my ex just came into the picture.

[troubleshooter]

I was once introduced to this girl by a friend of mine through instant chat. I added her as a contact and we started chatting away. At the time I was in a relationship that was kind of falling apart because my girlfriend at the time wanted to study medicine the following year in a different city, which was going make it difficult for us to survive according to me, while she felt we'd survive. This new girl I had started chatting to was also from a diff city but we connected and we would chat all day and all night. I soon broke things off with the girl I was with and had developed an interest in this new girl that I only knew through chats and pictures, we had decided to make it official, us being an item even though we hadn't met each other but the plan was that either one of us would move as we were both going to college the following year so that we could actually be together. That didn't happen unfortunately but we did not break up. We eventually got to meet when she and her friends visited my city. It was amazing, I can still even remember it like it was yesterday even though it was 5 years ago. I had real strong feelings for this girl, and I thot she did for me too. after two years of dating she broke things off with me, she had been complaining a lot about long distance dating and that it was getting to her and that we need to do something about it. She then broke things off with me because she was getting married to this other guy, I was hurt I told myself I just need to forget about her for good and move on. I did move on and dated a few girls before finding my current gf who I have been dating now for three years everything has been great and we are happy together. But now a year ago my ex came back into the picture when we started emailing each other quite often and it felt great knowing how she was doing after all this time. She also told me that her marriage didn't work out. She then told me that she was coming to my city to visit for a weekend. My current gf was aware of my past relationship so when she(ex) visited I decided to meet up with her without my current gf knowing. When we met at the hotel she was staying at we had a couple of drinks and started catching up, it was Great and we connected. I ended up staying the night unintentionally and later one thing led to another and we had an intimate night we had never had while dating. I felt bad for cheating on my girl and at the same time I still wanted to see my ex. I saw her again for the rest of the weekend and we shared a lot, and also got to talk about our break up, she told me about how stupid she feels her decision was when she broke up with me for that other guy she married. I obviously had a lot of question marks in my head, and I had a chance to erase them with her infront of me, and asked her how long she had been cheating on me before she broke up with me because that made me féel used and asking myself if she had a dude why was she wasting her time with me(the guy from the other city, that she couldn't see whenever she wanted to). When she left we still kept intouch through emails. she then visited three months ago and I was with her the whole weekend and we had a lot of fun together, we are now doing the things that we never did while dating or available for each other. As wrong as it is though it feels great, which makes me think I still feel as strongly inlove as I did for her when we 1st met(atleast that's what I think). I can't seem to stop thinking about here and the amazing times we have now. Her last visit was just recent and yet again we chilled and this time spent more time together and I'm afraid that I'm falling for her again or that the old feelings are coming back the more we spend time. My ex does know about my current gf and that I'm happy with her and sometimes we even talk about her meeting someone and she even tells me when she goes on a date, what's also scary is that I get a bit jealous when she tells me she's going on a date. I can't seem to stop thinking about her at all, this is all unfair to my current gf who is amazing to me and does a lot of things for me and shows me in all kinds of ways that she loves me. My ex once suggested that maybe if I introduce her to my gf as my friend and maybe we all hang out on a double date could help us move on and find direction from this because it also kills her after we've been together to know that I'm going back to my gf because as guilty as she feels she also feels used. Help what to do?

[Chi townD]

Okay, number one. Paragraphs! That was difficult as hell to read. Number two, let your current girlfriend go. And I'll be blunt, she deserves better than you. You are cheating on her and she deserves a guy that will dedicate himself to her and to her alone.

 

Personally, I don't get your relationship with this other girl. Aside from a couple of hook ups, the only way yiou communicate is threw the computer or the phone. That's not a relationship, that's a pen pal.

[troubleshooter]

Sorry about the paragraphs. Thanks for the advice®