LittleMonkey Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I've met this amazing girl about a month ago, we became really close, and then she flew to this pre-planned trip abroad for a month and a half. We talked about talking all the time when she's there, but we only texted since she took the flight, and inconsistently. At the start I texted more often, but didn't get as much response so I lessened the texts, now sending every few days. I guess she's busy with her trip, but I'm seeing her updating her facebook and can't help but think why she'd do that and not talk to me like we said? I barely at all know what's going on with her, as she doesn't really tell me what she did. The fears hit me, that she will forget me, that what she feels for me will fade.. That I'll bug her too much or come off as needy and she'll grow tired of me... The last few days shes hasn't been online at all, so I presume she's on a trip with the rest of the camp (it's a part staying at a hosting family, part camp with other people kind of trip). I haven't wrote her in a few days, Yesterday morning she did go online, wrote something on facebook, but nothing to me. It's so hard passing the days, I don't know what to do with myself.. I sent her a text yesterday (4 days after my previous text which she did reply to, maybe hurriedly though) saying I'm curious to hear what's up with her, and that I'm tninking of her. She didn't get it yet since she hasn't been online. I Keep being afraid what if she doesn't reply.. what if it annoys her.. What do I do? I really want this to work, it's been 15 days since she left, 1/3 of the trip, and I'm a mess.
Leigh 87 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Your clearly more into her than she is into you. It is early days, so she may well grow to be just as crazy about you -- but the fact is, she is not that into you right now; not at the level you are into her. Look. If your that into someone, if you can get onto facebook while your abroad... then you would message the person you were into. There is no way my boyfriend would go away, go on facebook, and NOT talk to me on chat, or send me a msg if that was the only method of contact.. If she is that eager to hear from you, why would she go on facebook, and not bother writing you? It sounds really negative sorry - look, I am sure you got along well and she DOES think your a nice, sweet guy. She just may not be THAT invested right now, because ti is early days, and she wants to enjoy her trip, without thinking too much about a " relationship"., Just play it cool, wait until she comes back, and get on with you rlife until then. If she wants to be with you, it will become apparant when she is back. At this stage, she has not shown you she wants to be with you in a relationship. So hold up, back off a bit, and wait for her to show you signs she is interested:)
Author LittleMonkey Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 Your clearly more into her than she is into you. It is early days, so she may well grow to be just as crazy about you -- but the fact is, she is not that into you right now; not at the level you are into her. Look. If your that into someone, if you can get onto facebook while your abroad... then you would message the person you were into. There is no way my boyfriend would go away, go on facebook, and NOT talk to me on chat, or send me a msg if that was the only method of contact.. If she is that eager to hear from you, why would she go on facebook, and not bother writing you? It sounds really negative sorry - look, I am sure you got along well and she DOES think your a nice, sweet guy. She just may not be THAT invested right now, because ti is early days, and she wants to enjoy her trip, without thinking too much about a " relationship"., Just play it cool, wait until she comes back, and get on with you rlife until then. If she wants to be with you, it will become apparant when she is back. At this stage, she has not shown you she wants to be with you in a relationship. So hold up, back off a bit, and wait for her to show you signs she is interested:) Thanks for the comment. The thing that makes this all so confusing is that when we did meet before she went on the trip, she said how she really likes me, and that I'm so handsome, that I really make her happy, that she thinks about me all the time and misses me when she's away. She asked me not to forget her while she's on the trip, and we even talked about the future and that she wants to stay at my place, even the L word popped up. I sent the message I wrote about, but since she didn't go online yet she hasn't seen it. I hope she will reply, don't know what to do if she won't. I'm not going to bug her anymore, I'll let her have fun, I do want it to come from her too. I just hope it's not too late. She's really amazing and everything I've ever dreamed..
Negative Nancy Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 How do I survive her being away for a month? Just "comfort" () yourself with another woman, 99% of men cheat anyway, so you might as well join the ranks.
FitChick Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Why don't you do interesting things and go to interesting places (take pictures) so you can tell her about them when she returns? You don't want her to think you are sitting and pining away.
Author LittleMonkey Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 Just "comfort" () yourself with another woman, 99% of men cheat anyway, so you might as well join the ranks. Sorry, I'm not that kind of man. Besides, I can't think of any other woman. Why don't you do interesting things and go to interesting places (take pictures) so you can tell her about them when she returns? You don't want her to think you are sitting and pining away. If only I knew what interesting things to do, or where to go.. I have a day job, live in a city I don't really know anyone in (moved in recently) My hobbies were all solitary things which I really don't feel like doing..
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