Unplugged Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Okay, so let's start off by saying I am young. But I am in love. I know it's love, I have never felt this way before. So until you read my story I won't tell you my age. And you be the judge on if it love. It all started on 12.27.10 yeah I'll admit at first it was nothing more than me being bored and wanting to make a new friend. But as I got to know him it developed into more. It flourished into a love. Now before you go off thinking oh it was probably a puppy love type of thing when I told him I loved him right away because it wasn't. It wasn't a perfect relationship, but I mean when do those really excist. So I guess I'm going to get into my story now. It all started with a promise. I live in one city and he lived in another, they are not more than 5 minutes away by car but still there two different lifestyles. Mine being living in the ghetto and him not so much. I remember at the beginning of are relationship he would say to me "your so beautiful" and when I'd deny it he'd simply reply with "well to me you are" I remember the first time I talked to him on the phone, it was Christmas eve. I had meet him a few days before that and I was still getting to know him. I remember how I trusted him with my little secrets, I remember laughing and smiling and I don't think I remember ever feeling so excited to talk to someone like I did with him before. I could have talked to him all night but all good things but come to an end. Every day after that I hung out with him. then he asked me out on the 27th. Of course I said yes. So me and him went out, we had are ups and downs. There was this one girl who was jealous of our relationship and tried multiple times to break us apart. But he told me that we had something that she could never break and when I asked him what it was he took my hand and said and actually connection. Then 5 months into are relationship I was going thru a rough patch. He stood bye me tho. He always knew how to make me smile and to cheer me up. This is the first time he told me he loved me. Me and him where having one of those long talks most people dread, but I oh so very much loved. He told me that he's never meet a girl so happy before, he told me that he never told anyone this before but that he loved me. I was scared. Nobody had ever told me this before. So I kind of avoided it. But as the days went bye, he still told me he loved me an he would always say I don't expect you to say it back until you feel it to. There's no rush he would tell me. So finally after a month from him telling me he loved me. I realized I loved him to. Not only did I already spend 6 moths with him, but he makes me feel speacial and different. It wasn't about just one of us in the relationship but it was about both of us. I really loved him. He left for puerto Rico the next month, for 3 months. When he came back I found out something that broke my heart. He cheated on me :/. Well after that things went downhill. I stayed with him. For a whole nother 6 months. So now 5 months after everything. We did eventually breakup. But he's always on my mind, everything reminds me of him. Writing this brings tears to my eyes. And even my own room brings memories of me and him. I am 15, and no matter what any of you say I am in love. I'm experiencing the pain of heart break. How do you deal with this. To make it worse he still pretends to care an I keep believing his lies. There's so much more to this story but I'd be writing for ever. I'm currently talk to him as just friends but last night at 200 in the morning he called me and said I can't be friends with you, I love you and not like a friend love. Your mine and I'll stop at nothing to have you back.
january2011 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 You need to block him and go "no contact." At your age and (I'm assuming) in your first serious relationship, the break-up seems very devastating. It doesn't necessarily get any better as you get older and with subsequent break-ups, but the first one seems to sting the most for many people. Don't let him draw you into toing and froing or a pretend friendship filled with lies to feed his ego. If he really cared for you, he'd let you go so that you can heal. 1
Author Unplugged Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 You need to block him and go "no contact." At your age and (I'm assuming) in your first serious relationship, the break-up seems very devastating. It doesn't necessarily get any better as you get older and with subsequent break-ups, but the first one seems to sting the most for many people. Don't let him draw you into toing and froing or a pretend friendship filled with lies to feed his ego. If he really cared for you, he'd let you go so that you can heal. Yes I know this who be the smart thing to do, but it's hard to bring mysel to do this. And yes this was my first serious relationship. He has the biggest ego and thinks no matter what I'll come crawling back. I just need help, I need to stay strong
january2011 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I suggest focusing on other areas of your life like family, friends, summer break to keep your mind occupied. Plan lots of fun activities for yourself. Basically, you just keep yourself going every day and in time, the pain will be almost non-existent. And if you find yourself thinking too much, write it all down in a journal or private blog.
Author Unplugged Posted August 8, 2012 Author Posted August 8, 2012 Well I write alot, and he's been in Florida all summer so I don't really think about him. But he finds his ways to get to me... Which I don't like at all. Cause when he wants to talk to me he blows up my phone, my inbox, my oovoo, EVERYTHING. but when I want to talk to him it's a whole other story
lovehurts82 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Hun, just as others have posted, you need to get up, keep yourself busy and don't contact him. Don't take his calls.. dont take his texts.. pack up anything material that reminds you of him and pack it away. My relationship with my current ex began similar to this. I called it "shelf sitting". It's like you're a little doll and you sit on his shelf until he wants to bring you down to play. But then when he has something else going on, he puts you back up there.. keeps you at a distance.. might walk by a few times and talk to ya here and there, but it's all on HIS time. I did this for 7 yrs with a man that I thought was my soulmate.. He broke up with me a week and a half ago and has already posted on Facebook that he's engaged to another girl. A girl who decided to rub and hold his hand in the backseat of a car while I sat on the other side of him. He's stringing you along, just as mine did. He would let me go so far.. I'd just start seeing anyone else.. then he'd be right back there, deciding he's ready to be "with" me now.. then as the weeks and months went by, he'd never make good on his word. As I've been through it myself, don't be put on a shelf. You're worth far more than that. YOU need to make the calls that affect your life. Not let someone else manipulate you into being their beck-and-call girl. TRUST me.. things only get worse with these kinds of guys. Stay strong, but stay away from this guy. If you need to talk, feel free to message me. 1
Author Unplugged Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 I don't know how to message you, but thank you soo much. I admire what you just said to me. This is the last if it. I may still be sad, but I refuse to let him make me his self girl
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