StrangeBehaviors Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 There has been a lot of back and forth lately for men on the subject of being nice vs. not being nice in regards to relationships. I fall towards the not being nice camp. Not as Alpha as some seem though. It's proven time and again that being under-confident and overtly nice is not appreciated by women. Women here will immediately read this and want to reply that it is appreciated. They are liars with their words and teachers with their actions. Guys can listen and adjust to this or not. A true story: One of my good friends is very much the Alpha dude. Women love him. He is middle low income, I guess good looking (my blackness will not let me confirm this-Dave Chappell ), and he recognizes immediately when women "check" or test him and comes right back over the top of them hard and fast. As a result they respect him, are attracted, and they are drawn in for more. His number is around 70 currently. Now for the MonkeyWrench in this proven behavior. He is secretly miserable. Currently single. He has been married and divorced three times. I have witnessed him bawling on several occasions trying to understand why it always falls apart. He does not want a high number of women to sleep with, but at the same time will not turn them down if the situation is falling into place. So here's some facts as I've seen firsthand. Women go to Alpha first and foremost. I won't even debate it 'cause it's true. Then they want to tone the behavior to their liking for anything longer. (My friend doesn't bend) The rub on the other end is that there are multiple threads on here over and over where when the guy begins conforming to this.....the woman breaks up with him! No wonder everyone is divorced, marrying later, or never marrying at all. Bitches be crazy.
brahmabull117 Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I got a friend of mine who is probably the most alpha guy I've ever known He's 5'11 220 LBs, strong as a gorilla, good looking, blonde, very very very wealthy (Executive at a company at the age of 35). He's got one of the most dominant and charismatic personalities I've ever see and everybody loves him (myself included). With that being said, he's one of the nicest guys I've ever met. He treats everybody with incredible respect and generosity and there's just not a single bad bone in his body He's kind of the perfect balance of both worlds. He gives you the safety and security of the "nice guy" with the edge and hyper masculinity of the "jerk" That to me is the perfect personality. That's how everybody should act
Green Light Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I got a friend of mine who is probably the most alpha guy I've ever known He's 5'11 220 LBs, strong as a gorilla, good looking, blonde, very very very wealthy (Executive at a company at the age of 35). He's got one of the most dominant and charismatic personalities I've ever see and everybody loves him (myself included). With that being said, he's one of the nicest guys I've ever met. He treats everybody with incredible respect and generosity and there's just not a single bad bone in his body He's kind of the perfect balance of both worlds. He gives you the safety and security of the "nice guy" with the edge and hyper masculinity of the "jerk" That to me is the perfect personality. That's how everybody should act Sounds like there was a lot of good luck and good DNA in your example there.
Green Light Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Women go to Alpha first and foremost. I won't even debate it 'cause it's true. Then they want to tone the behavior to their liking for anything longer. (My friend doesn't bend) The rub on the other end is that there are multiple threads on here over and over where when the guy begins conforming to this.....the woman breaks up with him! No wonder everyone is divorced, marrying later, or never marrying at all. Bitches be crazy. I think the problem these days is *nobody* bends. Everyone wants what they want, when they want, and if it turns out to be a little bit different than their expectations then they want it out their lives.
monkey00 Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 (edited) I think the problem these days is *nobody* bends. Everyone wants what they want, when they want, and if it turns out to be a little bit different than their expectations then they want it out their lives. Tell me about it. It's a lot worse when you live in a big city. Everything and everyone makes you jaded. Pickiness levels in people are sky high. Maybe I'm a victim of this too. I find though that women who want providers and want to be taken care of will look for the nice guy. Women that want to date, find a boyfriend, or sleep around do not want the nice guy. You do have to have some kind of edge to you to tip the scales in your favor. Whether it's looks, money, or the goldilocks personality. Edited July 12, 2012 by monkey00
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