gant29 Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 and you recently "dumped" someone you have been dating on and off for 3 years. You have been very close to this person, this person became your best friend, your lover, your confidant. You kept many secrets from this person along the way. You cheated on them, and made it excuses for it when it happened. Mostly the excuses were that you were in a bad place, you were depressed, insecure and looked for another person to make it better. You broke up with this person you cheated on, and they broke up with you. You got tired of the arguments, tired of the fights, tired of the mistrust and constant questions. Even though a lot of this is a result of your actions in this past. You believed you were confused about this person in your life, and decided to give it another go with them. They disappointed you by not being able to trust you, they said they would give you time, but they became impatient and accused you of being distant and always leaving when things got rough. You walked away from them again, shifted the blame to them, shut them out of your life, and told them that from now on it would only be a friendship between you two. You told this person that it would be better to be friends, even though being just friends has never worked for you two before. You always come back to each other, but this person is never enough it seems. If you were this dumper, what the hell is going on in your mind? and why can't you just leave this person that you dumped yet again, behind? Is it love? Or are you just using this person?
magneet Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 and you recently "dumped" someone you have been dating on and off for 3 years. You have been very close to this person, this person became your best friend, your lover, your confidant. You kept many secrets from this person along the way. You cheated on them, and made it excuses for it when it happened. Mostly the excuses were that you were in a bad place, you were depressed, insecure and looked for another person to make it better. You broke up with this person you cheated on, and they broke up with you. You got tired of the arguments, tired of the fights, tired of the mistrust and constant questions. Even though a lot of this is a result of your actions in this past. You believed you were confused about this person in your life, and decided to give it another go with them. They disappointed you by not being able to trust you, they said they would give you time, but they became impatient and accused you of being distant and always leaving when things got rough. You walked away from them again, shifted the blame to them, shut them out of your life, and told them that from now on it would only be a friendship between you two. You told this person that it would be better to be friends, even though being just friends has never worked for you two before. You always come back to each other, but this person is never enough it seems. If you were this dumper, what the hell is going on in your mind? and why can't you just leave this person that you dumped yet again, behind? Is it love? Or are you just using this person? hi gant You need her support, you need her in your life to make you happy, you are comfortable, she knows you, you are not alone, you love her, but again SUPPORT and COMFORT... it might be hidden but its there... i can relate to most of it. lets say 90% if its not all. if my situation was not the same it was still similar. anyhow, i am still in the same boat as you - and there is one simple answer... CO-DEPENDENCY issues. google it. read about it and you will understand what I am talking about... You are looking for your partner to complete you (as did i), whereas when you are in a relationship you must already be happy with yourself... For my sake i want to be single now, improve myself and solve my issues, so that the next relationship will be how one should be.
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