Necris Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 (edited) This is similar to life alone thread but anyway any tips on how to stop thinking about women/relationships/sex/etc? It would help ease my mind alot if I can do this. Just imagine being able to simply not care (damn those hormones) it would make being alone so much more fun (It seems I'm going to never have a relationship ever in my life and be a virgin anyway so might as well be happy), I don't have to feel bad that I go to dinners and movies by myself or anything just be happy with Friday nights playing videogames or whatever I do on Friday. Edited July 13, 2012 by Necris
carhill Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I remember when I was your age, perhaps older, and still 'waiting' and it was always on my mind. Solution was getting married and divorced.
WonderKid Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I do a lot of stuff by myself. I'm content with it. When I'm home by myself, I live with roommates and they are a couple. So you can imagine I'm the odd one while they're having a good time and stuff. I play lots of video games or write. Nobody wants to be alone though. But I'm cool so far.
without Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I'm no guy but I wish there was a way I could stop myself from falling in love and be ok with it.
WonderKid Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I'm no guy but I wish there was a way I could stop myself from falling in love and be ok with it. I never been in love Kinda don't want to because people seriously take advantage of that
Jimbo143 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 This is similar to life alone thread but anyway any tips on how to stop thinking about women/relationships/sex/etc? It would help ease my mind alot if I can do this. Just imagine being able to simply not care (damn those hormones) it would make being alone so much more fun (It seems I'm going to never have a relationship ever in my life and be a virgin anyway so might as well be happy), I don't have to feel bad that I go to dinners and movies by myself or anything just be happy with Friday nights playing videogames or whatever I do on Friday. First thing you need to do is to stop feeling sorry for yourself. Get up off the couch and go join a gym, sports team or a cycling class. Get your AZZ out there and improve. Become a better man little by little everyday. The goal is focus on bettering yourself because once you become the best man you can be you will naturally attract women. Get some hobbies besides video games. Those do absolutely nothing for you. You are wasting your life playing in a fantasy world that does not exist. You need to realize that life is hard as ***** and nothing will come easy. You need to fight and fight until you get what you want. Go out and take it. "Venus favors the Bold" 2
without Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I never been in love Kinda don't want to because people seriously take advantage of that Yes you're right. But I can't help it, If I spend time with someone and start to like them alot I fall for them.
Emilia Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I remember when I was your age, perhaps older, and still 'waiting' and it was always on my mind. Solution was getting married and divorced. That didn't cure me unfortunately
utterer of lies Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I'm no guy but I wish there was a way I could stop myself from falling in love and be ok with it. Bull****. To quote a cheesy poem by Alfred Tennyson: I hold it true, whate'er befall; I feel it, when I sorrow most; 'Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all.
El Brujo Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 There are a lot of things I do to take my mind off the opposite sex. Making things out of wood or metal... writing science fiction... fooling with my ham radio... hiking in the hills... building a model airplane... tending the trees in my garden... stuff like that.
without Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Bull****. To quote a cheesy poem by Alfred Tennyson: I hold it true, whate'er befall; I feel it, when I sorrow most; 'Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all. Hmmm that may be true. But I'm tired of getting hurt, either they leave me or they don't love me to begin with.
utterer of lies Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Hmmm that may be true. But I'm tired of getting hurt, either they leave me or they don't love me to begin with. Giving up will not improve anything.
without Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Giving up will not improve anything. Yes, you're right.
Author Necris Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 (edited) First thing you need to do is to stop feeling sorry for yourself. Get up off the couch and go join a gym, sports team or a cycling class. Get your AZZ out there and improve. Become a better man little by little everyday. The goal is focus on bettering yourself because once you become the best man you can be you will naturally attract women. Get some hobbies besides video games. Those do absolutely nothing for you. You are wasting your life playing in a fantasy world that does not exist. You need to realize that life is hard as ***** and nothing will come easy. You need to fight and fight until you get what you want. Go out and take it. "Venus favors the Bold" I actually have gone to the gym and while it has helped me physically (I went from not being able to do 10 pushups to save my life to bench pressing over 230lbs (I know its not ultra-impressive or anything but its better than what I was doing before)) I still have zero ability to attract women, but becoming stronger has gave me more respect among other guys. I love video games though they take away the stress and worry from life for a period of time, so I can't give up on them. My other hobbies include watching anime and scifi movies, reading, and modding videogames, I do a little hiking as well so yeah I'm pretty nerdy, nerdy women I noticed are usually hard to find, and when I do find them they are uninterested in me as well (its been my observation that shy nerdy girls are usually uninterested in shy nerdy guys), and they are pretty rare, usually taken, or unnattractive (my standards are lower than most guys I know but I still have some standards). Anyway I'm just wondering what are some tips on trying to not think about women, sex, or relationships. If I stopped thinking about those things I would feel alot better. Edited July 14, 2012 by Necris
sid3 Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 The question isn't why can't you stop. Why would you want to? This should encourage you to risk getting rejected, sneered at, laughed at, and belittled as much as possible. You know, the efforts females never experience because they fall back on the old adage of Men should make the move to avoid the very reasons I listed. Then wonder why they are single. My point is, you are never going to get what you want without ever taking the risk of accomplishing your goal(s). Until you get over fear, you will make posts like this about the fear of being, oh so lonely. Which is worse? I have never met someone successful that didn't take risks and sacrifice at least something to achieve what they were after only to become stronger in the end. In this case, your fear of rejection and taking action to determine the course of your dating life. I agree with 6.7. I'd add get out of your comfort zone. It's ridiculously easier to meet women than it is to stop thinking about them. Look around, they're everywhere.
Author Necris Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 The question isn't why can't you stop. Why would you want to? This should encourage you to risk getting rejected, sneered at, laughed at, and belittled as much as possible. You know, the efforts females never experience because they fall back on the old adage of Men should make the move to avoid the very reasons I listed. Then wonder why they are single. My point is, you are never going to get what you want without ever taking the risk of accomplishing your goal(s). Until you get over fear, you will make posts like this about the fear of being, oh so lonely. Which is worse? I have never met someone successful that didn't take risks and sacrifice at least something to achieve what they were after only to become stronger in the end. In this case, your fear of rejection and taking action to determine the course of your dating life. While shy, I do actually talk to and approach women (its not like they'll ever approach me anyway) so its not like I'm waiting for women to approach me and sweep me off my feet or whatever, problem is my rejection rate is literally 100% and no I'm not just asking out the "hot" ones, women in general no matter where I go or who I talk to aren't attracted to me I just don't have that special gift, so rather than waste time thinking about it I need to find ways to stop thinking about it.
Author Necris Posted July 14, 2012 Author Posted July 14, 2012 They rarely approach any Man. Ever, and your are not any different than any of us. It's the same fear we have they avoid in order to keep their fragile ego in tact and excuse it under the guise of a traditional role. And they call us sexist? Go figure. Oh I know that, only men at the tip top of the totem pole will probably get women chasing after them I only know few men like that so I don't feel bad, its just the way it is. Though also when I say women don't approach I'm really not talking about women being so bold as to ask a guy out, but just simple things like flirting I've actually never seen, at least directed towards me, but that's okay too its just the way it is. Look, no one ever has a 100% success rate. Just because we don't does not mean we don't have to stop trying. Right? I don't know what amount of effort you put in to get a 100% rejection rate in a day to come to that percentage, but it's not enough. It should be enough to develop the confidence to to bring it down to 98% and so forth. Ideal is a 50% success rate if people are honest. There is not one guy out there that has never been rejected in their life and faced that initial sting of failure. Reminds me of the quote in the movie Shawshank Redemption. Get busy living or get busy dying. 100% success rate is impossible so that's not the goal. I'm just wondering why no women seem to be interested in me at all, ever. I guess I'm just too socially inept or unattractive. Also I don't know what you mean by effort but trying too hard isn't going to help it'll just make me look more desperate, I noticed guys who can get girls don't seem to be putting much effort into it, it just kind of "happens" for them. So its best to just stop thinking about it...somehow.
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