goodguy2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I am in a relationship with a girl who is almost 5 years in to her marriage. I came in contact with this girl first when she was 1 and half years already in to her marriage. She became friend with me and used to very be depressed. She and me became close and she said her husband had told her that he does not love her and he never had touched her. I used to cuddle her when ever we used to meet. She used to talk with me on phone around 6 hours per day during that time. She used to indicate she loves me very much and would keep asking me whether I loved her and whether I was ready to marry her. But I used to act super cool and would say we are just friends and would keep mentioning to her about other girls with whom I used to chat regualry with. I used to say how ever that I wanted to have sex with her. This continued for the next 8 months. Then she got fed up and began to withdraw from me. She did not meet me for 3 months and would phone me to tell mostly about the guys that she used to chat with- apparently to make me jealous. She also said since things did not work between me and her, she had decided to give one more try to her marriage. I really began to miss her very much and began to fight her, beg her and cry for her attention. This continued for 3 months. However she started meeting me after those 3 months. A day or two after we used to meet, I would pick an argument with her and that would end up with me quarelling with her over her decreased attention towards me. This continued for the next 6 months. Then I began to mend my ways and began to show her I really care for her and that I am affectionate about her. Then she returned to me seeing this and things began to improve between us. Then she also began to reciprocate my feelings to her and we began to date again. Some times as though from a subconscious mind, she would ask feebly when me and she would start a family and sometimes would say that in her family they are pressurizing her to have kids and I should get a house, she would say. When I asked her what was the meaning of that, she would say not to ask her anything. She soon began to approve my intention to get sexually intimate with her. But unfortunately I dint have my own space to romance her. This continued for the next one year. Finally I got one house for rent. And we then had romance and sex. She was a virgin then. So by this time our affair was around 3 years old and she had spent her marriage for 4 and half years without sex with her husband. However ever since the time she had tried to rework on her marriage,she had begun to gather courage and initially for few days she began to start chatting with her husband at a stretch and next few months proceeded to hold his hand in her hand and give her hand in his. And then next few months she began to initiate hugging him the result was that for next two years they would hug each other but still there was no sex between them. After I got my own house, we began to have sex once in twenty days. In the last 3 years I have taken care of her completely. I buy for her her dresses, all her lingerie are bought by me. Even sandals , her beauty parlor charges , phone charges, everything is bore by me. She does not ask any money from her husband. During the time that we used to fight she would be in distress financially. This is not to suggest that her husband is poor. He is having a very good career. And also this does not mean that this girl is not bright. She had a very good career herself too and gave it up only so that she could save her marriage. but since she began to work on a thesis she initally had to spend all her money on the research and ran out of money. She is too proud to ask money from her husband however and this is when I had to step in to help gather her self confidence by helping her with her necessary expenditures.. The problem is I began to overturn few marriage proposals with single girls during this period as I was in love with this lover of mine. Recently one good proposal I overturned and my girlfriend said it was very foolish of me. She said she intends to have kids from her husband and that I should have gone ahead with the marriage proposal. I asked her whether her marriage was consummated. She asked me what was meaning of that. I asked her whether she had intercourse with her husband. She said yes. I asked how it happened and when it happened. She said somehow it happened and said I should not ask about details. She said it happened 6 months after she had started having sex with me. Then she said she would give me details only when I was married to somebody and would then tell me what to do. But she said she loves me more than her husband and would keep loving me her entire life no matter if I stopped loving her. She cant leave her family she said. I told her that if I asked about her relationship with her husband a year back she would be in pain and in tears. She said even now she is pain if I ask about her relationship with her husband. Things were actually going rosy and great between us until this happened. How ever very soon we became passionate about each other again and whispered to each other that we love each other and had great emotionally full filling sex. And after next couple of days, we again had good time together. (it is true that her first sex was with me--I could make that out. Also next few were also exclusively with me. Even now her shyness is only slightly gone. If she had full filling marriage with her husband, I would not have seen her shyness, when ever i made love to her.) After this our relationship has further strengthened . Now I don't argue or fight with her over anything as I have realized that she always keeps loving me in all circumstances. So it is meaningless to make my insecurities overtake me. And she is great in reciprocating her love. We meet 3 - 4 times per week and make love 2 times per week.And now she no more insists for condoms when we make love. I feel she no more thinks of her husband even when he is in front of her and that she is inclined in her thoughts towards me. She is completely getting drawn towards me, just as I am towards her. But I again rejected one proposal that my parents brought for me and they are very upset and angry with me. My parents said that my relatives are even whispering that there should be some fault with me due to which I must be rejecting proposals. Definitely I can not say to anybody that I am having an affair with a married woman. I am in confusion about whether I am doing a great sin by not listening to my parents pleading to get married to the girl that they have chosen. More over my lover says she can not divorce her husband since her husband's family have been their close relatives ie she was married in to her close relatives family. Needless to say that I love this girl very much and she loves me more than I love her. She has never spoken against me, even though I fought with her so may times before. And btw I am having very good career myself. And I have very good growth prospects in my career.
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