sweetadeline Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 Hi all, I have a quick, very high-school-sounding question. So, a friend of mine invited all of her friends to meet her at a local bar last Friday night. I wound up chatting quite a bit with one of her male friends and we seemed to hit it off. At the end of the night, he asked me for my e-mail address and phone number and gave me a hug--then gave me another hug--before we parted company. Sounds good, right? But I haven't heard from him since, though I know that it hasn't exactly been a long time. . . . My question: I am planning to e-mail my friend to thank her for inviting me along to the shindig. Should I mention (oh-so-casually) something about how much I enjoyed chatting with her friend, as a way to sound her out about his relationship status, whether or not he mentioned me to her after the party, etc.? Or should I just let that temptation go and assume that if the guy is really interested (and wasn't just engaging in drunken flirtation) that he will, in fact, get in touch? Thanks for your feedback.
Ms_Sweetness Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 There's no harm in asking your friend about him. You can casually mention that the two of you had a convo. then ask her a few general questions about him to see what she says.
CurlyIam Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 I'd keep tell her I liked the guy and I'd ask for details about the guy, if she knows him. There are 2 things: 1. how well do you get along with this girl? 2.does she know him well - are they friends, close friendsor are they simply partying together. If she's a nice person and you get along fine with her, you can ask her to go out with her when the man you're interested in is in the same group. You'll see how he behaves, if he's still interested, etc. If a guy doesn't call, I say just be casual about it. I'm not into calling guys, not even those I really really like. Call me old fashioned !
Author sweetadeline Posted July 7, 2004 Author Posted July 7, 2004 Hey Curly, Always good to see you on the boards--your advice last time helped me stay strong and not respond to my ex's message. Moving on is the best revenge. . . . As for your questions, no, I don't know this woman very well. We met in a class last December and have only hung out once since. She went to school with the guy in question and has known him for a while--but I don't know exactly how long or how well. To clarify/add to my earlier post, this woman has already said that she's going to invite us all to join her again (at a different bar) next month, so I might have the chance to see the guy again there. Also, there was some talk the other night of going to see the guy's band play later this month. So I don' t necessarily have to ask my friend questions about her friend: I can simply wait until the next get-together and see if he's interested then. Or I can take the more active route you and Ms_Sweetness suggested. I'm having trouble deciding which approach to take b/c I don't want to look foolish in case the guy really isn't interested--but I don't want to miss a chance if he is. Now that you know a bit more, do you have additional thoughts? Thanks!
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