unamber Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 (edited) I don't know if you guys think this, but I find it hard to find good advice about how to make decisions. Personally I'm a student and I am finding out that as I get older, I find that a lot of my problems have been to do with the fact that I can't make choices. Some people might say it is that we are often overloaded, every day with endless choice. But I feel that this is a personal problem. It is my responsibility to deal with having choices and I can't find a way to be more positive about my relationship with choice. Thankfully I'm poor, so I don't have much choice to make when shopping, I am restricted to the cheaper things, and there is some novelty in living an extremely frugal lifestyle. But it is very unrewarding, and I do almost nothing because I cannot choose what to do. I just cannot believe the amount of choice I have now. Even though I've chosen a profession, I must make choices every day about how to study for it and what job afterwards. Most of the time I feel stupidly childish about this but unable to explain why it is so hard to live with choices. Looking at this from an outside perspective it feels ridiculous and obvious that all I need to do is but faith into a decision, own the decision and give it my unconditional approval. That's it. My choice, my decision. But I can't explain how I feel. The second I make a choice which seems reasonable, I am overwhelmed with feelings that I can't handle and don't want to feel, so I go back to making no choice. What I have been doing is that, whenever I am presented with I choice, I rationalize some sort of excuse, or blame something. But this is so old now. What I understand is that I really do have choices and the freedom to choose but I'm not working through understanding things in an adult way. All I can do is be brutally honest with myself, the thought of choices makes me panic, sometimes seriously. This is not a mature way to deal with things. So how do you start to build a better relationship with having your own choices? Edited July 11, 2012 by unamber
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