Mariana345 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I'm starting the 6th week after the BU, and I'm so much better! I can eat a little, I don't cry easily and I even laugh more often I still have thoughts about him, and what went wrong, and if he will come back, or if I really want him back (not so sure anymore) but I'm forcing myself to not think about that, I'm trying to focus in my future and the things that I want to do with my life... At least I can, more or less, control that thoughts. Buuuuut!!!! I still have nightmares!! Every night I keep waking up because I had dream about him, breaking up with, or going out with someone else, or just making fun of me! Last night was about me going to his house to "give something" as a excuse to see him, but he was like "don't give a d*mn about you" and theeeen!!! One of his friends who I really dislike was giving some "advice" and I just got soooo angry!!! I don't know what to do anymore!! Every night is the same! Even when I don't dream about him, I still wake up so scared remembering he is not with me anymore, that he may be with some other girl, that he even cheated! And I'm so tired, because I can't go back to sleep that easy, and when I do is time to wake up anyway. Some advice, please?
Philosoraptor Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I think you need to change your routine before bed. I'd try to knock myself out before I hit the pillow so that there wasn't a ton of thinking time to put things into your head before you fell asleep. You need to find a way to change your pattern to hopefully change things. Maybe do something really mentally stimulating before you try and sleep to drain your brain? Problem solving or something of the sort might put a bit more of that into your dreams rather than the nightmares. 1
StarlaStardust Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I had dreams like this, so I went to a dream dictionary. It essentially means you're not moving on when you need to be. If you believe in dream meanings, this is your "gut" trying to tell you it's okay to let it go. If you don't believe in dream meanings, this is an indication your brain is just stuck there. But I know that's a Captain Obvious thing to say!!
Author Mariana345 Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 Hahahahaa Starla, I know!!! Clearly I'm not over! But I'm trying and even when I go to sleep thinking straight when I dream all get messed up. Philosoraptor, I'll try that, to go to sleep mind tired and thinking about something else... I really need some rest :/
StarlaStardust Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 It also just takes time. Now I am having dreams about OTHER exes, and they were loooong before this latest one. My brain has some processing to do. I am actually looking at it as a blessing. I don't want that crap haunting my subconscious for the rest of my life. Let the demons wear themselves out;)
Coffee20 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I have sometimes dreams about my ex too, but now more about his family, dreams are scary and his family blame it all on me, or sometimes I have dreams about me, pleading and crying in front of him to take me back - these are worst. What really helps me it's when I am physically really tired, after exercising or doing something else that brings me a joy then I usually don't think about my ex that much and then I usually don't dream about him.
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