livelife Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I'm going through wayyyy too many emotions right now. I'm trying my best not to cuss at all right now. my absolute best. his argument is, wow you're really fighting for me. You ass hole. I went out till 5 ****ing am last night just to see if he was safe. I was worried about him, and all he did was ignore my calls, ignore my texts. Refuse to see me. Its only when i'm moving on does he get defensive and mean, and tonight he pushed me over the ledge. i'm not a joke. I got tested by his friends via twitter and all I did was ask for a phone number because I thought it was my ex on it. The account was asking about my sex life, and saying, oh so does he not know what hes doing? I told the account I was single but not entirely single. And hes MAD at me for it. It's his loss. It really is. He's going to blame me and make me feel bad for it, but I know this is all him. Initially yes i left him, but I Tried to get him back, and all he did was push me away. i'm better than that.
AlexanderJames Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Cuss all you want You're right, its his loss. And you're doing the right thing in walking away. Because like we said there is nothing else you could do you tried it all. You even went to his house at 5am when he was playing his games and he still ignored it. You're above him. And we are all with you every step of the way P.S. You should definitely be in bed trying to get some sleep!
Author livelife Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 I usually wake up with my heart pounding, but today it didn't. ad when i say pounding i mean after an argument realizing i'm getting a step closer to losing him. All I want is for him to realize he was being so rude and disrespectful to me.
Author livelife Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 Starting to shed some tears. I got in a car accident after I met up with my ex the first time after the breakup, was a wreck, so I got in a wreck. Now my car has to be taken to the shop and I can't go out tonight, so my mom comes to tell me this and I just start to cry because Im sick of being lonely. I'm sick of it. She thinks i need to go to a doctor, she said after a month and im still crying like this something isn't right.
AlexanderJames Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 When was the accident? And why cant you go out tonight? Taxi? Or get picked up? You not going out isnt punishment is it? Because you NEED to go out with good people and have a good time. Keeping you locked up at home is only going to make things harder. I havent been to a councellor since I was in primary school, but this website has been far more helpful to me than my coucellor ever was. Some of the members are actually psychiatrists.
Author livelife Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 When was the accident? And why cant you go out tonight? Taxi? Or get picked up? You not going out isnt punishment is it? Because you NEED to go out with good people and have a good time. Keeping you locked up at home is only going to make things harder. I havent been to a councellor since I was in primary school, but this website has been far more helpful to me than my coucellor ever was. Some of the members are actually psychiatrists. No its not punishment, but the car is so damanged that if I drive it any more i could permanently lose my car. It was about 4 days after the breakup, I was driving home from seeing him, too soon after the breakup. All I did was cry. We tried to go out to eat, and all I did was cry. So I left, and driving home I got in an accident. I texted him because he was texting me and he came to where I was. Anyways I know I need to get out, my mom told me that too she said sitting here isnt going to help you at all. And I know it isnt.
Samilia Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Why put yourself through so much misery? Don't.. take care of yourself, take care of your body and your heart. There is so much pain in this world as it is.
Author livelife Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 Why put yourself through so much misery? Don't.. take care of yourself, take care of your body and your heart. There is so much pain in this world as it is. That's what i'm wondering. Why am I still like this a month later? Probably because me and him have still been talking. But Why do I still secretly want it to work out? He has been nothing but mean to me.
Samilia Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Did you dad love you, treated you well? That could be one reason. Still trying to "please your dad and get his affection". Or/and you could be in the pattern of meeting the same kind of guys and now think it's the norm.
Author livelife Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 Did you dad love you, treated you well? That could be one reason. Still trying to "please your dad and get his affection". Or/and you could be in the pattern of meeting the same kind of guys and now think it's the norm. My dad loved me, he passed away when I was 11, i'm 20 now.
AlexanderJames Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Because a month isn't very long to recover from a breakup truth be told. I was with a girl for 4 months, not long at all. But it was a full on relationship and it took me about 9 months to feel completely over the girl. My first breakup took even longer than that. I almost missed a year of highschool because of it.. This most recent heartbreak has only taken such short time to start healing over because I've felt it all so many times before. It's like routine to me. I've taught myself lots of little tricks and tips to speeding things up. But the most important part is actually WANTING to move on, and letting go of the hope. That's the hardest thing to bring yourself to do..
Author livelife Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 Because a month isn't very long to recover from a breakup truth be told. I was with a girl for 4 months, not long at all. But it was a full on relationship and it took me about 9 months to feel completely over the girl. My first breakup took even longer than that. I almost missed a year of highschool because of it.. This most recent heartbreak has only taken such short time to start healing over because I've felt it all so many times before. It's like routine to me. I've taught myself lots of little tricks and tips to speeding things up. But the most important part is actually WANTING to move on, and letting go of the hope. That's the hardest thing to bring yourself to do.. yeah and I haven't reached that point yet. Me and him met in late January, and we clicked Instantly. so honestly I would say we've been together since January.
Samilia Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 My dad loved me, he passed away when I was 11, i'm 20 now. Not trying to over analyze this, but basically you didn't have your dad during your teenage years. I would reflect on that and on your relation with men.
Author livelife Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 Not trying to over analyze this, but basically you didn't have your dad during your teenage years. I would reflect on that and on your relation with men. So what does this mean?
AlexanderJames Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Let's not talk about her father please. Not a tangent we need to go down here. 1
Author livelife Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 Alex- I know we talked not on LS last night and we discussed me telling my ex that it wouldn't be a good idea to meet up. We also decided it would be best if I stayed quiet and let him approach the situation. Well, today at work I had done some thinking, and I didn't want to be waiting around to see if he would try to meet up, so I approached the situation, shamefully. I texted him basically what we discussed. I told him what my intentions were going to be and if his werent the same then we shouldn't meet up.. His response? "I Never said that". ugh, here we are back to square 1. I still do think i need to give him space though because he is going through a lot.
rayne05us Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 You have to leave him alone for now. You're coming off needy and argumentative. You don't have to go check on him, that's his responsibility now. Take a look from his side? Can you see the way you're reacting, why you're not getting anywhere with him? I would take some time, get your EMOTIONS together first, so that when you do talk to him, you're confident sure of yourself, which is very attractive. Envision how you once where and WHY he was so attracted to you in the first place and try and get that back. I guaranteer 1 of 2 things, either you'll get him back or you'll realize you can do better and deserve better. Good luck! 1
Author livelife Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 You have to leave him alone for now. You're coming off needy and argumentative. You don't have to go check on him, that's his responsibility now. Take a look from his side? Can you see the way you're reacting, why you're not getting anywhere with him? I would take some time, get your EMOTIONS together first, so that when you do talk to him, you're confident sure of yourself, which is very attractive. Envision how you once where and WHY he was so attracted to you in the first place and try and get that back. I guaranteer 1 of 2 things, either you'll get him back or you'll realize you can do better and deserve better. Good luck! I know, I have come to realize that. And space and time will come off of that! Im going to be out doing things so I come back to the happy girl I was.. I sounded happy today in the conversation I had with him today so I had to end that on a good note. Now its absolutely his turn.
rayne05us Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Good! Yes you left it on a high note and that's ALL you can do for now as far as he's concerned. He's prolly going through the same emotions you are believe it or not, so maybe that will give you some perspective. fight the urge with all that you have not to contact him for some time, call you friends, the gym, anything. Each time you want to call him, do something positive for yourself instead. And if he contacts you, keep it short and sweet and keep trucking until you're sure you GOT THIS! I know you can do it!!! 1
rayne05us Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Also take this time to look for some ways you can improve your relationship or any future relationships you have. Remeber, only you can control what YOU bring to the table...and you def don't wanna go down the same path that caused the breakup There are soooo many useful tools out there, just tap into them!
scatterd Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Bless your heart relationships can be so hard and hurtful. Try not to be around him right now be around people that love and care for you. Seeing a Doctor for depression medication can help also. All of us are different on how long it takes to heal. Try to eat right and take care of your self you need your health. Sometimes we need time to step back and see how things are. I feel for you know this pain will ease with a little time some of us longer but it will ease. Big Hugs
Author livelife Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 Also take this time to look for some ways you can improve your relationship or any future relationships you have. Remeber, only you can control what YOU bring to the table...and you def don't wanna go down the same path that caused the breakup There are soooo many useful tools out there, just tap into them! You're such a positive person I love it! Haha. And All I really had to do was get some kind of answer from him, so now I can say i am comfortable with giving him space and time. I do need this time for myself to work on myself and work on controlling my emotions a little better.
CopingGal Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 We don't have to talk about your Dad if you don't want to. However, I wouldn't ignore the Dad factor. I know for me, I recreated the relationship with my bf that my parents had. That's why it was such a disaster. My ex was never there for me, like my Dad was never there for my mom. Just saying, if you still find yourself questioning stuff, you might want to revisit the Dad factor at some point, even though you felt very loved by him.
Author livelife Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 Bless your heart relationships can be so hard and hurtful. Try not to be around him right now be around people that love and care for you. Seeing a Doctor for depression medication can help also. All of us are different on how long it takes to heal. Try to eat right and take care of your self you need your health. Sometimes we need time to step back and see how things are. I feel for you know this pain will ease with a little time some of us longer but it will ease. Big Hugs Me and him are in a very weird spot right now. We have had very immature arguments, had a dumb argument which led to the breakup, and have been trying to work on things since. He is going through a tough time with personal things, money, family, and me, so I understand his need for space.
rayne05us Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Yes!! I'm so glad you're choosing to put the spotlight back on you! Trust me, I'm going thru my own breakup right now fresh from several days ago. But staying positive and working my stuff out is the ONLY way I'm getting thru this. It's only been a matter of days and I feel so much better, I feel like myself again! So I know this can work! You'll figure out the reason(s) for the arguments etc...IF you want to face the truth and speaking from exp, it soooo tough sometimes. But getting some space btwn you and him will help you figure it out even soon cuz you won't be focus on anything else.
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