RedRobin Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 I miss waking up everyday with someone I love. Watching the sun come up over his face. Smiling and talking about how we are going to spend the day. Feeling his body next to mine. Having a shared life purpose and goals. My ex-H and I would take turns spooning each other all night and were always holding hands and touching each other when we went out. I miss that affection. I have a circle of close friends and family that I can give and receive love towards... plus my dog. It is the feeling of intimacy (physical and emotional) that I have with someone I care about that I don't get with my friends/family or my dog (ha ha).
carhill Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 I recall, after my father died, my mother going through the grief process and, concurrently, feeling relief that she no longer had the burden of caregiving. She missed the marriage, her only for life, but soldiered on as that was her style. Other interests and pursuits replaced the giving and interaction she had experienced in the M. For her, apparently, 'missing' was person-centric and not relationship-centric, as she would remain single for life. A relationship-centric person would have grieved and found a new mate, as happens much of the time. Oddly, having dealt with her death, a divorce and now the cat's death, I feel the same way and have been doing similarly, filling up the social 'space' with interests and pursuits and friends. I feel no impulse nor overwhelming desire to be in a relationship or marriage again. Is that permanent, as it was for my mother? Unknown. Everyone is different.
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