dated" her. Would never consider it? Uh you did more than consider it, you did it. No, nothing wrong with having a female friend, as long as you never dated her, slept with her, whatever. You can't claim you'd never consider it after you have already done it.
Furious Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Because I consider her a friend. I never had a romantic relationship with her, and would never consider it. Is there anything wrong with a guy having a female friend? Does this so-called friend of your's know that your wife doesn't approve of this friendship. Have you told her about your wife's objection, and if so why isn't she respecting this and still contacting you.
Furious Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 He didn't tell J his wife has a problem with her because he likes the "attention." He KNOWS this woman digs him and has known it from way back when. He also likes that his wife is jealous. Alice I think you've summed it up perfectly. 2
bikinibeach Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 (edited) This is the relationship we had so it didn't seem strange to me. When she was between boyfriends she would contact me. We would talk, do activities together (dutch treat) etc. If there had ever been a relationship with J I would have felt differently and understood W's concern. I see! So she respects her boyfriends enough not be chummy with you when she is in a relationship, but when she's not, she can call you and be buds again regardless of the fact that YOU are married?? She has no respect for your wife and you condone her behavior. How horrible. I once dated a guy who had a sort of ex that sex didn't work with so they became "friends". She always gave me the cold shoulder and they spent alot of time together alone, even when I expressed to them both that it was negatively affecting our relationship, she refused to stop calling and asking him for innocent 'favors'. That's what these women do. Personally, if I need realtor advice, or a lightbulb changed, or my car looked at, I pick up the yellow pages. Not dial up every sort of ex I can think of, married or not. So tacky. Anyway, she ruined our relationship and he let her, always taking her side as the innocent party. I dumped him and he relied on her for emotional support after...that is until she got a boyfriend and stopped speaking to him out of respect for her new guy, leaving him essentially "friend"less. That was when he tried emailling me and begging me back, telling me how stupid he was and how much this was torturing him. My new bf and I laughed over those emails- that never received a reply by the way. So yeah, she knew what she was doing was wrong and disrespectful, but because he didn't have morals or values, it didn't affect her, so regardless of the fact that she knew it was hurting me, she continued on anyway. I hope your wife finds out and dumps your ass. Then you and your "friend" can have all of the lunches you want....until she finds a boyfriend! Edited July 16, 2012 by bikinibeach 3
stupidgirl22 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Yes you chose your stupid friend over your wife. J knew the score and is enjoying the fact you have chosen her and not your wife. I really won't to vomit! Sick.
stupidgirl22 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Is your wife still with you? What are you.doing to sort your marriage? Question. Who is more important. J or w? I hope your wife finds better. You don't sound like a husband that even wants her. This sounds so terribly cruel for.her.
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