ZhaoZilong5 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Just curious, how likely is it for LDRs to reconcile compared to local relationships? I guess it would depend on the problems, and the problem was obviously distance. Who knows, I'm willing to now obviously, but because my ex met another guy and will probably date him, I'm going to have to go NC or super LC for a while. In my ex's words, I was perfect for her. The only problem was distance which probably led to some G.I.G.S. I probably won't even care if I reconcile or not in the future, but my curiosity is still here. :-P It's not a bad place to move to at all, and I feel a need to get out of my state or at the very least my town. In general, I would think that the "pro" is that both parties were very willing to endure that hardship for whatever original reason. The "con" would be of course that both sides have already gone through it and know how difficult it might be again. Since I'm willing to move, I'm thinking that it's personally more about re-attracting from long distance than being in a LDR if I were to reconcile. Overall, I think it's less likely under most circumstances, even though local reconciliations are also rare. Again, this is just a philosophical question. I already know I have to cut contact with my ex and move on regardless, so don't think that you might give me false hopes or steer me in the wrong direction with your honest answers. I'm curious because I never really see people talking about reconciling in terms of LDRs.
Troubles Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I think it's just as common as a local relationship, with most local relationships break ups are usually because certain situations within the relationship weren't working out as well as they should have, such as not liking certain habits your s.o does or cheating and such. With LDR and likewise in your case the only problem was the distance, thus you guys still have that 'not completely done' aspect of it, because you have yet to experience a huge aspect of the relationship...being together frequently, dates, and so forth. I have been in a LDR relationship and like you, the reason we broke up was because of distance /g.i.g.s, not because I or you are necessarily bad people..it was just unfortunate timing or just in bad positions. My ex came back to me from an LDR relationship because there was always that "what if" and overall we aren't bad people and weren't bad during the relationship. I think LDR reconciliation occurs more so often than other reconciliations just because you always want that aspect of the relationship that you guys never got. And when the time is right and reconciliation does happen, if both of you want a second shot at it..then yep like you go for it and make magic happen. All the best bud!
Edtheduck Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Interesting topic. I'm not sure if it's any easier reconciling if you're close, or further away. If I had a gut feeling, I would say its probably easier if you're closer? Possibly as you know that person would around the corner, and able to drop anything to help, talk, etc. Myself and my ex were approx 180 miles apart, but we always saw eachother at the weekend. The relationship was a very good one, with no cheating, fighting etc. it's been 3 months, I barely talk to her, but I still have a little hope. My problem with the BU is that she has 3 kids, but I've already explained I would have moved to be with her. There are signs she misses me, but I'm in a period of NC and LC right now. Mixed bag Let's see if anything happens. I doubt it, but Im carrying on living my life right now.
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