Solimeno13 Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Hello all this is my first time here but thought someone may shed some light on my situation. 5 months ago, i met a boy online, he was in the same guild in an online game i play and we got talking, we talked as part of a group then started talking just us too. it felt nice to have someone who shared the same interests and was really sweet. things got quite serious quite early, i got his number and we would text etc. OH BTW he is from FINLAND and im from UK. anyway we were good friends and got closer and closer and i really started to like him a lot and he also liked me a lot aswell.we talked for about 15hours per day, webcaming and talking on microphone on skype, it felt amazing to have someone so awesome, he would say the sweetest things and was romantic and handsome. too perfect i would always say to everyone, how can i be so lucky? he knew from the start i have a 2 year old daughter and was fine with it, obviously i had concerns as ive not brought anyone into her life since her father. im 25 and he is 18. Anyway time went by and we arranged his first visit to the UK, we counted down and when i met him it was fantastic, the most amazing feeling i have ever felt in my life, we fell in love head over heels completely. he stayed for a week and went home and we both cried at the airport. he asked me to be his gf and i said yes. in between meeting we would send parcels and letters, it was so romantic. he went home and we struggled but we got over it and he booked his next visit which was 12th june 2012 and he went home on july 3rd 2012 (yes only last week) we had the most amazing time when he was here,so in love, he got me a card for our 2month anniversary and roses and put rose petals on the bed and lit candles, something ive never had before.it was pure bliss. he met my daughter and was wonderful with her, they both loved eachother straight away, it filled my heart with so much joy to see them like father and daughter, it was beautiful. we lived as a family for 3 weeks and nothing felt so good. he went home tuesday and we cried at the airport when he was leaving, he text me when he got inside and said hes still crying and loves me more than anything and knows he wants to spend his life with me and i felt complete. we knew for a while its how we felt and we made so many plans, he made promises to me and my daughter and i trusted everything he said, why wouldnt i? he went home and said hes counting down the days until i go to Finland which is august. anyway after him being busy since going home we not talked so much but when we do we tell eachother we love eachother and hope eachother is ok and we miss eachother. Friday came and he was a bit distant, told me he didnt know if he could cope with leaving us and the distance and if he wanted to try anymore. i was shocked as hell thought he was joking as he is a bit of a joker sometimes. he wasnt joking, i was crying, all a mess tried to talk him out of it coz i know hes exhausted and missing us so is hurting like we are. anyway i left to get daughter from nursery and didnt talk to him, talked to my friends to try get over it all,he text me friday night saying "ive realised what a fool i am and im so sorry, hope ur ok and i love you xxxx kisses babe" i was so happy its unreal, i had my boy back and he still loves me.he kept texting through the night, always ending with "i love you babe" or someth ing to that affect. saturday came, he was distant again, all weird with me so i asked him straight and he said same again, he doesnt know what he wants anymore, if he can handle being a parent etc, it was breaking my world appart, i trusted him and let him meet my daughter FFS. this kept going on, he told me in the last few days that he had such an amazing time with us and hasnt slept since leaving us, thats obviously coz he misses us isnt it? but he doesnt know if its the right decision to be with me, he doesnt want another gf, just doesnt know what he wants right now. im still hurting, not eaten for 6days, ive never been like this before in my life and ive had a few boyfriends. what do you think? how can someone change like the wind? seriously, its not right at all, he said he got personal problems which i know he got a bit of depression and suicidal thoughts sometimes but this is weird as hell and i cant get my head around it, to be so completely in love with me and call us a family together, we went to university open day in my town so he could see the uni hes applying to, he introduced himself to my daughters fathers mother as my boyfriend and said he loves us and will look after us.WTF has happened? please help im in utter turmoil
Author Solimeno13 Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 just wanted to add that he hasnt told his family we have broken up either, and im supposed to go there 6 weeks today, he said few days ago he hasnt told them as he dont know whats gna happen. please help me
Author Solimeno13 Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 can someone please reply something?
bikinibeach Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I'm sorry but he's 18...not fit to be a father at that age. He probably can't even take care of himself! It sounds like a wonderful fantasy if a romance but if you want to get REAL here, a long distance relationship with a teenager you met in an online game is not going to be the kind of relationship that will provide the support and security you require being a single mom. Also, quit using your kid as collateral/ guilt trip fodder. She should not be meeting someone you've only just met in real life yesterday. Grow up!
Author Solimeno13 Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 it was 5months ago we met, the last time he came down was 2nd time
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