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Hi everyone just wanted to say i have fnally raised the white flag when it comes to meeting girls. I have had such a hard time meeting girls that usually ended up getting,hurt , betrayed, used, abused, and so fourth. i am just tired of getting hurt all the time and i really don't care anymore if i get a gf or not. it has totally affected me with what i want to do and i am not going to let it get to me anymore. Finally got that off my chest

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Sounds like you need some time off. If keep getting hurt, sounds to me like you keep picking the worng girls. Fix your picker, dude. What's your alternative? Spending the rest of your life masturbating to internet porn? Time for a reality check.

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Hey, I know how you feel, but you can't give up yet. Just fine-tune your radar, and you'll start to feel better soon enough. Trust me, I just finished going through that "I hate dating, and I'm gonna live on a mountain and be a hermit" thing. Once you recover though, dating starts to be fun again. Good luck.

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Lol why do you have trouble? are you a nice guy? good looking? is it just that girls are bitc**? Whats the longest you go before you realize you dont like these girls/

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when you are not looking is when you find what you are looking for.......just do not be a dick to chics.

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I am assuming you are a young man.

 

I am 40 and as a teen/early 20's I felt the same way as you do.

 

My problem with dating girls was lack of confidence, low self esteem and I came on too strong. Girls can sense these things in a man and it's a big turn off.

 

I learned to play it cool with the ladies.

 

I acted as if it didn't matter one way or the other if the girl wanted to be with me or not.

 

I gave the girl I was seeing at the time space, didn't act jealous, wasn't too demanding or whiny.

 

I concentrated on having fun; when the relationship gets all serious it can become a real drag.

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Friend,

 

When you're looking for love, and all you're getting is frustration and futility, it is time to sit back, chillax, and adjust the variables in the love equation.

 

When you've done so, dig deep, find the love and gentility of action that permeate within your spirit, and fan those flames. Then go forth, exuding peace, kindness, and positivity within the world. You'll find that you atttract those of like mind, and you will also find your eyes opening to the true spirited ladies that walk the same emotional "beat" as yourself.

 

Keep the faith, and share your heart.

 

Best regards,

 

Max

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Time out's okay, but once you give yourself time, get back into action. I think that there are times when most of us who have been single for a while begin to doubt whether or not we'll ever have the kind of satisfaction we want out of dating.

 

About a month ago, I came on and wrote a nasty message about this girl who bailed out on a date at the last minute. I was so frustrated, and I could feel the bitterness from all of my other past experiences overwhelming me. But I quickly decided it was time to get back into action, and I have. And I feel even better about my dating experiences now than I did before. The most important thing for someone in your (our) situation is to learn patience, and to approach dating with patience.

 

One thing, though, it's all in how you approach dating. My experience has taught me that finding the right girl is a long process if it's done right, but it can also be a fun one if you manage yourself right. You just have to relax and enjoy yourself. Don't put too much pressure on yourself on a date, and don't do that in a relationship either. Set up a methodology of selecting women based on their level of interest, and stick to it. Look at each date as a chance to know the other person a little better and a chance to learn something about the art of capturing a woman's heart. I'm still learning and have a lot more to learn...but I know much more than I used to.

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Hi i just wanted to say thanks for your advice it is helping a little bit but i am goign to stop dating for my own reasons. I have gotten burned used abused so many times that i am really getting tired of it all. I was never really all that good at dating to begin with because i have been so shy and everytime i try to talk to girls i end up choking. Someday maybe i will but as of right now with all the girls i have met so far there isno way i could even think about dating because i don't want to get hurt agian

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I hear you gh6. I'm much older than you and find "dating" ridiculous to the point of absurdity. It's so artificial. There's nothing wrong with taking some time off from it. Your fear of getting hurt again is disturbing, though. If you have any dealings with anyone, someone is going to hurt you eventually. This is called life and it isn't perfect. You can't climb into a hole and pull dirt over yourself to protect yourself. Please read fredrolin's post two more times. If you don't get to feeling better in a couple of months and are ready to seek healthy relationships, please get yourself some counceling. In the meantime, find a new hobby or spend the rest of the summer doing something you've alwasy wanted to do.

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