Radu Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I want to know what kind of nice gestures your partner or ex-partner did for you that made you feel loved and what you did for them, it would be nice to mention genders too. 1
Got it Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 He actively shows me every day how much he loves me. He listens to what I want and need and does them without asking. He does the dishes because I don't like doing them, he takes care of my animals when I need help, he surprises me with things or outings just because. He loves to see me smile and does things to make it happen. I make sure I can do things for him when he needs them, put together outings, trips, and events to bring his family together as it is important to him, I bake him his favorites because he loves them, I think ahead of what he has going on and do things to make his day easier and happier. I listen and support him and compliment him. I make sure he knows I love him every day by not just words but by actions. We don't take each other for granted. 1
Author Radu Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 A while back i was reading about his little girl who was diagnosed with brain cancer [or some other form of cancer that made her terminally ill]. So she wrote a bunch of these nice messages and hid them around the house, hundreds of them literally for her parents to find after she was gone. This got me thinking of when in relationships you get to a point where everything becomes routine, about things you can do for your partner that he/she finds on her own, things you put in her/his path to show that you are in fact thinking about them and not taking them for granted. When things get into a routine, we walk this path from work to house and even in house as if we are on auto-pilot, i'm thinking of things you can place on this path that remind of that person that you are thinking of them and care about them. Thanks for the posts so far guys/gals, keep them coming.
january2011 Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 [i'm in an LDR] Me: When I was staying with my SO, I'd make him breakfast and a packed lunch. His work schedule is very intense and he normally ends up either missing these two meals or buying fast food when he remembers to eat. Him: We were discussing what to cook while I was there and I had already started a shopping list. However, when I arrived, he'd remembered everything that we talked about and bought it. There are also little things, such as when I've had a problem and he's fixed it without being asked. I've found that, for me, the nice gestures are nice because they show that he pays attention. From our conversations, the nice gestures are nice for him because someone else, other than his mom, shows that they care about him. Before I came along, he had been so used to taking care of himself, even when he was in an LTR.
Author Radu Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 The packed lunch was quite a nice touch. 1
BetrayedH Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Reading the 5 Love Languages might be good. My example is kinda generic but my current girlfriend once complained that her ex never bought her flowers. Now I try to keep her stocked with fresh flowers and I know it's a home run every time.
firemanq Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I like to hold doors open, help her on and off with her coat. But, I have selfish reasons for that, I enjoy helping her, makes me feel good. Not long ago, we were at our daughters house and the granddaughter had a (deleted) boy there. They were getting ready to leave and boy helped her on with her coat, and held open the door. The girl gave him hell for helping her. The next day, I took her aside and told her she was way out of line by being rude to the boy. I explained how while he showed her kindness, affection and respect, she showed him the exact opposite. She belittled him and by her actions, & told him she was a selfish bithc that needed to be dumped.
Radagast Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 A while back i was reading about his little girl who was diagnosed with brain cancer [or some other form of cancer that made her terminally ill]. So she wrote a bunch of these nice messages and hid them around the house, hundreds of them literally for her parents to find after she was gone. My wife does the note thing with me. If I go anywhere she slips little notes into my briefcase and my wallet and my clothing and all over the place for me to discover. She also sends me text messages reminding me why she loves me, and emails me XXX plans for when I get home. If she's folding and packing away clean washing she will often leave a little note inside my socks, or some flower petals to make them smell fresh. When it's her turn to cook, she will cook a wonderful meal and arrange the food on my plate in the shape of a heart, and frost my wine glass lightly. She will run a scented bath with candles and scrub my back and my feet in the bath, and massage my shoulders. She reads me poems in bed every night, and cuddles me as I fall asleep. Whenever we go over a stile or through a gate on a walk, she kisses me. She takes trouble over her appearance and keeps herself in shape. She writes love notes in the steam on the bathroom mirror for me to find when I shave.
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