rdmcnutt Posted July 12, 2012 Share Posted July 12, 2012 My wife is beautiful. Her sister however just got a boob job. My wife has mentioned a couple times how she might like to get one, but she is concerned about how it will look to our kids (doesn't want to send the wrong image about the importance of body image). I gotta admit I would love it if she did it, but I didn't say that to her. The couple times she mentioned it I said I love the way she looks and it would be fine with me either way. She hasn't mentioned it in several months. There's a part of me that would really like it if she did it. How do I steer her that way without coming right out and saying "hey why don't you go get some new boobs?" Again, I think she's beautiful as is. Don't get me wrong, but the improvement would be appreciated too. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted July 12, 2012 Share Posted July 12, 2012 'Honey, you had discussed breast augmentation in the past. How do you feel about it today?' If a conversation develops, suggest consulting a professional and continuing the exploration. Link to post Share on other sites
eleanorrigby Posted July 12, 2012 Share Posted July 12, 2012 Start asking her some questions about why she thinks she would like to get it done. What does she like and not like about her breasts and you should answer the same questions. I had a breast reduction and found out years later that my husband would have preferred that I not change my breasts at all. He loved them huge and saggy apparently lol. I'm really happy with the result and love that I did it but had I known he actually had an opinion on the subject, who knows what I would have done? I might have kept them. lol Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted July 12, 2012 Share Posted July 12, 2012 You can just ask her whether her sister's boob job put her off the idea or made her think she might consider it one day. If the sister's op is recent it should be easy to broach. Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted July 12, 2012 Share Posted July 12, 2012 How old are the kids ? What is their gender ? How old are you and your wife ? What is her cup size and desired cup size ? Bigger boobs means bigger strain on the back you know ... Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted July 12, 2012 Share Posted July 12, 2012 My wife is beautiful. Her sister however just got a boob job. My wife has mentioned a couple times how she might like to get one, but she is concerned about how it will look to our kids (doesn't want to send the wrong image about the importance of body image). I gotta admit I would love it if she did it, but I didn't say that to her. The couple times she mentioned it I said I love the way she looks and it would be fine with me either way. She hasn't mentioned it in several months. There's a part of me that would really like it if she did it. How do I steer her that way without coming right out and saying "hey why don't you go get some new boobs?" Again, I think she's beautiful as is. Don't get me wrong, but the improvement would be appreciated too. "Wow, your sister has amazing breasts." That will get the conversation going 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rdmcnutt Posted July 12, 2012 Author Share Posted July 12, 2012 She's 36 and our kids are 6 and 2. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rdmcnutt Posted July 12, 2012 Author Share Posted July 12, 2012 And as a side note has anyone had to deal with jealousy issues due to increased attention from other men? I don't consider myself the jealous type but she does work with almost all men in her job and I guess that is in the back of my head. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rdmcnutt Posted July 12, 2012 Author Share Posted July 12, 2012 Oh and she's a B and would probably be looking at Ds Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted July 12, 2012 Share Posted July 12, 2012 Well, this is the time to get them tbh, as kids may not remember them. I would also go for small scars, insertion can happen in a lot of different ways [do not go for nipple insertion because that may lower her sensitivity]. Do not go for side insertion, because right below the armpit there are errogenous zones. As for your daughter/daughters, well ... your wife will have to tell her when she is older that she did it as her ideea, completely not asked by you and that a woman should not have upgrades of this kind just because her guy asks. I think navel insertions are the best as they leave little scars but they take a long time to heal. Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted July 12, 2012 Share Posted July 12, 2012 (edited) And as a side note has anyone had to deal with jealousy issues due to increased attention from other men? I don't consider myself the jealous type but she does work with almost all men in her job and I guess that is in the back of my head. I'm always a little worried about why a woman wants implants. Who is she trying to be more attractive for? Women at this age seem to go thru a change. I am likely extra sensitive to this because my wife cheated but knowing how many women are cheating and developing a whole new sex life in their late 30's is concerning enough without adding in some D cups. Does she really "need" the external validation from other men that she is attractive. I think this is a good topic for the "six degrees of why." Why do you want breast implants? "So I can feel more confident. They are for me. :)" Ok, why do you need to be more confident? What do they do for you? "They make me feel more attractive." Why do you not feel attractive? And so on and so on. It just seems to me that breast augmentation is done to make up for a woman's insecurity. If her husband already finds her attractive, this is a psychological issue. Does she really need men to appreciate her for her D cups? Is your appreciation not enough? It just seems that there is too much of a need for external validation from others. And then you add that those others will be men who ogle her breasts (when we now know that she needs that attention enough that she'll have surgery to get it). I don't know - it would make me nervous. I'm not well versed on this... Just my $.02 Perhaps someone can educate me on why this is such a healthy thing to do. I would want to dig further on what they do for her and focus less on what they would do for you. At 36, my W started wearing shorter skirts, higher heels, lower tops, bought new lingerie, talked about a boob job. Yeah, it all seemed good until I found her in the affair with her boss. My attention should have been enough and I loved her the way she was. She shouldn't have needed the attention from other men. What happens when she gets that attention she's looking for? Seems like a slippery slope to me. Edited July 12, 2012 by BetrayedH 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Fabrizio Posted July 12, 2012 Share Posted July 12, 2012 My wife is beautiful. Her sister however just got a boob job. My wife has mentioned a couple times how she might like to get one, but she is concerned about how it will look to our kids (doesn't want to send the wrong image about the importance of body image). I gotta admit I would love it if she did it, but I didn't say that to her. The couple times she mentioned it I said I love the way she looks and it would be fine with me either way. She hasn't mentioned it in several months. There's a part of me that would really like it if she did it. How do I steer her that way without coming right out and saying "hey why don't you go get some new boobs?" Again, I think she's beautiful as is. Don't get me wrong, but the improvement would be appreciated too. Hi. I am in an opposite position: my wife is beautiul as yours but she only has one thing I really and strongly would like her to change: small boops. I tried to ask her a couple of time but I have noticed that she felt hurt and offended by this request so I stopped asking. But our sexual life could really improves, I think, because I confess that I need some changes, something different in my sexual life and I don't wanna find satisfaction outside our marriage. New boops would help me a lot :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Author rdmcnutt Posted July 12, 2012 Author Share Posted July 12, 2012 Wow! I've never really thought of my wife is cheater. She's really not a flirt. Although I do not like that she works where she works. She works with all cops, mostly men. She's not a cop but she's about the only one in her building this isn't. I don't trust them, but I have always trusted her and continue to do so. Although several of you have given me something to think about. You have definitely give me something to think about. Especially why she wants them or has at least voiced an interest in them given that she already knows that I think she's very beautiful as it is. I had hoped that she just wanted them for herself, but you raise an interesting point… Why would a woman want them for herself if not to get more attention, and if she wants more attention from who? Maybe I will just keep my mouth shut. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Steen719 Posted July 12, 2012 Share Posted July 12, 2012 I could not begin to predict if she would be looking to cheat, but I will tell you this. I am naturally a DD and from the time I was in 8th grade until now, it draws much attention, including the unwanted kind. Just a thought. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted July 12, 2012 Share Posted July 12, 2012 OP, using myself as an example, imagine I've always wanted to have hair but lost it at a young age (true on the latter part). I might have the dashing good looks of the late Yul Brynner but still I always wanted hair, just because I did. There is a medical solution out there which would give me that. It isn't about anyone else, attention from anyone else, or improving my options. I'm married to a loving wife who thinks I'm a great guy and very attractive (not really, but I'm matching your example). As men, we generally feel that women improve or alter their appearance to gain more attention from men and perhaps better access to 'higher' men. That's our perception. What is in her mind is in her mind. If you love her, and are married to her, there should be a fundamental trust of her authenticity and transparency. If not, don't be married to her. Communication will clarify the specifics. Good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Plan 9 from OS Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 Having plastic surgery is a personal decision and it's up to the person as to whether it is truly needed. IMO, some procedures are much more practical than others. If your wife has breasts that were affected by her pregnancies or something like that, then I can understand her wanting this done. If her breasts are perfectly fine in shape, and she's merely looking go from a B to a D cup, then I would talk to her a lot more about this before she gets it done. Why would she want D cups if she works in an office of men who are not the most trustworthy in your opinion? Link to post Share on other sites
BetheButterfly Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 My wife is beautiful. Her sister however just got a boob job. My wife has mentioned a couple times how she might like to get one, but she is concerned about how it will look to our kids (doesn't want to send the wrong image about the importance of body image). I gotta admit I would love it if she did it, but I didn't say that to her. The couple times she mentioned it I said I love the way she looks and it would be fine with me either way. She hasn't mentioned it in several months. There's a part of me that would really like it if she did it. How do I steer her that way without coming right out and saying "hey why don't you go get some new boobs?" Again, I think she's beautiful as is. Don't get me wrong, but the improvement would be appreciated too. I have mixed feelings about this. Maybe if she asks you again, you should say something like, "Honey, you're beautiful. If you want to get a boob job, I support you. The idea does interest me, because I like your boobs and it does make me curious the idea of your boobs getting bigger..." something like that... maybe you can indirectly lead conversation back to boob jobs so you can tell her that? I don't think its' wrong to get plastic surgery. Personally, I know my hubby would have no problem with me getting my boobs bigger lol but he also knows that is just not going to happen, because I'm an animal lover and would rather donate money to help animals who need surgery than get my boobs bigger lol. He knew that before marrying me... the way I keep my figure is by going to the gym and watching what I eat. I have to keep doing that, but yeah spending money on surgery I don't need is not going to happen with me. I'd rather help animals who are in need of surgery, or other people. Isn't that terrible that I'm thinking of animals more than people? Anyways, you can find a way to bring up the subject and then just admit you're curious about how she would look with bigger boobs. I don't think that's bad. She is possibly curious about how she'd look with bigger boobs too! Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 am a GG cup, i live in a bra so they never get left to droop, if i dress non-glamorus like a tomboy or in drab clothes or a long skirt, i get no man, but yes, guys like them, my point is that if your wife dresses down rather than up when at work men won't be turned on there are bras called minimisers that put the breast into a bra that lays them more sideways and less thrusting Link to post Share on other sites
NervisPervis Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 She works with all cops. Damn dude. Your post should be titled "Help! My wife works with all cops! What should I do?" Add new big titties into THAT mix? HELL NO! Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 Wow, there are a lot of insecure people in the world. I can only speak for myself. I would get a boob job (and have considered it). Has NOTHING to do with other men. Has everything to do with not liking that they aren't as perky as they were. If I can afford to have them look better, why not? I like myself, but when I look in the mirror, I see that they are sagging, and I DON'T like that. I already get attention for them, because in a bra, you can't tell they aren't perfect. Hahaha. So nothing would change. Now, since your wife is going from a B to a D, yeh, she may get some extra stares and flirting. But she's either trustworthy or she isn't. If she doesn't respond to flirting now, some bags of silicone in her chest aren't going to automatically change her personality. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HHC Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 Married women who are already "beautiful" but decide they desperately want breast implants generally aren't doing it for themselves, and certainly not for their husbands. I've had children and my breasts are now flat and deflated. I don't feel sexy when I look in the mirror and I ant my breasts to be fuller. Not bigger, but fuller. My husband says he loves my breasts and he doesn't want me to change them but to know my breasts looked better in my eyes would make me feel a lot more confident within my own skin. I would also find it easier to believe my husband when he says my boobs are fantastic 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HHC Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 Hi. I am in an opposite position: my wife is beautiul as yours but she only has one thing I really and strongly would like her to change: small boops. I tried to ask her a couple of time but I have noticed that she felt hurt and offended by this request so I stopped asking. But our sexual life could really improves, I think, because I confess that I need some changes, something different in my sexual life and I don't wanna find satisfaction outside our marriage. New boops would help me a lot :-) You think boobs will suddenly change your sex life? Link to post Share on other sites
Plan 9 from OS Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 Wow, there are a lot of insecure people in the world. I can only speak for myself. I would get a boob job (and have considered it). Has NOTHING to do with other men. Has everything to do with not liking that they aren't as perky as they were. If I can afford to have them look better, why not? I like myself, but when I look in the mirror, I see that they are sagging, and I DON'T like that. I already get attention for them, because in a bra, you can't tell they aren't perfect. Hahaha. So nothing would change. Now, since your wife is going from a B to a D, yeh, she may get some extra stares and flirting. But she's either trustworthy or she isn't. If she doesn't respond to flirting now, some bags of silicone in her chest aren't going to automatically change her personality. I only partially agree with you on this. If she is suffering from "pancake tits" and wants to get that perkiness back then I can absolutely understand wanting to go under the knife to get them fixed. But what I find troublesome is the wife wanting to go from B to D cup. IMO, that is a cry from the wife to get more attention from other men. I know, paranoid thoughts and all that. However, when your partner wants to trade in her breasts for "bewbs", then it sounds like the potential for a mid-life crisis where she wants to feel sexy again by getting the attention of other men. Again, from B to D cup is going into the land of "bewbs"... Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 Hi. I am in an opposite position: my wife is beautiul as yours but she only has one thing I really and strongly would like her to change: small boops. I tried to ask her a couple of time but I have noticed that she felt hurt and offended by this request so I stopped asking. But our sexual life could really improves, I think, because I confess that I need some changes, something different in my sexual life and I don't wanna find satisfaction outside our marriage. New boops would help me a lot :-) You could do a deal. She gets the bigger boobs you think she needs. You get the penis extension that she thinks you need. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
HHC Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 I only partially agree with you on this. If she is suffering from "pancake tits" and wants to get that perkiness back then I can absolutely understand wanting to go under the knife to get them fixed. But what I find troublesome is the wife wanting to go from B to D cup. IMO, that is a cry from the wife to get more attention from other men. I know, paranoid thoughts and all that. However, when your partner wants to trade in her breasts for "bewbs", then it sounds like the potential for a mid-life crisis where she wants to feel sexy again by getting the attention of other men. Again, from B to D cup is going into the land of "bewbs"... I'm still a D but suffer from pancake tits. Why can't a woman with a B cup have pancake tits too? Link to post Share on other sites
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