So this is what happened (committed after 2 weeks)

[SeventhFloor]

We dated for 1.5 years. In the last 2 weeks of our relationship, she started hanging out with her ex from highschool that she dated for 1.5 years. This was around 6 years ago. I kind of know the guy, we've hung out a few times.

 

I was fine with it until they started hanging out every single day as "just friends." I told her I was uncomfortable, and she admitted she had feelings for him. I was very supportive, kind and understanding, and told her to take time to figure things out. The next day, she went to his place and told him, "Our relationship is affecting my relationship with my boyfriend - we need to stop seeing each other for a while until it gets sorted out."

 

2 days later, they went out to dinner and she lied about it. He started hitting her up every day, surprising her, wanting to take her out, etc. We break up because she is "confused," and still loves me, and wants to work out her feelings. But she keeps seeing him every day.

 

Every day, she keeps telling me how she wants to work out our relationship but she is sleeping over his house. He kisses her and she tells me how she doesn't like it. A week after we break up, her and I are hanging out and she ditches me to have sex with him. She lied about it. The next morning she emailed me how she felt so empty with him and how she wanted him as a friend and me as her family. That very same night, she went to a party with him and slept over his place again - while telling me she wanted to hang out with me the next day.

 

She told me she wouldn't be having sex with anyone else for at least 3 months. I went over her place to wait for her and found a used condom in the trash. She still swore they didn't have sex, but I emailed him and told him how we were both being played by her. I told him what was really going on, and the things she was saying to me and about him. I told him the absolute truth. He THANKED me! He "dumped" her the next day, and her and I stopped talking. Our last conversation was how she LOVED him, and how she wanted to be with him, and how she would marry him. She said she would give up anything just to be with him.

 

Now, a week later, two weeks after we break up (to figure things out) and one week after she tells me she wants to "be with me" (but sleeps over his house the same night), they are in an official facebook relationship.

 

Is this a rebound? Has she moved on? Was she lying to me the whole time about how she loved me and wanted to be with me, but he made her confused?

 

3 days after we broke up, the guy told her, "You are the only girl I've ever truly loved." - "I would kick all of my housemates out so you could move in." - "I'm not going to take my new job offer so I can spend more time with you."

 

She's not on my facebook, email, twitter, phone, nothing. I can't help wondering - will she ever want to talk to me again? Will this relationship blow up in her face? She says she is happy with him. How long is that going to last?

 

Please be nice.

Edited July 11, 2012 by SeventhFloor

[Chi townD]

She told me she wouldn't be having sex with anyone else for at least 3 months. I went over her place to wait for her and found a used condom in the trash. She still swore they didn't have sex, but I emailed him and told him how we were both being played by her.

 

Dude...*facepalm* it was probably his condom. YOU were the one being played.

 

Thank your lucky stars that you are rid of this crazy ass chick. BELIEVE ME!!! There are a ton of girls out there that would NEVER treat you with such disrespect.

 

Good on you for cutting this chick out of your life. But, I will tell you. You're probably going to hear from her again. The first time he gets in an arguement with her or doesn't spend time with her. She'll probably try to reach out to you. DON'T FALL FOR IT!!! You've been through enough already.

 

NC, heal up and move on.

[SeventhFloor]

Dude...*facepalm* it was probably his condom. YOU were the one being played.

 

Thank your lucky stars that you are rid of this crazy ass chick. BELIEVE ME!!! There are a ton of girls out there that would NEVER treat you with such disrespect.

 

Good on you for cutting this chick out of your life. But, I will tell you. You're probably going to hear from her again. The first time he gets in an arguement with her or doesn't spend time with her. She'll probably try to reach out to you. DON'T FALL FOR IT!!! You've been through enough already.

 

NC, heal up and move on.

 

I know it was his condom. Here's the thing - that very same night they had sex, I was at her place. She was sitting on my lap, crying, hugging me, kissing me, telling me how she loved me...etc. Then she lied to me about wanting to hang out with him. That same night.

 

I told him this.

 

Now she's happy. And in a committed relationship with him! Barely 2 weeks.

Edited July 11, 2012 by SeventhFloor

[mtber75]

I was sort of in the same situation with me being the other guy...Few times she was talking (phone) to her BF while she was with me...I told myself this is really F*cked up that she doesn't respect boundaries! These type of girls will always be doing this, jumping from one guy to the next. So thank god you got rid of her!

[SeventhFloor]

So I just found out that they got together on the same day as our anniversary, and my birthday.

 

All I can say is...what the hell? Their anniversary is the same as ours?! AND My birthday?

 

Is that not a huge slap in the face? What the hell was she thinking?!

[Samilia]

It's hard to get over a highschool sweetheart.. not saying that your relationship was the rebound, but theirs happened first.

 

I don't think I would do anything, I wouldn't talk to her either, what's the point? I like my life drama free and following her life on facebook or waiting for an ugly break up wouldn't comfort me.

 

After what she's done (she handled it very poorly) I would just move on, too many lies, too much resentment.

 

It was her right to break up and date someone else but she really lacked respect on that one, to say the least.

[salmagundi]

"I can't help wondering - will she ever want to talk to me again? Will this relationship blow up in her face? She says she is happy with him. How long is that going to last?"

 

 

The answer to all these questions is "who the f*&k cares?"

 

If it helps one very important thing I've learned about relationships is to pay attention to how it ended with the last guy, because that will likely be how it ends with you a year or two down the road. You're the lucky one, this new guy is going to be you in not too long I'd bet.

 

As for you, all you need to do is smile with relief that you got away from this deceitful selfish twit and move on...

[Pod81]

Cheating is already a dealbreaker for most people, but throw into that mix the amount of lies she told you.

 

Lie #1:

She didn't "stop seeing him for a while to until things get sorted out."

 

Lie #2:

She doesn't love you. Respect precedes love and cheating/lying is just about the highest form of disrespect a sig other can give you. Not to mention also "how she LOVED him, how she wanted to be with him, and how she would marry him. She said she would give up anything just to be with him."

 

Lie #3:

She told you that she "doesn't like when he kisses her." Yet, she almost immediately ditches you to have sex with him?!

 

Lie #4:

She says she "feels so empty with him" and doesn't want to have sex for 3 months, but then proceeds to sleep over his place and have sex AGAIN?!

 

Plus, I'm sure there are a whole lot of other lies that you've omitted to keep this story short. If this girl was Pinocchio, her nose would go around the world and stab herself in the ass! Clearly she's TOXIC, so it shouldn't matter if this is just a rebound or not. If she comes back, you can't even trust this girl - and you shouldn't either! I hate to break it to you, but she cares very little about you - if at all. The only person she cares about is HERSELF.

[CopingGal]

She really is toxic. For her to do that to you...it sounds like she has some mental issues. Serious, stay away. Take it from me. Stay away.