vigilantics Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Hey all, I have been with my current bf for nearly 3 years. Everything was going quite well until this last year. I know he is stressed with going back to school, and moving to a different state and I am stressed with my job. I just get upset over the fact that I come home and he is on the couch or doing something else. He never really gave all that many compliments, but now I feel like I have to ask for them. I give him compliments and show my appreciation in the best way I can. Now, I am seeking attention elsewhere. I am a big flirt. I do tell the guys I am flirting with that I do have a boyfriend. It's nice to receive compliments. Especially, since I have low self esteem (I know that's my issue) and I don't really feel that the bf is attracted to me any longer. He still wants sex, but he doesn't give compliments or say anything to make me feel wanted, therefore actually wanting to engage in sex. I know that flirting isn't right, and I need to work on my self esteem/self conscious issues. How do I get him to pay attention to me and say compliments to make me feel good? I don't think it's too much to ask. I have brought this up before in the past with him, but it hasn't changed.
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 If you are asking for an "abnormal" amount of recognition, and by your own admission you probably are, fix yourself instead. Find some counselor or whatever to help you overcome, cope, and live happily without the compliments. Your need for compliments is no-one elses responsibility.
Author vigilantics Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 It's not really just the compliments. I just don't feel wanted. And yes, as I stated in the above post, my self esteem issues are my issues. I am seeing someone that is helping me with that. My dog seems happier to see me than the bf. Also, I don't think what I want is unrealistic.
irin Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 so he is neglecting you? show him that there are guys happy to give all their attention 1
stillafool Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I think you are right to seek help as to why you need so much attention. I've noticed that attention seekers are obvious and sometimes that alone can make people withdraw their affection.
Leopard Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 so he is neglecting you? show him that there are guys happy to give all their attention This. Nothing makes a man more appreciative than seeing how his woman is wanted by other men.
nessaaa Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 find a new man who will give u what u want.. Problem solved. That should get your pathetic boyfriends attention. Can't play nice with these men, they need a rude wake up call. Hey all, I have been with my current bf for nearly 3 years. Everything was going quite well until this last year. I know he is stressed with going back to school, and moving to a different state and I am stressed with my job. I just get upset over the fact that I come home and he is on the couch or doing something else. He never really gave all that many compliments, but now I feel like I have to ask for them. I give him compliments and show my appreciation in the best way I can. Now, I am seeking attention elsewhere. I am a big flirt. I do tell the guys I am flirting with that I do have a boyfriend. It's nice to receive compliments. Especially, since I have low self esteem (I know that's my issue) and I don't really feel that the bf is attracted to me any longer. He still wants sex, but he doesn't give compliments or say anything to make me feel wanted, therefore actually wanting to engage in sex. I know that flirting isn't right, and I need to work on my self esteem/self conscious issues. How do I get him to pay attention to me and say compliments to make me feel good? I don't think it's too much to ask. I have brought this up before in the past with him, but it hasn't changed.
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