projectgemini Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 My ex broke up with me four months ago, due to communication issues from both parts, and we argued frequently before the break-up. It was done at the spur of the moment, and I am still hurt by how he handled the situation without knowing that I was going through some tough family situations, which I didn't feel ready to share with him. After the breakup, many things happened, and when he realized that I was going through difficult time, he was trying to be there for me. But I was never fully able to trust his intention. Whenever he ran into me, it was always him reaching out to me, and at some point, he suggested going for dinner together. So we did, but I found myself being still guarded more or less. But we would still argue via text messages. At some point, I tried to tell him that I wanted him back, but he didn't want anything more than a friendship. I felt that I was being played, and finally put my foot down. He saw me again on campus and was trying to approach me, but I ignored him. Same night, I told him via text message that I don't want to stay friends because it will never be a true friendship, and how I still cared about him and respected him to try despite what I had to go through, and that being not friends is the best scenario for me, and how I am no longer interested in pursuing this. After sending him that final text message, I soon felt relieved, but as time went on (this has been more than two weeks), I am beginning to realize that I still miss him a lot. Do you think I took a drastic measure, and there's no way to revert this situation? Please let me know. I am just really confused, and not sure if I did the right thing. Thank you.
Svet74 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 He told you he just wants to be friends right? well if thats not what you want then maybe you should try to move on. I dont know what else to tell you.
salmagundi Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Its generally far easier for the person doing the dumping to be friends than the person being dumped. Both you and he need to respect the fact that for you, all being his friend will do is keep you from moving on. This is not to say that you guys can never be friends, it just means you can't right now, because this friendship would be one-sided. He gets the benefit, you just get pain. When you are over him, on the other hand, then maybe you can approach real friendship on a more equal footing, if you even still want to at that point. I think if he respects you he will respect this too.
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