DollWelch Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 How many days does it take a man to schedule a second date? Usually, it is within the same week? Or 2 week period? I ask this because, normally, I do hear back from the man I am dating a few days after the first date. But with this particular person, it is different. I had a good time on the first date. Soon after, he asked me out on a 2nd date and I pleasantly accepted. A couple of days later, I touched base with him and he mentioned that he'll let me know when we'd schedule a 2nd date. That was about 5 days ago and haven't heard from him since. Is it safe for me to assume that he's moved on? I wanted to have meet up with him for a 2nd date and discuss the idea that I would like to remain friends -evidently because, I'm not looking to (seriously) date at the moment due to timing + I might be moving in the coming months and he is going abroad for a while too. I wanted to at least discuss it with him, so that I don't end up leading him on. But now it looks like he has. Why leave a woman hanging like this? At the very least, tell it to my face. Or text or call. Am I overreacting? Should I say anything or simply let it go?
Ami1uwant Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I had a good time on the first date. Soon after, he asked me out on a 2nd date and I pleasantly accepted. A couple of days later, I touched base with him and he mentioned that he'll let me know when we'd schedule a 2nd date. That was about 5 days ago and haven't heard from him since. Is it safe for me to assume that he's moved on? Am I overreacting? Should I say anything or simply let it go? Each person has their own pace....never assume they are only dating you. Im not sure of your ages ...nor of his plans. Its possible he is going out of town or on vacation starting this weekend. He may have had dates schedules with other women this week so he wants to date them all once before he decides which ones to date further. He could be bysy with work.... He could just not feel it for you.....He may think you area nice person and hes on the fence with you because he didnt feel a spark with you, Its possible he had date 4 on say Tuesday while you had date 1 last weekend...so he is farther alone with this other person. He may want to see where this goes so he is keeping you on the back burner for now. If it doesnt work out...then he calls you. You talked to him...the ball is in his court...so its up to him. Dont be waiting by the phone for him to call....keep looking....if he calls you then you could decide if you want to date him again.
Camarina Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I don't recommend chasing a man ever. The right one will pursue you.
YellowShark Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 If a man asks you out on a date and then doesn't follow through his interest level is zero. Move on. Forget him. With cell phones, texting, and email, no one is too busy to fire off a 30 second msg to make plans or explain why they can't.
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