Jason02 Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 So I've posted here what happened with me and my ex. Short recap. We were together for 8 years. Took a break for 2 months because she felt unhappy with the routine of her life and us. She also said she felt unloved by me, which I know I acted like a jerk a bit before we went on break. We got back together About 2 weeks ago and things have been different. She said he wants to take things slow and see where we end up. That kind of hurt because I was planning on proposing later this year. So I'm trying to take it slow and trying is the key. I felt like I have been for the last two weeks n she hasn't. So I confronted her about it last night. I told her I was trying it it felt like she wasn't. That I felt scared to get hurt and that I can only try so much with this feeling of getting hurt and her not trying before I'll get frustrated. And what did she say? That I was right she wasn't trying as hard as me. That it's hard for her to go from doing whatever she wants whenever she wants to having to think about someone else's needs. That she felt like I was attacking her with this talk. And I told her I wasn't trying to attack her. I just wanted her to know how I felt. I am willing to take it slow. What hurt the most is that she said she doesn't feel the same. The love head over heels passion she felt whenever she was with me and the missing me when she wasnt with just wasn't there. We ended the night because it was late n she wanted to be some sleep because she was working the next day. Did I do right by letting her know how I felt? Or did I just ruin my chances of trying to make it work again?
MsDeb Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 You can never go wrong when you tell the truth. If she'd be honest with you, you'd have it made.
Balzac Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 (edited) Eight year investment, truth was the only way to go. Why worry about a proposal at this point? Be vigilant, be honest and be prepared to walk away. After 8 years it's too late to play games. She may never be capable of committing in the way you need her too. Good luck. Edited July 14, 2012 by Balzac I'd be really nervous in your boots. Just sayin.
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