Grinder88 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Girlfriend and i have been together 6 months she always tells me how i have her heart and how special i am and how much she loves me. Yesterday I see on her phone shes been texting a guy from her past, theve never had sex or really dated as i understand, looking at the text conversation, when she lost power he invited her over to use his shower, she declined because she had "upset him and it would be awkward" then two days ago the conversation was about how the guy "had special tricks he could show her ;)" she said she didnt believe it and he replied "you never let me show you" she tells him she likes to have a relationship and doesnt want to be a one night stand then he says they could have still been friends talked, hung out maybe more. she askes what maybe more meant he gives some dumb answer then the conversation i say ended with her saying something like "well its to late to find out now" TOday i check this guys facebook like the master creeper i am and i see a status "is it the 21st yet" within 10 minutes my girlfriend likes it, now any other time i would just shrug it off, but the 21st just so happens to be the day after i leave out of town for my 3 day vacation. Im really at a loss of what i do to keep me from losing it and maybe everything that i hold dear to my heart. Please I need some advice.
Author Grinder88 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 Well I figured, somebody is going to get hurt and ill be damned if it is me **** this ****
ThaWholigan Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 when guys read their GFs phones - never amounts to anything good...... I'm imagining you guys are early 20s at most. Likely your girlfriend is somewhat attractive and orbiters will simply prod their way towards your girlfriend even in the knowledge there is a relationship. That's a reality that you will have to be comfortable with, especially if your girlfriend is attractive, and/or has a number of male friends (or even a few). Now I've got that out the way...... You should forget about it for now, as far as you're concerned, it's a reach. However, when you get back from out of town, notice any different behaviors in your woman. If you confront her beforehand or raise any suspicion preemptively, that might show that you distrust her and alienate her further - then she really will cheat on you, or just leave you. The best thing you can do is be observant but don't act any differently. If there are any glaring signs, act accordingly. How would you say your relationship has been in the last month, from an observant perspective? Guys always say the good things in the OP, then get to the questionable stuff later.
Imajerk17 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I'd break up with her now. Seriously. Or have her cheat on you next Saturday and have HER break up with YOU. This isn't a court of law where the other person is presumed innocent until proven guilty to beyond a reasonable doubt. Her text conversation with this guy when she entertained him is reason enough.
Author Grinder88 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 We are indeed early 20's Our 6 Month "anniversary" was on Sunday everything has been pretty amazing so far. I have no problem with guy friends, but when the friend is someone from the past, and at some point in that past the guy and my gf showed at least a little interest in each other and are now talking about an old interest im gonna get concerned She seems to be the one who really gets upset about opposite sex friends, and just the opposite sex around me in general. Im pretty attractive or so ive been told and when we go out i sometimes get looks, she picks up on it way before i do and then gets upset
ThaWholigan Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I'd break up with her now. Seriously. Or have her cheat on you next Saturday and have HER break up with YOU. This isn't a court of law where the other person is presumed innocent until proven guilty to beyond a reasonable doubt. Her text conversation with this guy when she entertained him is reason enough. Good point. That's one way to deal with it . Having seen that she entertained it, it's certainly a possibility. Signs are there. I advocate a slow removal from the situation rather than a hasty exit, but it doesn't seem like this girl is all that committed if she's entertaining this kinda talk. OP, your choice, but I don't think there is much promise in this in my opinion.
Author Grinder88 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 Yeah it seems like she talks to him about big things in her life and has definitely mentioned me multiple times. even saying how much she loved the necklace i got her and how happy she is
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