rainbows12 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Im just so lost and didnt know where else to turn. ill try to make a long story short. My boyfriend and I were together for almost 4 years, we lived together for 3 years. He is originally from a different state than I am, about 9 hours away. He moved here to be with me back in 2008. We had an amazing 3 years and then he started to miss things from where he was from, family, friends etc......After he finished school here he would always mention things about "home" and how he missed it there. Eventually he started to get very depressed and withdrawn from me i guess you can say. He ended up moving back almost 2 years ago. Since that time i had blocked my phone number and TRIED desperately to move on, although it just didnt work. I couldnt get my mind off of him and he couldnt get through to my phone so he would txt my mom asking her how i was etc......he would always tell her how he missed me so much and was always thinking about me and my family here and that he feels torn. Hes always said leaving wasnt about me or anything i did wrong he just knew he was fully "here" with how he was feeling and iddnt feel it was right to me for him to stay without being 100% here mentally and physically. I cant leave where im from due to family reasons which i tol dhim that the very first time i had ever talked to him...so he knew that wasnt an option. So weve went NC on and off but recently he came back to see me and spend the weekend with me which was amazing. We both avoided talking about whether or not he was going to move back here because if we avoided it, it didnt complicate things.....but eventually it came up and he recently said he needed time to "find himself" and see if he can be back here and be fully happy. He said hes knows there's noone else for him and he tried to leave here once and move on with life n it just didnt work. that he loves me and hes one of those people that feel real love only comes around once in a lifetime (which is the verysame view ive always had) I guess my question is how long should i give him..its been a little over a week already..ive already waited for so long, but i cant give up if i know there still might be a chance. He is such a loving guy and my world would be lost without him. Hes texted telling me hes doing alot of thinking and really trying to come to a conclusion. Any help would be appreciated...thank you....Lindsey
Iwantyouback31211 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Id say until your heart lets you move on..
Acrobaticdealer Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Is there NO chance of you moving to be with him? Even in the future at some point?
Author rainbows12 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 Cant leave here which i made so very clear to him before he even knee my last name. Our very first conversation i told him that he needed to know i cant leave here n he said he was ok w.it and accepted it fully. He said its not about not liking it here but he just didnt feel fully 'here' n it wasnt fair to me. Hes now taking to time to 'find himself' and c if he can b back here and fully put his all into making this work. He said hes not happy where hes @ now either because im not there. I told him i want whats best for him n to come to the decision he can live with. I havent heard from him since friday :-(
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