On a date: your choice of clothing and likelihood that a guy will make a move

[Eternal Sunshine]

I am just wondering if what you wear influences guys to make physical/sexual moves on dates.

 

If I (general I) wear a low cut top and/or a short skirt, would I be sending signals that I "want it"?

 

Conversely; what do you wear if you don't "want it"?

[miss_jaclynrae]

I just wear whatever I want.

 

 

Something comfortable, that suits the date, and that I look hot in without looking like a tramp.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I just wear whatever I want.

 

 

Something comfortable, that suits the date, and that I look hot in without looking like a tramp.

 

 

Do you think a short skirt and knee high boots make a girl look like a tramp?

[miss_jaclynrae]

Do you think a short skirt and knee high boots make a girl look like a tramp?

 

I don't think it is a very CLASSY outfit, but then again my taste is different from others. That is something I have rocked out at the bar, but I personally would not wear it on a date...

 

 

 

But then again, depends on the whole look. I have worn short skirts on dates, boots, and even low cut tops. It all depends on the overall look and a huge part is the way the women wearing them acts. KWIM?

[fucpcg]

Do you think a short skirt and knee high boots make a girl look like a tramp?

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Style and tramp are not to be confused. What you described is style. I never go after a girl on the first date, that's for getting to know each other. Her outfit does not change that. But alcohol might. However I don't take a woman out drinking the first night either

[zengirl]

IMO: A lot of looking like a 'tramp' depends on the fit and degree, ES.

 

Fit is obvious - there are short skirts that look stylish, and short skirts that look too tight or like a postage note or too young or whatever. IIRC, most pics of you show you as fairly stylish. I'd imagine you'd only wear well-fitting, well-made clothes, so the fit shouldn't hinder you.

 

Degree is more like, well, a short skirt and boots? Cool. A low cut shirt in addition to that could easily put you 'over the top.' The general rule is to pick a body part to emphasize - either chest or ass/legs - and dress the other half more demurely when going for classy and sexy rather than tarty. Same as you wouldn't put on major eye makeup and major cheek makeup and major lip makeup all together probably.

 

As to whether a man will make a move . . . I would say it would depend on the man himself and the total vibe he gets from you, not just your outfit, as to whether he'd think you're up for a go. I don't think many men think, "Oh, good, she's shown some cleavage, she wants to throw down." Maybe if you wore an outfit that literally looked like a streetwalker or something, but I can't imagine you would and it doesn't seem like you're talking about dress to that degree. Most women dress at least a little bit sexy on dates.

[Leigh 87]

It depends who you are. You should express who you are through your clothes.

 

Personally, I am a curvy girl, so I like to show off my curves with tight, new jeans (boot cut, and I prefer black:)), and a casual top, albiet a nice one. And a statement bag and high, HIGH shoes!!!

[Sugarkane]

I would choose either the skirt or boots (I do like boots a lot and its winter here). I dont think I would choose both at The same.

[veggirl]

I would wear a sun dress with wedges now. In the winter, skinny jeans, heels (maybe boots) and a cute top.

 

I wouldnt wear a short skirt and knee high boots...yeah I think that seems like a clubby / bar look which could send the wrong message...I'd think any party girl type outfit might.

[DuchessKaye]

I say, it depends on how you carry your sense of style or depends on the date, maybe? If it's a movie date, dinner date, I'd wear a casual dress, something feminine, just minimum cleavage, nothing too tight or revealing, and classy shoes and bag.

If it's a date going on a night concert or some rock shows, I'd wear something like leather jeans and boots. If it's a beach date, then of course, you know.

 

I'm actually a follower of Bohemian Fashion Style and that's what I usually wear on my regular dates.

 

Anyway, do men here have preferences on what a woman must wear on a date?

[carhill]

what do you wear if you don't "want it"?

 

Generally, items which minimize your secondary sexual characteristics. If large busted, a bra which minimizes volume and spreads it out rather than projecting it. If small waisted, clothing which lessens accentuation of waist/hip/bust proportion. Heeled shoes will generally alter posture and accentuate legs, so flats or low heels might be a better choice. A more casual hairstyle which minimizes neck and facial symmetry. More opaque clothing (example: a top which hides one's brassiere) Etc, Etc.

[Eternal Sunshine]

BTW I am not going on any dates, I am taking a dating break (unless maybe if Hokie was here ).

 

I am just asking in general because I never know where to draw the line of looking too easy lol. I don't know if men even care that much...

[runner]

I say, it depends on how you carry your sense of style or depends on the date, maybe? If it's a movie date, dinner date, I'd wear a casual dress, something feminine, just minimum cleavage, nothing too tight or revealing, and classy shoes and bag.

If it's a date going on a night concert or some rock shows, I'd wear something like leather jeans and boots. If it's a beach date, then of course, you know.

 

I'm actually a follower of Bohemian Fashion Style and that's what I usually wear on my regular dates.

 

Anyway, do men here have preferences on what a woman must wear on a date?

 

as long as it looks like she made some effort to look good. to do otherwise makes me feel like being out with me just isn't worth it

[zengirl]

I wonder if it's harder for you and girls like you, ES, because you're so curvy (a good thing!) and that lends itself more to sex appeal.

 

I've got decent sized breasts, but still have an overall Asian-slim look, and I find I'd have to really tart it up to worry about it (more than I'd ever be comfortable with anyway). But it's because while I have some curves, they are modest.

 

This is an honest musing - perhaps I'm dead wrong. But I've always thought it seemed harder for girls who were more va-va-voom types to find that line.

[USMCHokie]

I don't know if men even care that much...

 

Some do, some don't. Like I've said before, those who appreciate fashion will value it more in others, while those who don't won't even know the difference.

 

The question is, who do you want to be?

[yongyong]

If you see a well decorated dessert (dress nice and sexy) , do you salivate more?

 

It's even in an easy to open container (wearing a skirt, hence easier to insert).....does it make you tempting?

[MrNate 2.0]

I don't think the clothing matters too much on if the guy will make a move (unless you're wearing a leather pancho). I think it more so comes down to what kind of move he will make according to your clothing.

[Els]

I know this quote is a bit antiquated and not terribly PC/feminist-approved/whatever, but I've generally found it to be true:

 

Wearing excessively revealing clothing is like rolling in manure. Sure, you'll get lots of attention, but mostly from pigs.

[carhill]

By default, I assumed that the 'date' had already been vetted to minimize the bovine factor

[Els]

By default, I assumed that the 'date' had already been vetted to minimize the bovine factor

 

Sometimes it takes a while for, uh, bovinity to be evident, I'd think.

[ThingsAreComplicated]

Doesn't matter for me, if you have no brains you can show as much cleavage as you want. But I would assume the majority of men would get the "clou" if you dress hot. So yes, clothing influences that a guy "will make a move"

[goldengirl11]

Im meeting an old male colleague (who got back in touch with on Facebook recently) tomorrow daytime for a coffee which, although I'm sure isn't a date, am still wondering what to wear as I like him. Was probably going to wear a purple dress, black heels with a black cardigan maybe, but I'm wondering if I'd be more comfortable in jeans and a top say. Any ideas? It's a tricky one!

[Mme. Chaucer]

 

Conversely; what do you wear if you don't "want it"?

 

A burka. Naturally.

[Eternal Sunshine]

A burka. Naturally.

 

 

thanks for the tip.

[Eternal Sunshine]

Im meeting an old male colleague (who got back in touch with on Facebook recently) tomorrow daytime for a coffee which, although I'm sure isn't a date, am still wondering what to wear as I like him. Was probably going to wear a purple dress, black heels with a black cardigan maybe, but I'm wondering if I'd be more comfortable in jeans and a top say. Any ideas? It's a tricky one!

 

If you like him and want him to see you as more than a friend then sex it up for sure. It really depends on the jeans. If they are tight and sexy, then go for it. If they are baggy, you are probably better off wearing a dress. Don't go for comfort, go for what looks better. You will only have to endure it for 2 hours tops.