Lonely Ronin Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 I've been pondering this simple question a lot lately, and come to a shockingly simple realization. I miss the joy and complete contentment of being around someone that makes me happy, and that I make happy. What about you? Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 Seeing the face of someone who was as glad to see me as I was to see them...given how I grew up, this really meant a lot to me... And sex. Link to post Share on other sites
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 I miss the simple things. Being completely comfortable around another person is a huge one. Mostly just the company though, and the ease of enjoying it without all the stress of trying to impress the other person. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
WonderKid Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 Idk probably just having someone to talk and relate a little with I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
without Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 Loving someone and knowing they love you back. is the best part. Holding eachother. And sex. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Teal Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 Being in love with someone who knows and loves me, not someone who thinks they know me well enough to love me (one month). Sex between human beings and not sex between a stranger and a resource. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
The Tallest One Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 I miss the daily contact. The close physicality/ cuddling, holding hands, sex. I miss always having someone to spend weekends with and sharing our thoughts feelings and desires. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 I miss sex, daily contact of sharing thoughts and feelings, cuddling, having someone that loves me, cooking together....I miss it a lot. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 sex. Physical contact. Holding hands. Having someone to lean on. Having feelings reciprocated and knowing there's someone who likes/loves you as much as you to them. And like you said OP, being with someone that makes you happy. Link to post Share on other sites
iris219 Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 Knowing you have someone who will be there and support you through difficult/stressful times. I’m sick of dealing with anything on my own. I really miss that feeling of security that comes when you are in good, stable relationship. Knowing someone loves you and loving that person as well. That "being in it together" feeling. It's the two of you against the world. Cooking together. Having someone to come home to and share your day with. Having someone to spend weekends with. Having someone to watch movies with. I don’t enjoy watching movies alone. Curling up on the couch together. Not feeling lonely. Even when I’m having fun with friends, the loneliness is there. I miss sex as well, but the emotional aspects are the most difficult. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 Yes "the two of us against the world" feeling too. Sigh. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonely Ronin Posted July 13, 2012 Author Share Posted July 13, 2012 Not feeling lonely. Even when I’m having fun with friends, the loneliness is there. I've been feeling this was a lot my self lately, and I really hate it. Link to post Share on other sites
MaxNoob Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 Having someone to come home to and share your day with. That's what I miss the least. Link to post Share on other sites
without Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 I miss the simple things. Being completely comfortable around another person is a huge one. Mostly just the company though, and the ease of enjoying it without all the stress of trying to impress the other person. Its sad how some people don't like that part. they just like the start of the relationship. But i like all of it. esp when you settle down and don't have to constantly impress the other. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 Yes, I actually miss "the comfortable" part the most. I am always anxious during the initial phase :/ Link to post Share on other sites
iris219 Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 I've been feeling this was a lot my self lately, and I really hate it. I'm not sure this feeling ever completely goes away. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lonely Ronin Posted July 13, 2012 Author Share Posted July 13, 2012 I'm not sure this feeling ever completely goes away. I find keeping my mind occupied makes it go away. It really only comes to the forefront when i'm at home and have nothing to do, or when i'm out with friends and the evening is winding down. Link to post Share on other sites
iris219 Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 I find keeping my mind occupied makes it go away. It really only comes to the forefront when i'm at home and have nothing to do, or when i'm out with friends and the evening is winding down. Staying busy is crucial. I'm content most of the time because I focus on being productive and doing things I enjoy. I too feel it at the end of the night or when friends from out town are leaving because then I'll be alone. Some people flourish in relationships. I feel like I'm my best self when in a relationship. For people like this, I think the loneliness will always be there to a degree. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
The Tallest One Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 I like the spark in the begining, but I also especially like the comfortable part as well. I like being able to open up to someone and share deep conversations. Noing someone out there cares about you and thinks about you and misses you is huge for me. Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 I miss the happiness, the feeling of knowing you and this other person are together, even if you are just in front of the TV. And the sex of course as well, but that's another ballgame. Link to post Share on other sites
tigressA Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 I miss coming home to someone/having them come home to me. Opening the door or hearing/seeing the door open and having that feeling of "Yay, the person I love best in the world is here, and I'm happy". When your eyes meet and you can feel the smile spreading across your face, unconsciously. In my last relationship, even when I was pissed at him, when he came home/I came home I couldn't help but smile, even laugh sometimes. I was just happy he was there. Link to post Share on other sites
Brit Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 I do not miss relationships. I miss one. I miss all the laughing, so easy to laugh. I miss being free, but one, lying on the grass, looking up to the stars (young and well lets just say flying) and pretending we were alone and gravity caved in and we were falling. I miss his smile. I miss his flaws as much as I miss all that was great. I just really miss him:( Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 many of the comments in this thread could be repeated over and over again and it still wouldn't sound redundant to me. i suppose it's true what they say about love and its cliches... this thread reminds me that i'm not alone in this. /ty Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 As more of a giver than taker, I miss the proactive joy of giving to a specific human being. With friends, it's more of a general and subdued giving. Interestingly, that same dynamic is what has impacted me since my cat was killed a couple of weeks ago. I miss the routine of him waking me up in the morning after a night of 'catting around' and fixing him breakfast and grooming him. Otherwise, relationship-less is pretty peaceful and satisfying. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 As more of a giver than taker, I miss the proactive joy of giving to a specific human being. With friends, it's more of a general and subdued giving. Interestingly, that same dynamic is what has impacted me since my cat was killed a couple of weeks ago. I miss the routine of him waking me up in the morning after a night of 'catting around' and fixing him breakfast and grooming him. Otherwise, relationship-less is pretty peaceful and satisfying. Aww! I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your kittie. I won't ask how it happened. Hopefully he wasn't in too much pain. Hopefully you will want to find another pet. I can't imagine living without some kind of animal companion. Link to post Share on other sites
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