kyle77 Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Some days all I can think about is my ex. Especially on the days where I dream about her at night. When I wake up all I want to do is just pour my heart out to her, and I obviously know thats not a good idea. Im just wondering what you guys do to cope on those days? Lately I have just been pushing through it and accepting that my life sucks without her....but I know that can't be healthy for my self-esteem so just looking for your approaches to something like this.
Blastoplast Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I write songs. Do something creative with your time. You may be surprised what you can accomplish under great adversity.
Edtheduck Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 GYM.....! Work the guns and show her, and everyone else you can improve yourself in the "me" time you get!
leannesagoodman Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I get these a lot, though lately they'd started to go away. Obviously you know that what works varies from person to person, but I like the idea of this thread as a place for ideas I personally write. I either just spew about how I can't stop thinking about her or whatever's on my mind, or I write creatively. Either way, at the end of it I feel as if I've accomplished something. Anything where you can produce some sort of result that you're happy with will help you to feel better both in the short term and in the long run. In the meantime though all of us are here with you!
CailinPig Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 writing is a great idea. I've kept a diary since I was 11. What I used to do after a big break up, was turn on my iPod (I had a playlist called sad songs!!), I'd put on some heartbreaking songs in the background, open up my diary and write m thoughts as they came to me. Normally, the combo of sad songs and sad thoughts made me cry. So I purged all my tears. Forced my sadness to become stronger, if you will. Then, I'd turn off the iPod, close my diary, and take a long hot shower to cleanse everything I'd felt. Then, cos I'm a girl, I'd put on my make up over my blotchy tear stained face and I'd begin my day afresh. It's not an optimum way to live, but when you're heartbroken, it's about survival. 1
g450 Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Have a margaritta party. Honestly, what I did that helped was to just get out of the house. Go where other people are. It worked for me. And I made a lot of new friends as a bonus. Tended to be a homebody through my entire marriage. Remedying that in my second marriage.
Ponzzz Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I do something that I would normally never do. I never read books but today I bought The Road by Cormac McCarthy and sat at a coffee shop to read for a few hours, had small chit chat with random strangers, and had a nice relaxing afternoon. I would recommend trying something new, you'd be surprised at how much you enjoy the things that you never thought you'd enjoy.
Author kyle77 Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 ya because I used to try and workout to cope with it but lately it feels like I just need a punching bag to just pound the hell out of. I can't exactly vent my feelings by doing some curls. I might consider the reading thing....recently I have decided that I want to read more books and maybe a public place like that to read would be nice!
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