add2718 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Ever since I got back with my ex about a month ago, I've been feeling more and more like I'm just being used. Reasons: Rather than take the bus down to a clinic she has to go to every day (she's a recovering prescription drug addict), she will wait till I'm free and ask me to take her down there (she doesn't drive). (Or other people with cars like her father)Rarely says thanks when I pay for things when we're outWhen she does pay for stuff when we're out, she comments on how guys have never let her pay before, or something to that effectHer only job is a couple days a week at a pizza place, so she doesn't have any money. She will ask for a hundred bucks or so at least once a month, and then ask for more before she's done paying it back.She commented to me the other night about how I make the most money out of any of the guys she's ever dated (I' made like 50k last year, I'm not rich)Basically, I feel that the only time I have her full attention is during sex. Other times, I will be talking to her and she'll be looking at her phone for an extended period of time, on her Nook (using my internet access), reading a magazine, etc. I kinda feel unimportant in her life. Is this stuff normal? I don't have the greatest amount of girlfriend experience....
Feelsgoodman Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Ever since I got back with my ex about a month ago, I've been feeling more and more like I'm just being used. Reasons: Rather than take the bus down to a clinic she has to go to every day (she's a recovering prescription drug addict), she will wait till I'm free and ask me to take her down there (she doesn't drive). (Or other people with cars like her father)Rarely says thanks when I pay for things when we're outWhen she does pay for stuff when we're out, she comments on how guys have never let her pay before, or something to that effectHer only job is a couple days a week at a pizza place, so she doesn't have any money. She will ask for a hundred bucks or so at least once a month, and then ask for more before she's done paying it back.She commented to me the other night about how I make the most money out of any of the guys she's ever dated (I' made like 50k last year, I'm not rich)Basically, I feel that the only time I have her full attention is during sex. Other times, I will be talking to her and she'll be looking at her phone for an extended period of time, on her Nook (using my internet access), reading a magazine, etc. I kinda feel unimportant in her life. Is this stuff normal? I don't have the greatest amount of girlfriend experience.... I stopped reading at the bolded part. Dating a junkie cannot lead to anything good.
SunandMoon Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I don't have much relationship experience either. But I have been used before. And from the bulletpoints, it sure looks like you're being used, dude.
FitChick Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 What are you getting out of this relationship other than sex? It would be cheaper to pay a hooker by the sound of things.
Radu Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Ever since I got back with my ex about a month ago, I've been feeling more and more like I'm just being used. Reasons: Rather than take the bus down to a clinic she has to go to every day (she's a recovering prescription drug addict), she will wait till I'm free and ask me to take her down there (she doesn't drive). (Or other people with cars like her father)Rarely says thanks when I pay for things when we're outWhen she does pay for stuff when we're out, she comments on how guys have never let her pay before, or something to that effectHer only job is a couple days a week at a pizza place, so she doesn't have any money. She will ask for a hundred bucks or so at least once a month, and then ask for more before she's done paying it back.She commented to me the other night about how I make the most money out of any of the guys she's ever dated (I' made like 50k last year, I'm not rich)Basically, I feel that the only time I have her full attention is during sex. Other times, I will be talking to her and she'll be looking at her phone for an extended period of time, on her Nook (using my internet access), reading a magazine, etc. I kinda feel unimportant in her life. Is this stuff normal? I don't have the greatest amount of girlfriend experience.... I have had quite a few relationships where i was used. This is being used, get out ... be carefull though, being a recovering drug addict [with probably low self-esteem], she might decide to tie you down with a baby if she gets a wiff of this so once you say good-bye [if you say it], NO MORE SEX.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Add, this isn't normal. I am not sure if she is just lazy and clueless or if she is using you though. Either way, you can do better. Perhaps it's time for another girlfriend. If she isn't meeting your needs, other then your sexual ones, this is also a good reason to call it off with someone.
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