Necromancer Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 That you can clearly see that she likes you. For me maybe 1-3 (max) times a year, but often they are way below my league. How about you guys?
carhill Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Taking MW's out of the equation...hmmm.... That said, I'm not out there obviously 'hitting on' women either right now, but my 'hmm' was historical, crossing 30+ years of adult life. If I can think of one, I'll share the anecdote. It's tough, because when I pull one up, I process it a bit and then, 'crap, she was married too!' 1
ThaWholigan Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 That you can clearly see that she likes you. For me maybe 1-3 (max) times a year, but often they are way below my league. How about you guys? If I am out and about consistently, probably once every month or 2. I remember a few years back in Uni, going through a time of being hit on constantly for a whole month without even realizing it, until my friends started to point it out to me. By then, my hot streak had already worn down . I don't often blame Autism for stuff, but in this case it was my bane.
WonderKid Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Probably about once or twice every 3 months. Its not common. But I do get some nice streaks in if I go out all dolled up and stuff to a specific place. But I can admit I'll be oblivious sometimes until they lay it on pretty thick. I do get hit on a lot by mature women though like in their mid 30s to 40s. A few months back I had a 44 yr old woman in my complex say she'll eat me up for breakfast. *shivers*
DjinnAgain Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I always wonder if guys are just oblivious and that's why they think women never make a move. I thought I was falling all over my boyfriend in a most distasteful way and he told me later he didn't realize I liked him until I kissed him back when he went for it. I was stunned. I did everything short of jumping him or saying, "Will you go out with me, check yes or no"
WonderKid Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I'm good at recognizing signs but if I'm into my own thing at that moment my mind is like, gone. LoL I do know that it's my fault though and I blame myself. Like, I can't believe you didn't see that you're a dumbass dude. Lol
Author Necromancer Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 I always wonder if guys are just oblivious and that's why they think women never make a move. I thought I was falling all over my boyfriend in a most distasteful way and he told me later he didn't realize I liked him until I kissed him back when he went for it. I was stunned. I did everything short of jumping him or saying, "Will you go out with me, check yes or no" Most of the time i know 90% what is going on. But there was this girl i was hanging around a lot with at school. One day my male friend told me " Dude you know she has crush on you right? " i was like really? and even my other friend told me " Everybody saw that she was into you ". Basically i rejected her few times, after that it was just downhill, to bad i can´t go back....
somedude81 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I'd say I've been hit on about zero times in the past five years. Of course there were times when I thought a girl was hitting on me, but nope, she was just being friendly
Sweetheartt Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 That you can clearly see that she likes you. For me maybe 1-3 (max) times a year, but often they are way below my league. How about you guys? I never hit on any guys lol. Idk why should I? They always hitting on me.
monkey00 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Most of the time i know 90% what is going on. But there was this girl i was hanging around a lot with at school. One day my male friend told me " Dude you know she has crush on you right? " i was like really? and even my other friend told me " Everybody saw that she was into you ". Basically i rejected her few times, after that it was just downhill, to bad i can´t go back.... It happens. Lost opportunities, happens to the best of us. I find that if girls are too bold and flirtatious with a guy off the bat, it kind of sets off alarms for me. I believe that girls who are really into guys tend to be more nervous/quiet around them, and more careful with what they say. Last weekend I was at a movie screening with friends and there was a girl who sat next to me who made conversation and started flirting with me, making conversation, and touching my arm. Well after the event I asked her if she'd like to go for a drink sometime and got her number. I should have known better because she seemed apprehensive about giving it to me. Needless to say I contacted her the next day and she wasn't interested.
Shaun-Dro Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I always wonder if guys are just oblivious and that's why they think women never make a move. I thought I was falling all over my boyfriend in a most distasteful way and he told me later he didn't realize I liked him until I kissed him back when he went for it. I was stunned. I did everything short of jumping him or saying, "Will you go out with me, check yes or no" He didn't realize it because you women are way too subtle. Since you do everything else men do, why not include stating the obvious on the spot?
somedude81 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I find that if girls are too bold and flirtatious with a guy off the bat, it kind of sets off alarms for me. I believe that girls who are really into guys tend to be more nervous/quiet around them, and more careful with what they say. Last weekend I was at a movie screening with friends and there was a girl who sat next to me who made conversation and started flirting with me, making conversation, and touching my arm. Well after the event I asked her if she'd like to go for a drink sometime and got her number. I should have known better because she seemed apprehensive about giving it to me. Needless to say I contacted her the next day and she wasn't interested. Same thing has happened to me. In my experience, the women who were the most flirty, enough to actually make me realize that this girl is flirting with me, ended up having boyfriends. When I called a couple of them on it, they just said that's how they are
monkey00 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Same thing has happened to me. In my experience, the women who were the most flirty, enough to actually make me realize that this girl is flirting with me, ended up having boyfriends. When I called a couple of them on it, they just said that's how they are Yeah, I honestly hate that crap. They've got nothing to lose, so that's where their confidence comes from...plus their ego needs that boosting that other men still find them desirable. I don't know I find it kind of sad they have to resort to this to boost their self-esteem. 1
2.50 a gallon Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 In my younger days, about once a month Disco days, once a week Mid 30's through 50 half a dozen times a year After 50 hooked up with my current GF and been with her since, so I am not out and about but still get hit on a couple of times a year And funny you should ask as last night standing in the long line at the grocery store, I began talking to 2 ladies age 25 who ended up inviting me over to their place to party. As for my Ex, she wasn't subtle, half an hour after meeting me, she removed her top and asked if I'd like to spend the rest of the day with her.
USMCHokie Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I always wonder if guys are just oblivious and that's why they think women never make a move. I wouldn't have a f*cking clue a woman was hitting on me....unless she was actually hitting me... 1
MaxNoob Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I wouldn't have a f*cking clue a woman was hitting on me....unless she was actually hitting me... There was a girl who was crazy about me for 2 years and I had no idea. So I read "flirting for dummies" and now I feel like a total expert on this. If she's treating you differently than others and giving off a few signs of interest, then she's hitting on you. Here's a textbook example: Notice all her signs in just the first 20 seconds: Smiling, more eye contact than usual, playing with her hair, leaning in closer, touching, suggestive language, indirectly making a compliment.
USMCHokie Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 There was a girl who was crazy about me for 2 years and I had no idea. So I read "flirting for dummies" and now I feel like a total expert on this. If she's treating you differently than others and giving off a few signs of interest, then she's hitting on you. Eh, I won't see signs simply because I refuse to believe a girl would give them. So I either turn a blind eye or rationalize them as something else. I have issues.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I hit on men, but more often than not I make it pretty damn clear I want them to approach me. Eye contact, smiling, and that is pretty much all it takes. 1
mario_C Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Women in my experience, don't hit on men - they send the signals they want you to hit on them. Women leading men into a dating situation only happens in the movies or TV. Now I've seen the signals - I was dumb and insecure when I was young (I mean, way more so than I am now) so I blew lots of chances. I eventually won a few nights of fun, so no foul. But over the years you try again as a "mature" man to find love and romance and **** like that, and it's still hard. Is she just nervous? Just a friendly person? Just a bored married or otherwise involved woman? (Boy do I get those. )
USMCHokie Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Women in my experience, don't hit on men - they send the signals they want you to hit on them. Oh...I thought this was assumed in the thread...and what was meant when we referred to women "hitting on men"...that is, sending "signals" that they wanted you to make a move...
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 (edited) Oh...I thought this was assumed in the thread...and what was meant when we referred to women "hitting on men"...that is, sending "signals" that they wanted you to make a move... I see it as two separate things. Me hitting on a man is the same thing as a man hitting on a woman: Approaching and hitting on, as in making the first move conversation wise. That's just me though. Example: Me going up and introducing myself to a hot guy, asking if he is single, and giving him my number without him having to even ask. That is hitting on. Which yes, I am more than proud to say I have done such things. What is the worse that can happen? He doesn't call. Oh well, on to the next one! Edited July 11, 2012 by miss_jaclynrae 2
USMCHokie Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I see it as two separate things. Me hitting on a man is the same thing as a man hitting on a woman: Approaching and hitting on, as in making the first move conversation wise. Oh, ok. I've been approached and hit on once in my life. I was standing outside a bar with my roommate, and out of nowhere, a girl walked up to me, grabbed my arm, and asked if I work out. We dated for a little while.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Oh, ok. I've been approached and hit on once in my life. I was standing outside a bar with my roommate, and out of nowhere, a girl walked up to me, grabbed my arm, and asked if I work out. We dated for a little while. LOL. She must have been a charmer!
USMCHokie Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 LOL. She must have been a charmer! Yes, she was...
brahmabull117 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I see it as two separate things. Me hitting on a man is the same thing as a man hitting on a woman: Approaching and hitting on, as in making the first move conversation wise. That's just me though. Example: Me going up and introducing myself to a hot guy, asking if he is single, and giving him my number without him having to even ask. That is hitting on. Which yes, I am more than proud to say I have done such things. What is the worse that can happen? He doesn't call. Oh well, on to the next one! Hey I just wanted to say I was totally wrong about you. Any girl who has the balls to hit on guys like that is a champ in my book Please come to Chicago and hit on me, I wil treat you like a queen 1
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