pathetic1999 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I met with my therapist last night and she finally opened up more to me about my ex (as she had met with him as well), she said the reason he left me was not about "us" or "me", he was very in love with me and sure as with any relationship there were issues but nothing he wasn't ready to work out. He had just basically had a life crisis, doesn't know who he is what he wants...he was the golden child of the family and does he still want to do what his parents want him to do forever? Does he want to go back for his MBA or is that just what his parents want? He let everything compound on him and combined with his high anxiety he basically freaked out and broke down and walked away. She called it an identity crisis and he agreed, he clearly as she points out isn't ready to move on from me. From the small things listed: *Still has all of our pictures up on his FaceBook *Still shares his G calendar with me and didn't delete the joint reminders / appointments for the future I had made (I just noticed this, even though I un-shared my calendar) *Didn't return any of my things until I asked for it, even though he said he would send it *Reminded his brother to remind my co-worker and friend about my birthday (as my therapist pointed out, just to keep me in his mind) Very small things that do not mean anything, meaning not a sign he wants me back or has worked his "stuff" out but also he's not ready to move away from me either. He still has the one main issue that he's not ready for a solid commitment with anyone and I am, she said she can see him coming back in 6-12 months if he works some stuff out in his head but if he gets busy he might not but he loves me enough so who knows. She is actually afraid he will and he won't have worked through his issues and we would repeat the cycle though. She said I didn't get to see him like she did, he loves me very much and this was a very hard decision for him. It's shocking to me that if someone loves someone that much and they have a break down they just walk away....but I guess I never have had that.
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