the_Grinch Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Ok take two on this one and I apologize for the long last post! Basically, been talking with a girl at work for 3 months now. We have a fair amount in common, but any attempt to meet up outside of work has not happened. She's flaked on two and one was basically one disaster after another leading up to us not meeting. It also seems that she cold shoulders me quite a bit, which only adds to my confusion. Each meet up was a semi-group event, with my belief that interacting with our respected friends is the best way to see if we would gel. Fine if you're good together, but it won't always be just us and she's pretty tight with her friends as I am with mine. One event was drinks with coworker prior to 4th of July and she said yes then backed out at the last minute. My plan was to hopefully hangout outside of work to gauge actual interest, but thus far my assumption has been I misread everything. The biggest kicker has been that I've asked her to other events, she'll decline, but offer alternatives. But she gives me little notice on said events and usually few if any details. An example would be a festival that she told me about three weeks prior, but never spoke of again till the day before. Should I just give up?
jobaba Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Ok take two on this one and I apologize for the long last post! Basically, been talking with a girl at work for 3 months now. We have a fair amount in common, but any attempt to meet up outside of work has not happened. She's flaked on two and one was basically one disaster after another leading up to us not meeting. It also seems that she cold shoulders me quite a bit, which only adds to my confusion. Each meet up was a semi-group event, with my belief that interacting with our respected friends is the best way to see if we would gel. Fine if you're good together, but it won't always be just us and she's pretty tight with her friends as I am with mine. One event was drinks with coworker prior to 4th of July and she said yes then backed out at the last minute. My plan was to hopefully hangout outside of work to gauge actual interest, but thus far my assumption has been I misread everything. The biggest kicker has been that I've asked her to other events, she'll decline, but offer alternatives. But she gives me little notice on said events and usually few if any details. An example would be a festival that she told me about three weeks prior, but never spoke of again till the day before. Should I just give up? There's no right answer man... I'll tell you a little story. The last woman I dated told me somewhere along the line that the first time I asked her out she thought it was as friends. She also said that if she knew that the intention was a romantic date, she probably would have rejected me. I got lucky that time, but it could have just as easily have not worked out. A lot of this doesn't make any sense since she kissed me on the first date, but women don't make sense period. You just have to keep going until you find one that gives you a chance. Low investment, high quantity. In which case, I would say ... drop your coworker and keep looking.
Ami1uwant Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Ok take two on this one and I apologize for the long last post! Basically, been talking with a girl at work for 3 months now. We have a fair amount in common, but any attempt to meet up outside of work has not happened. She's flaked on two and one was basically one disaster after another leading up to us not meeting. It also seems that she cold shoulders me quite a bit, which only adds to my confusion. Should I just give up? You should just give up. She may like you but not as a relationship. She probably also has rules of not dating coworkers which is why she has flaked/poofed on you a few times. She could also be playing games with you making you chase her.
Author the_Grinch Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 Yeah I'm probably just let it go at this point. Spent enough time over analyzing everything. Shame of it is, I would have settle to be just friends, but if you're going to snub your friends like that better off leaving it to work pleasantries. Just kills me a bit because she initiated the whole thing and I figured I showed that I would chase a bit (wasn't thrilled about doing it, but figured it was worth the shot). Blissfully unaware was a much better position to be in....
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