Loss Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 If you're not really physically attracted to a person, would you go out with them just to have experience dating? I am having a first date with someone this weekend, but I only asked her out because I knew she'd say yes. I feel like she's looking for a long-term relationship, while I would be interested in something short term to have more experience dating. Is it wrong what I'm doing?
ThaWholigan Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 It is kinda wrong. Better off figuring out how to attract someone you're actually attracted to and then get experience.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Going out with someone you don't know that well and aren't knocked out by physically for some night life is cool. It doesn't imply much. Of course if you mean you dislike her appearance I don't see why you'd want to play around that way at all. Sometimes you can be wrong about about your take on someone though--the smile gets to you or something happens and you go duh, yeah. I personally would draw a line at giving someone I know I'm not interested in who may like me the wrong idea. That would be selfish and senseless.
runner Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 i have a few times when i was younger. mind you it's not that i was totally repulsed or anything, perhaps just a bit on the 'meh' side of things. predictably it didn't work out in the long-run, but i don't regret the experiences and the chance to learn some things about myself. i see a lot of guys on this board (particularly the ones that have never had a gf) that could benefit from opening their minds a bit and not be so focused on physical features. but to clarify, my attraction for these girls honestly did grow and we had a great time for as long as it lasted; it just didn't happen immediately. these days, i'm much more certain about what i want. and i'm not sure that i would have got here in the first place without those earlier experiences.
somedude81 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Eh, I'd do it. It's the same thing as people working in fast food. Just get the experience. Though to be on the safe side, don't lie to her and tell her that it will lead to something more if you don't feel that way.
Affliction Shirt Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 What type of experience are you going to get from this? You'll probably just freeze up and go crazy once you date someone you actually want to **** you're wasting your time kid. Go get some real experience.
yongyong Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Geez, she is not asking you 'hey this contract says we both want LTR, sign here' just have fun ride till you want to get out.
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