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daisy love Established Member

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I left class early and went to see my counsellor and after that and reading some threads and posts here trinity's post about accepting the R as it is specifically, I'm priddy sure I'm going to take the leap and leave my big guy. NOW OR NEVER is going to be my new slogan!

 

I'm not too embarrassed to say that you guys are probably right and I'm glad cuz I really want allot more for myself. I'm also embarrassed to admit that his money made it easier to overlook things, including my feelings.

 

He's out of town until Sunday night. My friend wants to throw a party. He leaves me his AMEX to use when he's gone. Should I throw a soirée on Big Guy's card? I'm priddy sure I'll never have access to this kinda credit again and he has put me thru allot. I'm positive I'm going to use it to put a deposit on an apartment and utilities and I already paid for the counsellor since he promised me that.

 

Do you guys think it's fair?

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I left class early and went to see my counsellor and after that and reading some threads and posts here trinity's post about accepting the R as it is specifically, I'm priddy sure I'm going to take the leap and leave my big guy. NOW OR NEVER is going to be my new slogan!

 

I'm not too embarrassed to say that you guys are probably right and I'm glad cuz I really want allot more for myself. I'm also embarrassed to admit that his money made it easier to overlook things, including my feelings.

 

He's out of town until Sunday night. My friend wants to throw a party. He leaves me his AMEX to use when he's gone. Should I throw a soirée on Big Guy's card? I'm priddy sure I'll never have access to this kinda credit again and he has put me thru allot. I'm positive I'm going to use it to put a deposit on an apartment and utilities and I already paid for the counsellor since he promised me that.

 

Do you guys think it's fair?

 

Don't do it. I think you'll regret it.. But if you decide to do it, own it and suffer the consquences.

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I would use it for the counseling fees and an apartment.

 

I would pay for my own party. And what a party it would be! :bunny:

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daisy love Established Member

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I would use it for the counseling fees and an apartment.

 

I would pay for my own party. And what a party it would be! :bunny:

That's what I was thinking! The counselling and appartment is fair.

My friend offered to take me out for dinner and drinks to celebrate on Friday. We'll have fun! :bunny: tonight I'm gonna dance around the appt tho!

Thanks you guys!

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Do you guys think it's fair?

 

Coming from the same person that wrote "the BS from hell" thread who thought a betrayed wife wasn't justified in being angry, I'd say you really don't have a firm concept of "fairness" unless it applies to you and your selfish wants.

 

So with that, what do you care whats fair? Do what you want and like someone else said, suffer the consequences.

 

But I'm a little confused. In other threads you said he chose you. So now that you got him, you don't want him? I'm starting to think money is what matters in relationships for you.

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daisy love Established Member

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I don't remember writing that, but if I did it was really bad of me and I'm sorry. My friend is the one who wanted to use his card for the party. I didn't think it was right so I came here to see if you guys agree. You did!!

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I don't remember writing that, but if I did it was really bad of me and I'm sorry.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/other-man-woman/291902-bs-hell

 

Anyone that wants to know what kind of person you are can read the thread above, and yes, started by you.

 

You carried your venom for the wife throughout that whole thread.

So I don't believe you are sorry, not that it really matters.

 

 

My friend is the one who wanted to use his card for the party.

 

Oh ya, sure:rolleyes: Blame it on a friend.

 

I didn't think it was right so I came here to see if you guys agree.

 

Uh, yes you did think it was right. You thought it was fair because you said he promised money for an apartment and counseling. But I'm pretty sure he'll agree that was BEFORE you decided to dump him.

 

Don't get me wrong, a cheating man deserves to have his ass handed to him, but you aren't much better than him and not your place to be the one to give it to him.

 

 

You did!!

 

No, we didn't. Only a couple people did. And again, that was BEFORE you decided to dump him.

 

But again, do what you want, throw a party for you and your freeloader friends.

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The best use for his credit card, would honestly, be intense psychological therapy for yourself. Find a good, qualified psychiatrist and find out why you are so self asorbed, and why you cannot think about any other person's well being but your own.

If he has great credit, a good year of self paid in patient treatment might save you. Hope you heal and therapy can undo your deep seeded issues.

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Oh Daisy :(

 

What's going on with your man??? Are you sure you are thinking clearly?

 

He loves you!!!!:love: he left his wife for you!! Not many do, at least according to LS! My Billy left his wife in January. He knew I would not tolerate any funny business of sneaking around and all that. He knew it was me or her. I thought you were really happy?

 

While I know it was tough for you at times, just think of the future! You got this guy who adores you, and it doesn't hurt that he ain't struggling to make ends meet ;). He pampers you and spoils you.

 

Did something happen? I wanted to reply to your other thread but it won't let me. After reading your post, I had that dang MJ song in my head!!! I ended up going for a run listening to MJ's greatest hits!!! Dang you!!' :laugh:

 

Get the apartment! I think you deserve it and he can afford it. If he gets pissy, pay him back like $20 a month :)

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All is fair in love, war and affairs....

 

You using the card is not as bad as him having an affair.

 

If he takes you to small claims court, file a counter suit for pain and suffering for everything he put you through! That way you will break even :rolleyes:

 

He is using you for what he is using you for so whats so bad about returning the favor and going out with a bang? Teach his ass a lesson lol

 

But seriously, once he figures out what you did it may antagonize him and complicate going NC. I heard someone say once "Two wrongs don't make a right but it damn sure makes you even!"

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So what does the wife do to get even? :confused: And are DL and the MM prepared to deal with anything that comes from both their actions?

 

Same applies to the W.

 

As far as if they are prepared to face the consequences; thats why people lie and deceive which is one of the foundations of an Affair which is why I find this thread a little ironic.

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"I'm also embarrassed to admit that his money made it easier to overlook things, including my feelings."

 

There are more issues with Daisy then an affair. Embarrassed? Your posting about a crime, overusing anothers credit card for purposes the lender has not given you permission for, this act may very well land you in jail, which I believe could be the best thing that could happen to you, a wake up call. Maybe a stint in prison, if you have not already been, will allow you to do some soul searching, if you are even capable of that, maybe too late, your personality screams sociopath.

I am sure, you will, laugh, giggle, or holler and ramble more self serving attention seeking posts, but karma is going to hit you hard one day, and it will not be pretty.

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it sounds like getting therapy for yourself has done you some good, and I hope you continue to avail yourself of your therapists services.

 

I would encourage you to 'find and pay for your new place, et. all on your own, as if you do so, it will be "all yours" that you have earned and paid for ll on your own, without help from him or anyone else.

 

time to start fresh and apply what you have learned from all of this to your new ( and happier) life...

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There are so many things wrong with this situation I don't even know where to start. And I did go back and read the BS from Hell thread to get an idea of the background.

 

What did happen to make you want to leave? In that thread it was "my baby" this and "My Love" that. Honestly, I don't know how old you are, but it sounded like something my teenage niece would write about her boyfriend.

 

The fact that you are even asking if you should use his credit card to throw a party? You said your friend is the one that brought it up but you obviously considered it a possibility or you wouldn't have even posted the question. Again, speaks to your maturity.

 

I understand having him assist in the apartment IF, and only if, you are living together and have mutually decided to split. But if you are checking out on your own then you are on your own. Get the place yourself that way you don't owe him anything.

 

I agree that maybe IC would benefit you on several levels. Sorry to sound harsh but I think you need a little bit of a reality check.

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daisy love Established Member

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So what does the wife do to get even? :confused: And are DL and the MM prepared to deal with anything that comes from both their actions?
They reached a financial settlement a long time ago.
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daisy love Established Member

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I thought I'd post an update since this will probably be it for me here. I kicked my friend out and called some friends who I know have my best interests at heart. They weren't ever supportive of the A, so I knew they wouldn't give me **** about leaving him. I was right and they were right.

 

I called soon to be ex Big Guy and told him that I was moving out this weekend and since I don't work because he didn't want me to, I'd like a loan or something to help me get on my feet. He wasn't happy but he said he wasn't suprized cuz I've been unhappy with things for along time. Mostly cuz he travels allot. He asked me to wait until he gets home to talk about it, and I said I would. He said it was ok if I wanted to sell some of the jewelry he gave me to.

 

Thanks to all the people who were nice to me all thru this.

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