Author bosox Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 Well I tried laying down in a hole to die but honestly it's not much fun down there. I'm done looking back and believing in that girl. She's happy...good! Time to make this kid happy as well. All that hoping and believing in her has done is cause me to be miserable and it stops. Great posts. Thanks.
Dblock10 Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 no i understand why bosox did it, to some level. although you had the facts already so i don't know what you expected to find :S or change :S acceptance is what comes after hope has been destroyed.. so maybe you will actually feel better sooner than later. no need to lay in a hole man
Brokendude Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Bosox, the fact that u foind this all out should be more reason u shoud stay on the forum, thats what this forum is for man, its for the relationship is really over, i promise u that ur gonna eventually go low again and r gonna need a support, were here man, vent an hurt thats acceptable man, we dont want u hurting alone coz we understand how difficult that is, dont ever be scared to reach out on here we all got each other with no judgment
Author bosox Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 Hope really is the devil in these situations. I'm buying you all beers and shots when this is all over. 1
Dblock10 Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 yeah man, i held onto hope for over a year and in many ways it didn't pay off. so I'm dealing with acceptance. it hurts. but know this.. it will be over you will meet some one else again ! and that is great.
Brokendude Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Bosox dont disappear this forum is gonna get u through man! Dont do it by urself kid
Chi townD Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 (edited) Okay, so here we go, the first day of your new life! What you need to do is to inform all of your friends that you don't want to hear anything about your Ex at all. NOTHING! Tell them that you're trying to move on and it's hard to do when you get reminded about her. If they're your friends, they'll understand and respect your wishes. Two, block everyone on Facebook that you two have mutual friends with so you don't accidentally she a post or a pic about her. Number three? Well, that's up to you. TELL US what your goals are right now. Tell us what you are going to do for self improvement. Then, I want you to read a thread from a poster named Rhymes called traveling after a break up? He just got back and he has some inspiring words and a little motivation that could help you. Edited July 18, 2012 by Chi townD
Author bosox Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 Chi townD it's been done! Should have done it long ago but couldn't take my eyes off the train wreck. Not smart. Number 3...Time to start working out hard again. Feels good to get this pain out of my body in a productive way. I just moved in with a buddy for the time being. Had to change up my routine. Just booked a trip I've wanted to take for years. Got that to look forward to now. And planning a big get together with friends in two weeks. Looking ahead, moving ahead.
Sameold Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Oh Bosox I feel for you Buddy, you are putting yourself through the mill. As for that guy, what did you think her friend would say? She's unlikely to start bad mouthing him but truth be told she probably doesn't know much about him. He could be an absolute idiot for all you know, I doubt your ex even knows him well enough yet. Falling in love? Really? You have no idea what's going on dude. So he was at med school? He could be an arrogant knob head. What I'm saying is your mind is only going to think the worst dude and your eyes will only see the worst. I'm not saying this to give you hope, just leave it dude. You are what's important, why care about this girl? She's lost you dude and you are going to prove how good you are, arn't you? When someone walks out on your life, let them. There's no use in wasting your time on people that leave you. What you make of your future is no longer tied to them. Yeah you may miss them, but remember that you wern't the one who gave up.
Dblock10 Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 travelling after a break up. sigh, this is what my ex did, its no wonder she probably didn't think twice about me after the break up. if i wasn't stuck at university for another year.. that being said. my time will come, i will graduate next year and then be off with a friend to work abroad then travel! things to look forward to. in the mean time though, i have an awful lot of spare time and not many friends about right now
Author bosox Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 Dblock10 This is the perfect time to go meet new people. Nothing holding you back right now. Sameold Good points. No more putting myself thru the mill. I've eliminated any ways to do such. She's officially in the past. That's all I'm letting go in my head right now anyway.
Dblock10 Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 you would think so, but i live in a very dead place. all my mates work ft etc. be better being back at university, people always around to talk to etc. keep the mind distracted. but yeah, letting them go in your mind is where it starts doesn't it
Chi townD Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 That's awesome that you've booked a trip! Where are you going?
Author bosox Posted July 19, 2012 Author Posted July 19, 2012 Going to Boston to watch my patriots play. Wanted to do this for years. Little bitter sweet as it's a trip I wanted to take with her...but her lost.
Author bosox Posted July 19, 2012 Author Posted July 19, 2012 Struggling really bad right now! I have that damn feeling like I can change things. It's broken and I want to fix it. I can't shake it today.
Dblock10 Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 yeah i hated that feeling. it lasts for a while. its a very strong urge isn't it. in my situation i know i can't change what is. so all you can do it let it go
Dblock10 Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 you sound too good for her anyway man.. just saying
Author bosox Posted July 19, 2012 Author Posted July 19, 2012 Well thanks. Wish I wouldn't have made dumb choices. Guess when you date a girl 7that's years younger and extremely beautiful your margin to mess up is pretty small. Of course she wants to see what else is out there. Who wouldn't.
Sameold Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 "who wouldn't" Gah! Plenty of girls! You don't want a gf who is just going to bail when the grass is greener do you? Imagine if you were married. These people have divorce written all over them.
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