22s Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 Me and this girl have become friends over the course of a few months. Eventually I developed feelings for her and stupidly told her this instead of just asking her out. Right after I told her, I apologized saying that I didn't want things to be awkward between us. She said that I had nothing to be sorry for and that the situation really wasn't awkward... And that's it. Its been more than a week and we've had a few conversations, but she never said anything about liking/not liking me more than friends. Should I bring it up again, just ask her out, or is she trying to let me down easy?
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 You're already done...It's a no, you struck out. Ignore it If you want to stay "friends" which basically you finding a way to be closer to her.
january2011 Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 Ask her out anyway. But just once. And take it as a lesson learned that when you tell a girl that you like her, ask her out on the spot, don't wait a week. For the record, in my opinion, telling a girl that you've developed feelings for her is not a stupid thing to do.* But you do need to take action based on those feelings. Otherwise, all you've done is emotionally dumped on the girl in question. What is she meant to do with that unless there's a call-to-action in there such as asking her out on a date? I'm assuming that you are both fairly young. Therefore she may not be astute enough to respond to your emotional openness with some of her own, so that it is very clearly stated where you stand rather than the speculation that her behaviour is a strong indicator of disinterest. *In relationships, I would encourage you to continue to be emotionally open and honest about what you feel. It is a sign of maturity.
Author 22s Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 Well... something deep down is telling me to do what you said Jan. , yet I feel like I should just let it go and never mention it again as Ninja suggested. The thing is, I want a concrete answer and not just some inference that I have based on what happened. I think I'll just ask her out (once) because that seems like the only sure fire way to know whether she feels the same way. Thank you both! 1
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