Vintage79 Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 A month or two ago, I met a girl online - we sent a few e-mails back and forth and plenty of texts. At some point, she asked to connect with me on Facebook - I didn't feel comfy with that, so I told her as much. She followed that with, "I don't date guys who hide things on Facebook". I thought it was weird, but ok- whatever. I never met the girl, and communication stopped. Today - about a month after we last had any form of contact, she texts me. Why would she do this given her statement of, "I don't date guys who hide things on Facebook"? Obviously, she may still be thinking of me (and clearly was today when she texted me, unless she texted the wrong person) - which is a bit strange given that we never met. What should I do? I never had any issues with this girl, other than perhaps superfluous texting. Given our correspondence, I would have liked to meet her, and truthfully, I'm still single and not really dating anyone...the issues were entirely on her end. Thoughts? Text back? Ignore?
Author Vintage79 Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 By playing the field - meaning dating multiple guys? I'm fine with that right now, I never met her, and I've gone out with several women since we stopped corresponding, and have a few second/third dates lined up in the next week or so - I just haven't found the right girl yet, so I call myself single. If what she had said before is true - she is looking for a relationship, but that obviously doesn't mean she can't have some random fun en route (I am). If she's playing the field, though, why would she contact someone she dismissed a month ago (unless she's not having much luck)? She's very attractive (assuming her pictures on Facebook are current) - easily a 9, maybe better - so it shouldn't be hard for her to get attention if she wants it - obviously, though, she may simply be an attention whore and looking for more male attention. She mentioned that she's more of a loner-type, and consequently, doesn't go out and party all the time...she may not have a long enough list of male suitors...
phineas Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 respond with "who is this?" It's funny how a woman's "dealbreaker's" change when she runs out of options. And when I say deal-breakers I mean lame excuses to blow you off. How old are you & what did she text? If it was something lame like "hi" ignore it. If she was asking how you were and actually trying to communicate then ask her what she wants. You really have got nothing to lose. 1
truth_seeker Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 My guess is she has nothing going on, and is coming back to you to see if you're still available.
Author Vintage79 Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 I'm tempted to respond with, "who is this"...it forces/requires more commitment/interest from her to continue. Anyhow, the content in the message wasn't much more than "hi" - although that's how she frequently would start text conversations - essentially testing the waters to see if I will/would respond, and if I responded, she would become a texting fiend...I'm guessing her style hasn't changed in a month. As for age - I'm 33, and if I remember right, she's 28. As for evolution of deal breakers - that's kind of what I'm thinking - she's struck out elsewhere and now is contemplating dealing with a deal breaker. On some level it speaks of desperation...which is definitely not attractive.
Author Vintage79 Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 My guess is she has nothing going on, and is coming back to you to see if you're still available. That's definitely my guess as well - no current guys in the hopper. In reality, though, is that a big deal if we never met and we simply corresponded via e-mail/text? What should I do? I haven't responded to her text yet, although if I'm going to, I should probably do it in the next few hours.
phineas Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 That's definitely my guess as well - no current guys in the hopper. In reality, though, is that a big deal if we never met and we simply corresponded via e-mail/text? What should I do? I haven't responded to her text yet, although if I'm going to, I should probably do it in the next few hours. I honestly would ask her what she wants (nicely). I really have little patients for women who waste my time before turning me down then come back later on.
thatone Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 I honestly would ask her what she wants (nicely). I really have little patients for women who waste my time before turning me down then come back later on. I would pretend to be busy and string her along for another week then switch to ultra aggressive mode upon first meeting to get laid, but that's just me. table turning is a fun exercise .
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