costablanca Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 hi im new here. been lurking for a while but felt i had to post after last nite. 9 weeks ago he dumped me. threw me out of our home after 7 years. sent me packin from spain to the uk with only a bag of clothes said he didnt love me anymore. i called him a few times after. he didnt called me once. not once. i started no contact 5 weeks ago. ive had about 5 calls where the other person has hung up. (we do not have the callers number to return the call). last night i got home to a message. he wants to talk to me, hear my voice and to know how i am. IVE BEEN DEVASTATED AND HURT!! THATS HOW IVE F***ING BEEN!! i dont know what to do. i mean should i do anything? im angry, sad, confused, hopeful all at the same time. what does he want after all this time? is he having second thoughts? is he just lonely? or is he looking for a way to ease his guilt? come on guys, any advice welcome/opinions truly welcome. tracy xx.
jw32802 Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 Ok do not call him back. If you do, he will be like "geez, this girls been hanging on". Make him feel that pain in the pitt of his stomach. If you dont call , he will be like "hmmmm, is she with someone new?" Dont do it. Id do this...... Dont call him back at all If you happen to be home when he calls again, answer it, then its not like he knows you have caller id, so its just that you were answering your phone! Be happy on the phone. even be like "whose this?" or even make up a name, be like "Joe?" then he'll be like "uh no its ______" Dont bring up anything in the past Dont talk too long and YOU HANG UP FIRST. Tell him you are in a rush but you can talk for a minute or so Make sure you hang up at the PEAK OF YOUR CONVERSATION, like when you guys are laughing or something; or when you are being cute if he asks where you are going just say "Oh out to dinner" (he will think u have a date). if he says with who just say "just a friend... but hang up first! and again, dont call back, just wait till he calls again and answer ifyou're there.
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 9 weeks ago he dumped me. threw me out of our home after 7 years. sent me packin from spain to the uk with only a bag of clothes said he didnt love me anymore. You have got to be kidding me. You're going to consider calling him back? Why does he care how you've been? He didn't care when he kicked you out of your house with a bag of clothes. Please tell me you're not going to open the door to him. Come on! Don't play any phone games or try and be coy. Why? Would you take him back? After that? If he had just ended the relationship because he didn't love you and then called I would say it wouldn't be a big problem to call him back. BUT he kicked you out! He had no consideration whatsoever of your basic needs as a human being. That is pure hatred in my opinion and why would you want that back in your life?
meanttolive4ever Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 well its been about a month since i last talked to my ex...i told him to call me but he says hes been busy...yea right. i give up. Ive been using the NC and its not working at all. OMG. why does this always happen to me
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