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I got back with my ex about a month and a half ago after several months apart. One of the issues that led to the breakup was her male best friend who I feel has a highly inappropriate amount of contact with her (calls her multiple times every day, hang out a lot, drives her places, buys her things, etc).

 

When we were broken up, she made plans with him and his parents (he still lives at home) to go down the shore. Then we got back together.

 

She's down there with him now and it's making me feel uncomfortable. They were an item back in high school and she tells me he hasn't had another girlfriend since (12 years).

 

I didn't get invited and she didn't ask them if I could come along. She hasn't made any effort to get me to meet him yet. I believe she's staying down there for free. I would have paid my way if that meant me being able to come along, whatever.

 

I realize they made these plans before I was in the picture again, but if the situation were reversed, I would cancel the plans if I couldn't be with her.

 

Thoughts?

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A dealbreaker for me. Even if there were nothing sexual going on, he's a third person in your relationship. And she prioritises spending time with him over your discomfort. No need for ultimatums. I'd break it off again and this time, I'd make it permanent.

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