smint Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 My ex left me after 7 years of relationship(my first relationship) out of nowhere.It has been 4 months right now,on 12th march he left me.He cut every chance to contact him,he stopped responding on text messages,on my calls,sometimes he would respond on something,but most of the time no,i was suffering so much,I went to his door two times and second time I came to him he said"if you come once more I am not going to let you in",he was cruel,and treated me like a crap!!!Then I heard from friends that he is dating some other girl from other city,and that she was on his birthday(where I wasn't invited)...Last time when I tried to contact him,about a month ago,I called him from public phone(not to see my number),and when he heard my voice,he just hung up!!!He lost respect for me!!! I was sad and I was destroying myself,I spent hours on this site and other forums,I was even thinking to go to therapist,but then I told myself-why would I go to therapist and continue living like this,crying on the streets,not eating,not sleeping etc and he is with someone else,so I started thinking rational.I organized one trip with friend,we had great time,I did my exams and started eating and sleeping normally. Then 2 weeks ago he sent me mail,like we used to send each other,when we have something funny,he sent me mail with some funny pictures and jokes,then once on facebook chat he asked me what's up,and we had casual chat,then on this Tuesday he sent me message on facebook"Hi,how are you,have you finished faculty???",and then on Wednesday he sent me text message on my phone"Hi,how are you,when are you going to graduate???"!!!I didn't respond on anything. So what does he want right now???Why is he doing that???What does it mean???
Snakechammah Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 After 7 years, he dumped you cruelly. Disrespected you, ignored you and left you for dead. Now, answer your own question, do you really want someone like that in your life? Move on, ignore him, delete his emails and text. Give him a taste of his own medicine. Have some self-respect and wash the creep right out of your hair. Good luck! You deserve much better than him. 1
Author smint Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 After 7 years, he dumped you cruelly. Disrespected you, ignored you and left you for dead. Now, answer your own question, do you really want someone like that in your life? Move on, ignore him, delete his emails and text. Give him a taste of his own medicine. Have some self-respect and wash the creep right out of your hair. Good luck! You deserve much better than him. Yes,I don't want him anymore,he just has found him a rebound and didn't care for me anymore,and that just shows how selfish and insecure he is...But what I don't get,after 4 months,he is the one who initiates contact now,like it is not enough what he has done to me,mind games or I don't know...
k100danny Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 When people break up they have to justify it to themselves first, this can result in people being cruel, not answering your calls, and acting like you don't exist, this i think is some type of defense. I mean some people just aren't very ncie people but most people have a conscience and don't like to hurt other people. He will feel bad for what he did but at the time maybe didn't want to confront it, sooner or later he will have to. He may be checking you are ok or checking if you are hostile towards him to ease his guilt but nobody will know for sure. I take it from your post you are quite young? 7 years is a long relationship for anyone but when you are young, still at school , college it is a very long time and most of your young life, Maybe he wanted to try new things and felt that it didn't have a future and decided to leave. I seriously think without much more info on the relationship it would be hard to give anymore advice really other than this person left you, you are still young and trying to figure out what you want in life. I am not talking down to you saying you are young but it's just my way of saying, you have a huge portion of your life ahead of you when you are better able to make choices and you know what will suit you. Find yourself then find your soul mate. 1
Samilia Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 Yes,I don't want him anymore,he just has found him a rebound and didn't care for me anymore,and that just shows how selfish and insecure he is...But what I don't get,after 4 months,he is the one who initiates contact now,like it is not enough what he has done to me,mind games or I don't know... The rebound is probably over. Maybe he plans on using you for sex or hang out, not sure. What i know is that I wouldn't touch this guy with a 10 f pole if I were you. 1
Author smint Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Yes,he probably wants to ease his guilt,or rebound has failed.I heard that that girl has child and he is constantly driving from this place to her city,and his parents are angry about that I am 26,and he is 28,and she is also 28.He is one pig,he left me,blaming me for stupid things,I had to hear from other people that he has somebody new,and after all he is contacting me right now!!!How selfish is that!!!
Samilia Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Yes,he probably wants to ease his guilt,or rebound has failed.I heard that that girl has child and he is constantly driving from this place to her city,and his parents are angry about that I am 26,and he is 28,and she is also 28.He is one pig,he left me,blaming me for stupid things,I had to hear from other people that he has somebody new,and after all he is contacting me right now!!!How selfish is that!!! Inconsiderate that's for sure. He ignored your feelings then, ignoring them now still. Personally I would send back a "Don't contact me again, and btw f*ck off" and that'd be rude and that'd feel so good. 1
Author smint Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Hahahahhahahahhaa Samilia,your posts are making me laugh yes I am thinking about answering like that,but maybe it is better just to totally ignore and don't answer him anything,maybe it's better,because he will see that I am still angry if I write something like that.
Samilia Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Hahahahhahahahhaa Samilia,your posts are making me laugh yes I am thinking about answering like that,but maybe it is better just to totally ignore and don't answer him anything,maybe it's better,because he will see that I am still angry if I write something like that. mmh I know you're right, but it would feel soooo good. Ah.. fine.. let's be reasonable and ignore him. Btw.. block his number, block his facebook, he'll get the message even faster. I cannot wait for you to meet a nice guy 1
Author smint Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Hahahhahaha thank you so much,I have already met someone,but we will see what is going to be I haven't blocked him on facebook,maybe I should,but I am also thinking like that,somehow to show that I don't care if he could see my profile,and me to see his,that"don't care"I think that hurts the most.But I am fool,I am sorry for him,he is going to destroy his life,I know it is not my problem anymore,I could never be anything with him after what he has done to me,but I just can't figure out how and why he is idiot like that!!!
Samilia Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 If you block him that shows him that you kicked him out of your life, I wouldn't leave a doubt about that one. I hope it works out with the new good, and congrats on graduating, I'm going back to school soon myself too, but I am 38 1
Author smint Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Great!!!It's never late!!! I haven't still finished faculty,I am waiting for professors to come back from vacations!!! Maybe I am childish,but I want first to put some pictures from trip on fb,where I am in clubs and with a lot of people on pictures!!!
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