Cytochrome c Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 So I'm 25 and in about a month and a half, I will be moving to New York City to start a PhD graduate program in chemical engineering. I will be getting paid to do research for the school too so in a sense, it's kind of like a job as well. Just by looking at the degree requirements, I can tell the next 4 years are going to be really academically demanding; my last 2 years of undergrad pretty much wrecked my social/dating life and I have a feeling I'm really not going to have a lot of time to date or have a serious girlfriend. Realistically, the best I can do is explore a casual relationship. New York City has a lot of beautiful girls, but I've had friends who lived or went to school there and they all say it has one of the toughest dating scenes in the world; you have to compete with Wall Street investment bankers and day traders, wealthy European tourists and foreign exchange students, Brooklyn hipsters with their own bands, art galleries and so forth. It can be really hard to out-compete those guys for girls. I used to do OKCupid and I got a few dates and even ended up hooking up with 2 girls on it way way back. I got a new account and out of curiosity, I did a search for girls 18-29 in NYC looking for casual sex. There's a huge list that pops up and it still loads more whenever I hit the bottom of the page. However, how can I make a profile that's casual-relationship oriented? I here that the vast majority of girls think "creep" and ignore any guy who has "casual sex" in their "looking for" section. Should I leave the "looking for" blank? When you're looking for dating or a girlfriend, you usually have to write a lot about yourself. How do you design or format your profile for girls who just want to hook up? Short-and-sweet or just the same? Or other styles? Also, how would you message these girls? I never do the stupid "ur hawt wanna baaaaaang?" kind of messages, but do girls looking for casual hooking up appreciate traditional messages? Or is there a specific style? Should I be upfront? Finally, just one thing I noticed. When I did the search, yeah a lot of cute girls appear. However, the vast majority of them list themselves as bisexual, which means I'd probably have to compete with other guys AND girls. How tough is the online competition for girls in big, densely populated cities like New York? Anyway, I'm sure more questions will arise. Thanks for the help!
Author Cytochrome c Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 Any ideas? Just another question I thought of; what does "looking for activity partners" mean on OKC? Does that mean someone to literally just go out to wine-tastings and gallery openings and such? Or is it a euphemism for sex and they're just to embarrassed to admit it?
Author Cytochrome c Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 Does anybody have any advice on this?
Author Cytochrome c Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Does anyone have any ideas or experience with this?
Author Cytochrome c Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Maybe my question was too specific? Has anyone had any dating experience in New York City? Is it true that the competition for women in NYC is extremely tough? Has anyone had any experience with OKC just for hooking up?
Author Cytochrome c Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 Seriously? No one has any experience with casual sex on OKC? Dating in NYC? Anything?
Bob_Funk Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 You aren't going to get casual sex online. Not unless you look like an underwear model or are into 300 lb. cougars. You're probably better off just paying for it.
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