mortensorchid Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I had been preoccupied with my friend from the theater telling me that I am this man's dream woman and she wanted to play matchmaker to me and him many months ago. She dropped the ball in my lap when she said "Be brave and ask him out." I was kind of bent out of shape about this, because if she said she was going to do the matchmaking then she should've DONE the matchmaking. But a few weeks ago we had a chat or two while doing set build/strike, so I felt like I got to know him a bit. Alright guy, but then due to other comments here on the forum, some said "If you want something to happen make it happen yourself". So tonight I was on Facebook and saw he was on, sent him an IM we had a brief chat. I had asked him to be my spy, in that I was about to take my mom and dad to the play that weekend and I was hoping that the subject matter / language wasn't going to be too offensive to my elderly parents. He told me it was alright, and it was. I asked how his mom and his daughter liked it (as he brought them that weekend as well), he said they liked it. Then I asked what he was doing that weekend, he said he was getting ready for his vacation in a few weeks, then he said he was going to bed. I said good night. He's not interested, life goes on. But it's ok, better to find that out now than sit around wondering.
Snakechammah Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 When I was younger, I listened to the "make it happen" advice and took risks, and ultimately made a fool of myself - over and over again. The older I get, the wiser I became in love. It all boils down to one basic thing. If the man wants you, he wants you. He will take the trouble to initiate contact and do all the wonderful things that men do when they are in love. It doesn't matter if it's a shy bookworm or a sword-wielding knight, if he is attracted, he will make the move. We let them chase us. Yes, it is the 21st Century, but genders remain the same. We play the damsel, the men plays the hero. Let him have the glory of the chase. The prize is sweeter when they've put in all the effort. I'm sorry this happened to you. Maybe try a different approach next time? You'll never be rejected if you don't ask. Lure him using flirty actions, eye contact and impactful choice of words, make him ask you out. If he doesn't, it's his loss. Move on to a better target. Don't be bummed, there are heaps of fishes out there! Good luck! 1
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