irc333 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 There was this one woman I know that is very classy, dated some decent guys here and there, but it never went anywhere. I have known her for a while as a friend, but he tends to be classless, while she has a lot of class. Has a good education, she is self-employed and has an office at a high end of town. Is a professional ball room dancer. Very refined , but not stuck up surprisingly....she's a very nice girl. Girl next door quality. But recently, the guy she's with now, well, the crap that comes out of his mouth in front of her is very embarrassing. I think she's so much into him, she chooses to ignore it. He sound very socially inept. Anyhow, some of our friends that have known each other for a while scheduled a get together, and she brought him along. I hadn't seen her in a while, and she approaches me and we catch up. Her boyfriend isn't with her AT the time, but then he arrives with her drinks. She proceeds to introduce me to him. He shakes my hand and says, "Oh, I guess your her ex boyfriend, right" and laughs a bit. Now, I thought "How is that funny?" And I DO have a sense of humor, I tried to play it off like it was funny, but I saw nothing remotely funny about that. Just seemed to random and awkward of a thing to say. He's also said or had done things questionable that seemed obnoxious, and some people are starting to think, "What the heck does she in this guy?" Recently, she posted a profile pic of her with him. She's in a bikini, and she's smiling nicely and naturely at the camera, while he's not looking at the camera, but more at her breasts/body while the photo is being taken. I just something rather sleezy in that guy. Or...is it just "opposites attract?
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 The question is...where is her self-confidence at? Just because a woman looks nice and all put together in her life from the outside doesn't mean that she has good self-worth or value. Women also like the man who seems confident even If he's just a jerk, they think that getting this guy to like them and interested in them is some form of validation. Women want to feel "good enough". Also think of it in terms of how are the guys she usually dates? very clean-cut, proper, predictable, nice but not excited, nothing really peaks her interest on these men because they are basically..simple. Simple to read, simple to figure out and that's just not very exciting and can be boring for some women. Plus maybe she's going through a moment where since these guys didn't work out maybe a different guy will? why are these men not sticking around If they're decent guys? because whether a guy acts like a gentlemen or a douche they can still have the same agenda. At any rate this strikes me primarily as insecurity, whenever a woman dates a man that pretty much everyone else dislikes it's because she doesn't even know If she can do any better. And she'll probably overemphasize how nice or good intentioned he could be or how promising he is If he just fixes these problems because yadda yadda yadda he's really a good man underneath and loves her...Zzzzz wake me up when that conversation is over. A lot of assumptions here but this is a general basis of things you could look for, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
Feelsgoodman Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 There was this one woman I know that is very classy, dated some decent guys here and there, but it never went anywhere. I have known her for a while as a friend, but he tends to be classless, while she has a lot of class. Has a good education, she is self-employed and has an office at a high end of town. Is a professional ball room dancer. Very refined , but not stuck up surprisingly....she's a very nice girl. Girl next door quality. But recently, the guy she's with now, well, the crap that comes out of his mouth in front of her is very embarrassing. I think she's so much into him, she chooses to ignore it. He sound very socially inept. Anyhow, some of our friends that have known each other for a while scheduled a get together, and she brought him along. I hadn't seen her in a while, and she approaches me and we catch up. Her boyfriend isn't with her AT the time, but then he arrives with her drinks. She proceeds to introduce me to him. He shakes my hand and says, "Oh, I guess your her ex boyfriend, right" and laughs a bit. Now, I thought "How is that funny?" And I DO have a sense of humor, I tried to play it off like it was funny, but I saw nothing remotely funny about that. Just seemed to random and awkward of a thing to say. He's also said or had done things questionable that seemed obnoxious, and some people are starting to think, "What the heck does she in this guy?" Recently, she posted a profile pic of her with him. She's in a bikini, and she's smiling nicely and naturely at the camera, while he's not looking at the camera, but more at her breasts/body while the photo is being taken. I just something rather sleezy in that guy. Or...is it just "opposites attract? It sounds to me like you're a bit jealous of the "chauvinistic pig" and wouldn't mind sticking your own pecker in the "refined" ballroom dancer. Out of curiosity, did you ever try asking her out? Did she reject you? 1
Negative Nancy Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 What kind of men are "classy women" are supposed to date when there are no decent men around anyway? All men are chauvinist pigs,so it's not like women really have a choice 1
Woggle Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Just because a woman has a classy facade does not mean she actually has class. Kim Kardashian and Paris Hilton have high class images but they are certainly not classy. 2
Feelsgoodman Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 What kind of men are "classy women" are supposed to date when there are no decent men around anyway? All men are chauvinist pigs,so it's not like women really have a choice All men should be "chauvinist pigs", but unfortunately that's not the case. There is no shortage of nice guy/white knight types like the OP, but for some incomprehensible (to them anyway) reason, women do not want to date them and would rather spread their legs for the chauvinists Ha, I wonder why! 1
Feelsgoodman Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Recently, she posted a profile pic of her with him. She's in a bikini, and she's smiling nicely and naturely at the camera, while he's not looking at the camera, but more at her breasts/body while the photo is being taken. I just something rather sleezy in that guy. Or...is it just "opposites attract? Here's a tip. Women are horny as f*ck (or at least, physically and psychologically healthy ones are). They want to be seen and treated as objects of sexual desire. When a guy she's already dating is staring at her boobs/body, it's a compliment and it turns her on. It's totally different from being stared at by a creepy stranger. Women like men who are sexual and passionate. Unlike nice guy/white knight types, "chauvinist pigs" do not try to suppress their sexuality. That's why women see them as lovers and nice guy/white knight types as friends.
Negative Nancy Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 while he's not looking at the camera, but more at her breasts/body while the photo is being taken. I just something rather sleezy in that guy. As if you wouldn't have done the same thing.
NYC-BigKat Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 What kind of men are "classy women" are supposed to date when there are no decent men around anyway? All men are chauvinist pigs,so it's not like women really have a choice You'r wrong! I'm far from any kind of piggie. I'm not like that at all. I'm the respectful type of guy & never get a shot. Maybe 1 out of every 10 girls I see with decent guys. The rest date losers or smooth-talkers. This whole dating is going to be sham!
WonderKid Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Why didn't you just say "no I'm not" when he asked you that and shook your hand? I wouldn't be mad. As long as she didn't complain about it in the long run. I see her as weak. She doesn't know herself or what she wants. Women know what they can do to a man. And just as a man can make her feel beautiful, women can make men feel confident. I'm a nice guy but never get friendzoned because I don't allow it. And if I know a woman that dates bad guys, *******s, jerks then that's her preference and her time she's wasting. She's a grown ass woman and knows the decision she made. When the guy gives her the flux, she'll have no one to blame but herself.
Author irc333 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 I actually wasn't interested in her, never even asked her out. Just didn't see my self dating her. So there is no envy there. The last guy that dated her, it didn't last because of differing political beliefs. She was highly liberal, thus not my type either. She actually removed me from her friends list on FB because one her other previous boyfriends didn't like me being friends with her on FB. Funny how I was seen as a threat by other men as to have been enough influence for her enough to remove me. lol But typically, if a group of people sees there is something obviously wrong with this guy and his ability to be rude and uncouth in public, eventually it'll get under her skin, and he'll just be "another guy she dated a few months". One time, at a tavern with a group of friends, he grabbed a female friends smartphone and posted in HER name, "Wow , <his name> is so HOT, I'd like to DO him!" The owner of the phone grabbed her phone back, and told him to knock it off, and she deleted it later off her FB. Total lack of respect for his girlfriend. But hey, perhaps some sick puppies think "That's what being a bad boy and gettin' the wimmen, is all about, eh?" lol Why didn't you just say "no I'm not" when he asked you that and shook your hand? I did clarify, I just said to him that I know her from previous events a few years ago, and she concurred. I guess that put his mind at ease.
WonderKid Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I actually wasn't interested in her, never even asked her out. Just didn't see my self dating her. So there is no envy there. The last guy that dated her, it didn't last because of differing political beliefs. She was highly liberal, thus not my type either. She actually removed me from her friends list on FB because one her other previous boyfriends didn't like me being friends with her on FB. Funny how I was seen as a threat by other men as to have been enough influence for her enough to remove me. lol But typically, if a group of people sees there is something obviously wrong with this guy and his ability to be rude and uncouth in public, eventually it'll get under her skin, and he'll just be "another guy she dated a few months". One time, at a tavern with a group of friends, he grabbed a female friends smartphone and posted in HER name, "Wow , <his name> is so HOT, I'd like to DO him!" The owner of the phone grabbed her phone back, and told him to knock it off, and she deleted it later off her FB. Total lack of respect for his girlfriend. But hey, perhaps some sick puppies think "That's what being a bad boy and gettin' the wimmen, is all about, eh?" lol I did clarify, I just said to him that I know her from previous events a few years ago, and she concurred. I guess that put his mind at ease. She has no respect for herself so he's not gonna respect her anytime soon. And if she deleted me off FB for that reason I wouldn't take it personally but I wouldn't be friendly with her neither. It's crazy what women will put up with but claim they won't tolerate.
InJest Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 How is this guy chauvinistic? Looking at his girlfriends body? She's the one that posted the picture. Do you know anything else about him besides what you've told us here? Does he share any hobbies with her? Is he successful in general? I have to agree with everyone else. You're envious, whether you can admit it or not. Just because you didn't have the balls to ask her out, doesn't mean you didn't want to. 1
Curtis24 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 "What the heck does she in this guy?" LOOKS It never ceases to amaze me that people still wonder about this!
Curtis24 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 You know how a bunch of women will get together a denigrate a beautiful girl, spreading rumors, etc.? Men do the exact same thing, and the OP is doing it right now.
Curtis24 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Just because a woman looks nice and all put together in her life from the outside doesn't mean that she has good self-worth or value. Are you for real??? LMAO. You really think that this woman is dating someone she's not attracted to because she has "low self-esteem"?
Author irc333 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 You know how a bunch of women will get together a denigrate a beautiful girl, spreading rumors, etc.? Men do the exact same thing, and the OP is doing it right now. It's not a rumor if it's true.
Feelsgoodman Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I actually wasn't interested in her, never even asked her out. Just didn't see my self dating her. So there is no envy there. Admit it, you didn't have the balls to ask her out. Either that or you knew that you had no chance. It's painfully obvious that you like this "refined ballroom dancer"...Otherwise, you wouldn't have bothered to start this thread in the first place.
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 It's not a rumor if it's true. Look irc, the best thing you could do is body slam this guy through a bar table and claim your woman like a man! 1
Author irc333 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 Admit it, you didn't have the balls to ask her out. Either that or you knew that you had no chance. It's painfully obvious that you like this "refined ballroom dancer"...Otherwise, you wouldn't have bothered to start this thread in the first place. There's nothing to admit, I am just contributing content provider for all things we might want to ponder or reflect on. Even perhaps can relate to the situation involving those that have friends that don't care for the new boyfriend/girlfriend this person is dating.
WonderKid Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Admit it, you didn't have the balls to ask her out. Either that or you knew that you had no chance. It's painfully obvious that you like this "refined ballroom dancer"...Otherwise, you wouldn't have bothered to start this thread in the first place. This gave me a flashback LOL I told my friend one day that he didn't have the balls to ask this certain girl out. He sent me a text pic of his balls saying, "are you crazy!? I have the balls!" LOL
Oncehadluv Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 btw what is a " refined ballroom dancer" im over 30 and this is a first time i hear such a title
manup Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Another case of puttin the pussy on a pedestal, most women can't helped but be attracted to a pig/bad boy douche. Just deal with it homes, he probably says horrible **** all day long and I guarantee you she giggles and then gives him a blow job. It's life mayne just deal with it.
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 You like her, women like her, don't have one, are jealous, and that's why you want to understand the attraction. From what you've told, the guys is just having fun and being loose. That's what she and many others want. That's is everything you need to understand. Nothing else. Political beliefs? WTF? What guy is ever gonna' think "Man look at that ass! But she has the wrong political beliefs" WTF? She could vote for lettuce and it wouldn't deter me from f@#king.
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