Scotty Riggs Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I have a date planned for this weekend with a very interesting, eccentric girl I met online. We're going to a restaurant with live music. I'm just a little uncertain about the approach because in her profile she has that she's looking for local, single men within her age range for "new friends." Maybe I should just judge by my senses and our communication, but ideally I want to find something that can develop into a relationship. She does mention being too shy to date in the real world and answered a few date and sex-related match questions, putting "3-5 dates" as to how long it might hypothetically take before having sex with someone, and "someone to go out with" as to what she wants in her next relationship. It's possible that some girls just don't like being too obvious about wanting to date or finding a partner. Or maybe she's into casual fling-type dating. I've just never dated a girl that seemed so indirect about what she wants. In a few days I'd like to call her once to confirm the arrangements (it's four days away) and might offer to pick her up. Despite her shyness she's very eager to meet people.
louise_23 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 3-5 dates as how long it might take to sleep with someone? they SERIOUSLY have that type of question in a dating profile? omg i cant believe i have been missing out on this level of romance!!!!!! i need to sign up immediately!! you should ask her if 'new friends' has a number on it. like 7 for all the days of the week, or just one because she has some standards? i dont think you can say she's being indirect before youve actually met her in person.
NYC-BigKat Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I have a date planned for this weekend with a very interesting, eccentric girl I met online. We're going to a restaurant with live music. I'm just a little uncertain about the approach because in her profile she has that she's looking for local, single men within her age range for "new friends." Maybe I should just judge by my senses and our communication, but ideally I want to find something that can develop into a relationship. She does mention being too shy to date in the real world and answered a few date and sex-related match questions, putting "3-5 dates" as to how long it might hypothetically take before having sex with someone, and "someone to go out with" as to what she wants in her next relationship. It's possible that some girls just don't like being too obvious about wanting to date or finding a partner. Or maybe she's into casual fling-type dating. I've just never dated a girl that seemed so indirect about what she wants. In a few days I'd like to call her once to confirm the arrangements (it's four days away) and might offer to pick her up. Despite her shyness she's very eager to meet people. At least u get to meet girls online. I cant ! I had my online profile up for months & I sent out bunches & bunches of emails & only got 2 replies & it was girls saying thanks but no thanks .
Oncehadluv Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 shes using you for social proof and to boost her networking
Author Scotty Riggs Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 3-5 dates as how long it might take to sleep with someone? they SERIOUSLY have that type of question in a dating profile? omg i cant believe i have been missing out on this level of romance!!!!!! i need to sign up immediately!! i dont think you can say she's being indirect before youve actually met her in person.Yeah, well it gives an idea of how fast someone is willing to go I guess. I have 3-5 but I'm not sure how confident I am with that. I dated a girl for two months and she realized 3-5 was too early for her. Turns out she was hung up on her ex and things ended somewhat abruptly. Still makes me feel crappy. At least u get to meet girls online. I cant ! I had my online profile up for months & I sent out bunches & bunches of emails & only got 2 replies & it was girls saying thanks but no thanks .I'm sorry to hear that. I dated four girls in four months but then hit a major drought over these last two months. You might want to seek some advice about your profile, photos, and emails you send out. That could help improve your chances. shes using you for social proof and to boost her networkingA bit early to make that call, don't ya think? Like Louise said, it's too early to really know what her exact dating motives are.
Oncehadluv Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 when shes out and about with you she will have her eyes peeled for what she really wants, i can bet you anything on that.
Author Scotty Riggs Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 when shes out and about with you she will have her eyes peeled for what she really wants, i can bet you anything on that.Hm. What do you mean exactly? She'll invite me over to her place for a shag or somethin'?
chphan Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I have a date planned for this weekend with a very interesting, eccentric girl I met online. We're going to a restaurant with live music. I'm just a little uncertain about the approach because in her profile she has that she's looking for local, single men within her age range for "new friends." Maybe I should just judge by my senses and our communication, but ideally I want to find something that can develop into a relationship. She does mention being too shy to date in the real world and answered a few date and sex-related match questions, putting "3-5 dates" as to how long it might hypothetically take before having sex with someone, and "someone to go out with" as to what she wants in her next relationship. I believe I remember this question being asked on OKCupid as one of their many random questions they sent out each day. If that's the case than don't take any of the answers to all of these OKCupid questions as a way to gauge anything. Most people just try and pick an answer that will seem to make them look normal or make then look good as oppose to actually answering the question honestly. You are looking too deep into things if you are actually reading what these answers are to those OKCupid questions. If she says she's just looking for new friends than my best answer is to treat her as a new friend and go from there. No need to put pressure on yourself already when you haven't even met the person. You haven't met her yet and you already thinking about the possibility with sex with her. Stay focus on just the first meeting first. 1
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