Angieee88 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Hey All, first I will start off by saying I know this isgoing to seem like a really silly question and it may be common sense foreveryone else however I just can’t seem to work out what to do next and it’sdriving me crazy... At the start of this year I came out of a three year longrelationship. My ex decided he no longer loved me so it ended. I was upset fora while and my friend from work suggested I get right back out there and saidshe thought her brother and I would really get along and that I should contacthim. So I thought ‘why the hell not??’ I added him on facebook and we chattedthere a little and I asked if he wanted to catch up sometime which he agreed toand we swapped numbers. The day came and unfortunately due to work commitments(he was on call) he had to cancel last minute but said he would make it up tome. However the next week he went away to America for a holiday for threemonths, so I did not hear from him naturally. The weekend he returned was a planned camping trip for hissister (my work friends) engagement. It was for four nights 5 days… we hit itoff chatting and we really got along well actually and ended up sharing a tentfor the first night due to there really being no where else I could go. Thefollowing night however we both got really drunk and slept together (as in wentall the way). We woke up the next morning I was a little embarrassed but weended up pretty much staying in the tent all morning and day cuddling andtalking… it actually wasn’t awkward or weird either in the end. We shared atent for the rest of the two nights but we didn’t do anything, he just wouldcuddle me or hold my hand. It was time to go home and he just said ‘well I’ll see youaround maybe’ and at the time I thought ‘great!! Stuffed that one up he willnever call…’ but the first night back home he texted me causally asking how myday was and what I thought about the trip… but he didn’t ask me out/ask to seeme again So my actual question is, how on earth do I know if this guysee’s be as a ‘booty call’ or ‘Plan B girl’ OR if he is actually interested inme?? Should I continue keeping in contact with him, or should I just forget it
Leigh 87 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I have not read all your post. Because all you need to know, is that: if a guy is into you, he will call you, text you, and make it known that he wants to make an effort getting to know you better. If he does not call you or text you often, unless he wants sex, then he is not that into you, and your a booty call. He may still like you and think your a nice, attractive girl - but you did not captivate him enough to want you as a girlfriend. Don't be offended, just because a guy uses you as a booty call, does not mean he does not like you. He may think highly of you. It is like a job interview - a person MAY like you, but your just not the best person fro the job.... Just wait for him to contact you, if he does and he likes you, he will make an effort. If not, do not contact him.
Leigh 87 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I re read it. a guy normally arrages to see you again soon, if he is into you or considers you girlfriend material. The fact he contacted you is a good sign, he may follow it up with an invite. At this stage, he may or may not like you that way. All you can do is wait until he askes to see you again. If he doesn't, you know....
Emilia Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 It was time to go home and he just said ‘well I’ll see youaround maybe’ and at the time I thought ‘great!! Stuffed that one up he willnever call…’ but the first night back home he texted me causally asking how myday was and what I thought about the trip… but he didn’t ask me out/ask to seeme again So my actual question is, how on earth do I know if this guysee’s be as a ‘booty call’ or ‘Plan B girl’ OR if he is actually interested inme?? Should I continue keeping in contact with him, or should I just forget it Why don't you ask him? Is he supposed to read your mind that you want more? He initiated contact on the first night back, why don't you ask him out on a date? After you slept with him I don't think 'keeping in touch' will interest him. It wouldn't interest me either. You are either prepared to keep going with this or let the guy move on. 1
Author Angieee88 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 Thats just it I would LOVE to ask him out again, but people have told me NEVER to contact him first and wait for him to make the move. Others have said to just get it over with and ask to see him again. *sigh* I really am starting to not like this dating stuff haha I was going to wait until next week if I don't hear from him i'll ask if he wants to catch up next weekend I think.
Leigh 87 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Seriously, if he is into you, he will contact you and arrange to get to know you better. If not, he is indifferent, and may like you, but not enough for you to bother with. It is OKAY to make the first move, but only ocne the guy has expressed interest and shown he is into you.
manup Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Hey All, first I will start off by saying I know this isgoing to seem like a really silly question and it may be common sense foreveryone else however I just can’t seem to work out what to do next and it’sdriving me crazy... At the start of this year I came out of a three year longrelationship. My ex decided he no longer loved me so it ended. I was upset fora while and my friend from work suggested I get right back out there and saidshe thought her brother and I would really get along and that I should contacthim. So I thought ‘why the hell not??’ I added him on facebook and we chattedthere a little and I asked if he wanted to catch up sometime which he agreed toand we swapped numbers. The day came and unfortunately due to work commitments(he was on call) he had to cancel last minute but said he would make it up tome. However the next week he went away to America for a holiday for threemonths, so I did not hear from him naturally. The weekend he returned was a planned camping trip for hissister (my work friends) engagement. It was for four nights 5 days… we hit itoff chatting and we really got along well actually and ended up sharing a tentfor the first night due to there really being no where else I could go. Thefollowing night however we both got really drunk and slept together (as in wentall the way). We woke up the next morning I was a little embarrassed but weended up pretty much staying in the tent all morning and day cuddling andtalking… it actually wasn’t awkward or weird either in the end. We shared atent for the rest of the two nights but we didn’t do anything, he just wouldcuddle me or hold my hand. It was time to go home and he just said ‘well I’ll see youaround maybe’ and at the time I thought ‘great!! Stuffed that one up he willnever call…’ but the first night back home he texted me causally asking how myday was and what I thought about the trip… but he didn’t ask me out/ask to seeme again So my actual question is, how on earth do I know if this guysee’s be as a ‘booty call’ or ‘Plan B girl’ OR if he is actually interested inme?? Should I continue keeping in contact with him, or should I just forget it You were probably a booty call, but he could want more ask him.
Emilia Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Thats just it I would LOVE to ask him out again, but people have told me NEVER to contact him first and wait for him to make the move. But you already spent 4 days together and he HAS contacted you since... I don't get it. Why didn't you have sex again in the tent?
SJC2008 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 A guy I went to HS with married his ONS that turned into a LTR.. It's possible but highly unlikely.
FitChick Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Maybe he's not calling because he is worried that you only want him for sex.
shayla Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 He may be wondering what is on your mind, and wondering if you are interested in him! Ask him, that's the only way you will know for sure.
Negative Nancy Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Can a 'One Night Stand' Ever turn into more??? No, because men aren't interested in true, real commitment anyway.
WonderKid Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 It can get you knocked up of course if you're not careful. Lol
Recommended Posts